Subtract goals, learn to give up, and less in life is more.

Everyone likes to have a sense of purpose in life, so they set many goals for it and feel that life is full.

But here, on the contrary, it is to subtract the target.

In fact, too many goals may not be a good thing, and may make you lost and submerged in various goals.

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The problem is that there are too many goals.

I like telling stories and saying:

A farmer got up early in the morning and told his wife that he was going to plow the field. When he went to the field, he found that the cultivator was out of oil. He was going to refuel at once, but suddenly he thought that the three pigs at home had not been fed, so he turned and went home. When he passed the warehouse, he saw some potatoes beside him. He remembered that potatoes might be sprouting, so he went to the potato seedling field again. Passing a pile of wood on the road, I remembered that I needed some firewood when I started my business. Just as I was going to collect firewood, I saw a sick chicken lying on the ground ... so I ran back and forth several times. The farmer didn't refuel, feed the pigs or plow the fields from morning till night, and did nothing well.

Obviously, the problem of farmers is that there are too many goals and none of them have been completed.

Now that chicken soup is flooding, many people are easily moved and then inspired to change themselves and achieve the goals set by others.

Think and grow rich, written by Napoleon Hill, a successful American scientist and writer, said:

The power of the will is infinite unless it is artificially limited. Poverty and wealth are both products of thought.

Perseverance is a state of mind that can be cultivated. Perseverance is embodied in: having a clear purpose and a strong desire to pursue;

To this end, many people are excited and think that as long as they have goals, plus willpower and persistence, they will be able to achieve their goals in life.

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Struggling youth

Xiao Zhang is a man full of fighting spirit and lofty ideals. He has always wanted to change himself, realize his ambition in life and make life wonderful. So he set himself a life goal: learn English well, go abroad for further study, get an MBA, become a professional manager, start a business as a boss, be a training expert and be a master of calligraphy.

He believes that these goals are interrelated.

After doing it, he began to put it into action and was very busy to achieve these goals.

When others have a holiday, he is reading English books, memorizing words and grammar, improving his English performance, passing the exam and preparing for further study abroad in the future.

While others are having fun, he is knowledgeable in business administration and wants to get an MBA certificate as soon as possible to improve his competitiveness.

On weekends, my friend goes to KTV party, and he also goes to the library to learn economics and business management knowledge, extract the essence and increase business knowledge, in order to be an excellent CEO.

He will continue to learn the current market environment, entrepreneurial ability, explore opportunities, so as to find business opportunities and start a business.

I am also doing training knowledge and practicing calligraphy. I think I may use it in the future.

At that time, he was full of ambition and thought that success was just around the corner.

However, time flies, five years have passed quietly, and he has achieved nothing, and none of the goals he set at the beginning have been realized. Five years have been so busy, but success is far away. At this time, he felt full of doubts. ...

What's wrong with me?

Speaking of which, isn't it ironic?

Most people have had similar experiences and empathized with them, but their goals are different, big and small.

Think back, how many goals you promised at the beginning have been achieved.

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It is uncomfortable not to achieve the goal: Zenak effect

Zeegnik memory effect is a kind of memory effect, which means that people are more impressed by unprocessed things than processed things.

German psychologist Ze Genik did a memory experiment. She asked participants to do 22 simple things, such as writing down their favorite poems, counting backwards from 55 to 17, threading needles with beads of the same color, and so on.

It takes a few minutes to finish everything. However, these things are only allowed to be done in half, and the other half will stop before they are finished. The allowed things and the forbidden things appear in a random order.

After the experiment, participants recalled 22 things they had done. The results show that people who didn't finish their work can recall 68%, while those who finished their work can only recall 43%.

In other words, people always remember some unfinished things. This phenomenon is called Zenak effect.

Many people are born with a desire to finish. You can't get rid of what you have to do until you finish it. The Ze-Genik effect leads people to two extremes: one is over-coercion, and things must be done in one go, and they will not let go until they are completed; Either you procrastinate on everything and often give up halfway.

Therefore, once something is not finished, people will always think about it and affect other work. This is human nature.

For example, if you can't do a difficult problem at school, it's hard to skip it and do the following questions; I didn't solve a problem at work and didn't have the heart to eat, which seriously affected other things. The final result may be that you didn't get the graded questions, but the work that could have been completed was not completed (and you haven't eaten yet).

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Should Kobe trim the flowers and plants for himself?

Kobe Bryant, a famous NBA basketball star, spent $3 million on an advertisement, but the flowers and plants in his home should be trimmed today Monday. He can hire a gardener to trim them for half a day for only $50, but he can't enjoy the good time at home.

Do you think Kobe should choose the former to advertise, or the latter to trim his garden and have a good time?

The answer is not important, because everyone has his own answer in his heart.

The most important thing is that you can only choose one of them You can only choose one goal, weigh the pros and cons, make a choice that suits you best.

There is a word in economics to describe it: opportunity cost. That is, what you have to give up in order to get something.

For example, if it is a rare weekend, do you go out to play with friends or study at home? If you go out to play, you can relax, but you can't study; Studying at home can improve yourself, but you can't play.

And if you just play the devil's advocate and want to learn and play, the result may disappoint you, and you may not be able to play well or learn well.

Because people's energy time is limited.

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Steve Jobs' Product Outlook and Zhang Xiaolong, the Father of WeChat

As we all know, Jobs is a legend and a great product manager.

Back in 1997, Apple was on the verge of bankruptcy, and there were many products, but none of them could be sold. Jobs immediately carried out drastic reforms, cut off dozens of products, stopped unreasonable research and development and production, and began to develop new products iMac and OS X operating system.

His unique ideas in ideas, development ideas and details pursue simplicity and integrate innovative ideas into products.

The iMac was listed on 1997, and the innovative transparent design of the shell color made the products sell well, which also helped Apple survive the financial crisis.

"Concentration and simplicity have always been one of my secrets. Simplicity may be more difficult than complexity: you must try to clear your mind and make it simple. But it's worth it in the end, because once you do it, you can work miracles. "

Steve jobs

Similarly, Zhang Xiaolong, the father of WeChat, insisted on the principle of simplicity. Don't set too many functions, users will only remember one, two and three. The biggest impact is that the WeChat startup interface is still a person and the earth.

"Minimalist audit concept, ultimate product pursuit, unyielding persistence, and sentimental humanistic spirit" make WeChat easy to use, well known to women and children, and become a national APP.

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Young people should learn to give up.

The British have a tradition of hunting, and they have a proverb:

If you chase two rabbits, you will be caught red-handed. If you chase two hares at the same time, you can't catch either. )

The meaning is self-evident.

In life, you may spend a lot of energy and time on several well-designed goals, but you get little. In the end, you will find that you have set too many goals, and you can't systematically break down each goal and make detailed plans, so you are distracted and can't achieve any of them.

A famous American psychologist believes that modern people live very tired because they are easily depressed, anxious and even unhappy, because they are lost in and submerged in various goals.

There are no dreams that are too big to be fulfilled, and there are no goals that are too small to be set. Only by moving towards a certain goal can there be hope of success. Only when we concentrate on doing one thing well can we achieve our ultimate goal. Too many goals will only make you spend your eyes and accomplish nothing in the end.

A person's energy is limited. It is not a wise choice to concentrate on a few things, but an unrealistic consideration.

Under normal circumstances, these things will not be done well. And if you only concentrate on one thing at a time, you can concentrate and you will certainly gain something. Wait until one thing is done, and then do the next thing, so that everything can be done well.

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How to change it?

[If! Support list]? [endif] (1) Interest and ability

Think carefully about what you really like, what you are good at, and what kind of achievements you want in this life. You should do what you "want" to do, not what you "should" do, then put it into action and think twice before you act.

You have your own preferences, insecurities, advantages and disadvantages, and specialties. Find the intersection of your talents and dreams, that is, the place where your interests and abilities gather.

For example, if you like reading and happen to have the ability to write, you can create.

You like the magical world in the computer, and you happen to be able to program, so you can be a technical bull.

[If! Support list]? [Endif] (2) List the goals and subtract them.

We may not know what we want, but we know what we don't want.

List all your goals, subtract them, and make multiple rounds of screening.

In the first round, which targets are unclear and unrealistic to subtract, leaving 10 targets.

In the second round, which goals are not credible, do not conform to themselves, and do not like what they are not good at, leaving five goals.

The third round, a bit difficult to choose, may be very important, but we still have to screen.

Finally, in order of importance, which goal is the most important and has the most far-reaching influence, it is best to have only 2-3 goals.

Don't always think about doing everything well, learn to weigh the pros and cons, give up, and learn to give up.

[If! Support list]? [Endif] (3) Improve the efficiency of action-McKinsey's four-quadrant work method

Mckinsey's Four Quadrant Work Method

In short, we should prioritize and do the right thing, the right thing and the important thing, not the urgent thing.

See: China people blindly admire diligence, which is making you mediocre.

[If! Support list]? [endif] (4) concentrate on doing one thing.

Generally speaking, it is not good to start several things at the same time. And if you only concentrate on one thing at a time, you can concentrate and you will certainly gain something. Wait until one thing is done, and then do the next thing, so that everything can be done well.

For example, every time you learn English, you should first concentrate; Every time I write, I have no distractions, so I concentrate on my writing.

Don't let our thoughts turn to other things, other needs or other ideas, concentrate on doing one thing you want to do most, and put other things aside. Do less and do more, and you will get more.

[If! Support list]? [Endif] (5) Form habits and reduce decision-making.

In this world full of distractions and temptations, we are faced with too many choices. But everyone's energy is limited.

You should form a habit and minimize the chances of choice. For example, when shopping online, choose the business that sells the most, and don't spend a lot of time and energy choosing clothes.

Facebook founder Zuckerberg has only a few T-shirts in his closet. He said that this can reduce his decision-making, avoid headaches and save time and energy.

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Too many goals is not necessarily a good thing, but it will confuse your mind and make you want to do everything, and you may not be able to do anything. After all, a person's energy and time are limited.

Laozi said in the Tao Te Ching: Avenue to Jane. One life two, two lives three, three lives everything. It's that simple.

Subtract the goal, learn to give up, life is less, giving up is also a kind of wisdom.

Alex's view on reading: people's energy and time are limited. If there are too many goals, they will think about this and that, and finally they can't do anything well. This is a blind fact because people's energy resources are limited. We can set phased goals. For example, after achieving this goal, I will set the goal for the next stage, instead of going up and doing this and that. Subtracting the goal is to concentrate the superior strength to solve the problem. The same is true for the growth of enterprises. Take the professional route first, then take the diversified route. We can't go, we can't take a diversified route, so the goals are too scattered, which leads to each project being neither refined nor strong, and finally we will come to a dead end. Jobs's apple focused on electronic products, not making TVs, refrigerators, etc. That is, concentrate on solving major problems. This is the same as our career planning. A person does two years of education, jumps to home improvement, and then jumps to leather in two years. The final result of this jump is like a fence, wide but not deep. What we have to do is to hone in one industry and in different positions, so our career planning is spiraling up.

This also involves a concise topic. Nowadays, many young people have accumulated a lot of experience to save money, which is worth your reference. For example, buy socks, buy ten pairs of the same size, the same color and the same style. As long as one pair is missing or broken, the others can be made up to make a pair, so it can be worn for a long time. For example, when Wang Shi buys clothes, he will buy several pieces of clothes with the same size, style and color, giving people the impression that he is wearing that dress every day, but his answer is simple, because there is no choice syndrome, because things are becoming more and more abundant now, so the more choices he provides, the more indecisive he will be, and he will want this and that. These choices will consume a person's energy and time, so in order to save time, although this,

In the process of career development, every company will focus on. Before reaching a balance, Huawei's approach is worth learning from every company. He let the vice presidents in charge of various departments take turns to take power, such as vice presidents of marketing, administration, products, etc., and rotate as CEO every three months. Because each vice president is good at different things, so each vice president will take turns at the helm, develop the company in all directions, and finally achieve balanced development. In the past, our school tried to let ordinary employees take turns to be principals, but in the end it could not be implemented because many ordinary employees did not have the sense of principals, did not handle things well, and did not have a clear plan for the development of the school. Therefore, when the company wants to innovate in management, this method is a good way, but it must be managed by the top management of the company in turn, not ordinary employees. Great changes have taken place in teaching and training institutions this year, and the development direction has not yet been determined. In addition, the development of teaching and training institutions is not clear, and it is necessary to try to revitalize the institutions from the perspective of management. Full of positive energy every day, come on!