For children, if they lack patience, they often give up halfway and do things in a hurry, so it is difficult to achieve much. A patient child, doing things from beginning to end, is careful and delicate, and it is easier to achieve his goal. Patience is not possessed by students, but needs to be learned and cultivated. Parents can cultivate their children's patience through the following aspects.
0 1. Parents are not in a hurry. Parents should understand that "words must be done, and actions must be fruitful." Parents are the best teachers for children and live with them every day. Usually, their words and deeds have a great influence on children. It is difficult for impatient parents to raise a patient child. To cultivate children's patience, parents must first demonstrate. The power of example is infinite. Parents are not in a hurry and are in a stable mood. Let children see what kind of behavior is needed under what circumstances, and then they will be patient.
02. Then let go. My neighbor is in a hurry. When he takes his children out to play, he always urges them to get dressed and tidy up quickly. She will be anxious when she sees that the child is in no hurry. She will help the child dress three or two times and then take the child's bag away. One, two, three, she will clean it up. As a result, children become impatient and want to find their mother when they encounter difficulties.
Many parents are "short-tempered" When they saw the child's slow reaction, they did it themselves. This behavior of doing everything for children is not conducive to the growth of children. The children are either in no hurry or don't want to do it well. In any case, children are particularly prone to lose patience when they encounter difficulties. Parents should consciously give their children enough time and space and take their time. When children do it through their own efforts, don't forget to give encouragement and praise in time to make children more and more confident in satisfaction.
03. Don't interrupt the child's attention. When the child is absorbed in something, don't interrupt artificially. For example, if your child is playing with toys, parents should not interrupt your child because of trivial matters such as drinking water and eating fruit. In the choice of games, you can also choose some games that need to be focused and completed slowly. If children find it difficult, parents should not rush to teach or help, but encourage and motivate them to experience the happiness and sense of accomplishment after completion.
04. Help children learn to wait for a psychological experiment called "cotton candy". Children who participate in the experiment alone can get two marshmallows as a reward after 15 minutes if they don't eat a marshmallow in front. Explain the importance of "delayed gratification" ability. Although many psychologists have pointed out the shortcomings in experiments and exaggerated parts in theory, delayed gratification training is still considered as a necessary method to cultivate children's patience. When children can't wait to get something, parents can try to "delay satisfaction".
You can tell your child that he can get it, but you need to wait a while to get the extra reward. Give the child time to experience and compare, let him know what it feels like to wait, and let the child gradually understand that waiting is only a short time. The key to the formation of "delayed satisfaction" is to fully "meet in time" the child's experience is "parents will definitely respond to my needs and parents can trust me".
This stable external environment will make the child more willing to wait because he can predict what will happen after waiting. Of course, parents should not delay for "delay". They need to let their children know the meaning of waiting during training. For example, in children's minds, whether adults are sure to be happier or eat marshmallows, and whether "unequal" will attract parents' scolding, all these are related to the meaning of children. In any case, cultivating children's patience is a long-term process.
In order to make children more patient, parents should first adjust themselves, carefully observe their growth, patiently guide, give encouragement and appreciation, and strive to create a good environment for their children.