It’s so “terrible” that it makes people dumbfounded.
Just last weekend, when I took my son, who was under three years old, back to the countryside for a trip, he did something that still haunts me.
As soon as he arrived at his hometown in the countryside, he was particularly interested in the sand and stones in front of the door, so he kept squatting and repeatedly grabbing the sand and stones to another position. In line with the mentality of letting the child play as he pleases as long as he likes it, we can safely let him play alone while the adults choose dishes on the other side.
More than ten minutes passed. Unexpectedly, I saw that the child was still playing, and he did not come to see the adults. We continue to be busy and enjoy our “quiet time” without the distractions of our children.
Half an hour passed, and I went to the lobby to get something. Suddenly I found that there were products on the floor of the lobby, on the sofa, on the desktop, on the coffee table, and even in the circular space between the speakers and the remote control. A pile of sand and gravel. I couldn't laugh or cry, and just when I was instinctively preparing to vent my anger, Youyou came in with both hands full of sand and gravel, and smiled happily at me: "Mom, Youyou has many, many more."
I calmed down my anger, He turned around and handed the handle and garbage shovel to his son, warning him not to bring sand and gravel into the house and asking him to sweep up the sand and gravel. Finally, my son helped mop the floor, and together we finally restored the hall to cleanliness.
The moment he finished, his son squatted on the ground, sighing that he was so tired. Suddenly, I realized I had done something wrong.
1. I let my son play freely, but I did not provide timely supervision and guidance during the process, which caused the child to take a detour (making the sand and gravel dirty in the hall).
3. When problems arise, I should first see the child's progress, and then guide the child to recognize and correct the mistakes in a timely manner. At least let the children enjoy playing with gravel and have a perfect ending, instead of ending up "so tired".
As long as you carefully experience and examine it, in fact, behind every "terrible" and naughty behavior of a child, there is a reason that adults ignore. As long as it is handled properly, it will be an extremely precious time for the child. growing up.
Do you think children are "scary"? Tell me what you think?
Terrible.
It’s really scary to talk about today’s children. Let me first talk about how difficult it is to give birth to a child: How much unbearable pain does a mother have to endure from the time she is pregnant for ten months to the time she gives birth? Starting from the time of pregnancy, registration, pregnancy check-up, and discomfort during pregnancy made the pregnant woman miserable. She went to the hospital every three days and had her blood drawn every two days... She finally gave birth, and the mother was tortured to death. Today's hospitals frequently perform caesarean sections and major surgeries. Mothers who have finally escaped from hell have to work tirelessly day and night to breastfeed, bathe, change clothes and diapers. One day they have eczema, tomorrow they have jaundice, the day after tomorrow they have a fever, and they have to be vaccinated regularly. vaccine.
After all the hard work, I sent my child to kindergarten. I was afraid that he would be cold, afraid that he would be hot, afraid that he would not have enough to eat, and afraid that he would be bullied. I would learn piano today, practice calligraphy tomorrow, and even talk to him. Children fight; when they are older, they go to school, drop off early and pick up late, rain or shine, year after year, attend cram schools, specialty classes; compete with classmates on dressing and wearing hats, use brand-name school tools. Fight. Puppy love...
ok. Here comes the problem. Faced with everything, parents save money to send their children to school and meet all their children's requirements. In the end, you can’t talk, scold or hit. I have seen several videos. A boy and his mother went shopping in the supermarket. The boy was playing a game. The mother blocked the son's view of the game because he took the change from the cashier. The mother was attacked in public. The son was beaten violently.
A child raised his legs and jumped off the balcony just because of a few nagging words from his mother;
It is said that they hope that their children will become dragons and that their daughters will become phoenixes. There is also a saying that a loving mother often loses her children. . Faced with such a group of children who don't know how to respect their parents and teachers and don't abide by the social and moral order, they have to worry about the consequences. Who dares to care? How to manage?
Parents work hard and fearfully to raise their children. They also have to face the challenges of entering a higher school, finding a job, getting married, having children, and raising grandchildren... When their children are young, they are afraid that they will not be able to feed them, and when they grow up, they are afraid that their children will not learn well. , the job is not good, the marriage is unhappy, and when you get old, you are afraid that your children will not support you until you die. It can be said that you have been afraid of your children your whole life. Do you think today’s “children” are scary? Children who dare not give the moon to their parents when they ask for stars are really "poor parents in the world".
Children are "scary", which stage does this depend on? It depends on how you look at this issue!
In terms of life: Children are more "scary". The scary thing is that they will never change their thoughts and can always find some problems and catch you off guard. For example: during infancy, no matter how carefully you take care of your baby, you will still get minor illnesses. In kindergarten, he would give you a hundred thousand whys? In elementary school, the teacher would tell you about his various little problems, making you dumbfounded. "Puppy love" breaks into your lives in middle school. The three years of high school are stressful, and adolescent rebellion becomes more serious. These are all problems that should be experienced in life. Parents need to develop the ability to "dispose of tricks at first sight" to deal with various situations from childhood to adulthood!
Spiritual aspect: People say: Pain and happiness coexist? That's what it's like when you have kids. From the time of infancy, you will enjoy unparalleled happiness with his cute little face and babble. In kindergarten, the little one grows taller and taller, learns to sing, dance, tell stories, and even imitates adults to teach others and reason with you. You will cherish and care for your ignorant little appearance even more. Every parent will remember the image of a primary school student wearing a school uniform and carrying a schoolbag for the first time. The "little devil" who gradually becomes the school is full of situations, and you also have a mixture of love and hate. In junior high school, although "puppy love" scares you, you will also be very happy when your children have their own opinions. In high school, when you are about to face a child who is about to "fly out", you will sometimes be very anxious, sometimes you will not dare to hug him, and sometimes you will hate him for not studying hard. All kinds of emotions are intertwined, and you will truly understand the difficulties of your fathers.
Therefore, children are "terrible". They possess magical power, which makes you understand the profound meaning of "if you don't raise children, you will not know the kindness of your parents." Children are "terrible", they are individuals of life, let you grow and progress with them and learn how to be a parent at the same time. Children are "terrible", they are like a treasure. When they are born, a mysterious door opens in your life, making your life more meaningful and perfect!
I feel that children are not scary at all. Personally, I like children very much. No matter where I see children playing, I will go and play with them.
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