In the dream, it was clear that there was a lot of laughter, but when I woke up, I was in pain and lying on an empty bed.
How do you like to keep your eyes open for fear of going out to sleep late at night?
You are now relieved, leaving me to drag my feet.
Whether there is a soul or not, this heart will live up to the twin stars.
This is a poem in memory of his wife. From the poem, we can see that the poet has a deep relationship with his wife and expresses his love for his wife vividly.
You will definitely think that this must be a romantic love story. Wrong, their marriage was the order of their parents and the appointment of a matchmaker. In the words of the poet: "They get married first, then fall in love." Such a marriage will produce such deep feelings for the wife. This person is - Qi Gong.
Mr. Qi Gong, a native of Beijing and Manchu. He is a classical philologist, calligrapher and painter, cultural relics appraiser, poet, and educator. He is a professor at Fu Jen Catholic University and Beijing Normal University. He has served as director of the Central Research Institute of Literature and History, chairman of the National Cultural Relics Appraisal Committee, and chairman of the Chinese Calligraphers Association.
Mr. Qi lost his father when he was young and was raised by his mother and aunt. "Fearless and Worryless" writes about Mr.'s extraordinary life from four parts: childhood, youth, middle age, and old age.
Everyone’s life is different. Although Mr. Qi’s life is not spectacular, it is still exciting. Today, we will appreciate Mr. Qi’s extraordinary life from the following three aspects.
01 A good marriage requires mutual trust, understanding, and support
Romain Rolland said: "Marriage is a combination of two hearts that are close to each other, tolerate each other, and give in to each other." However, in real life In China, there are too many marriages that cause quarrels and divorces because of trivial matters. Not everyone knows how to tolerate and give in. Maybe you will say: "Sometimes it can't be solved by understanding tolerance and concession. But if you don't understand tolerance and concession, a family will never be harmonious.
Home is a place for love, not reason.
Qian Zhongshu and Mr. Yang Jiang have been together for more than 50 years because of Mr. Yang Jiang’s tolerance, tolerance, and understanding.
Although Mr. Qi’s marriage is not as good as Yang Jiang’s. They are romantic, but can also be said to be warm. Mr. Qi's wife is gentle, filial, and everything is centered on her elders and husband.
Especially towards Mr. Qi's mother and aunt, she is very filial. When Mr. Qi had to participate in some social activities, the heavy responsibility of taking care of his sick mother and aunt fell on his wife. She had to work hard and carry out feces and urine for many years. Mr. Qi looked at his wife's increasingly thin body and felt heartbroken. To the extreme, it was only after mourning his aunt and mother that his wife relaxed a little.
My wife’s trust, understanding, and support for him were all reflected in her actions, especially when she hid many manuscripts from him. After his wife passed away, Mr. Qi often missed his wife. Even if he had no heirs, he would not continue his relationship.
02 His love for calligraphy and painting originated from his grandfather’s childhood enlightenment.
Parents are originals, and children are copies. What kind of parents do you have, and a good example will benefit your children throughout their lives?
Although Mr. Qi lost his father in his early years, he had a good grandfather. In his memory, his grandfather loved him very much, copying copybooks for him, holding him on his lap and teaching him poetry, and often letting him watch him draw.
Mr. Qi said: "Although he did not directly talk to his grandfather. He learned painting techniques and brushwork, but he learned the most important thing - the discovery of hobbies and the cultivation of interests.
What is successful education? Successful education is to cultivate people's interests, activate people's potential, and inspire people's ambitions. There is no doubt that Mr. Qi's grandfather was successful.
The "first-class consciousness" instilled in one's childhood can help one grow into a "first-class person". Therefore, children’s enlightenment is very important.
Think about what enlightenment we are giving our children now? When the 2-year-old child saw the mobile phone, his little fingers moved up and down flexibly, even better than the grandmothers. We should really learn from Mr. Qi’s grandfather and read poems and books to the children.
03 The size of the circle determines the height of your life
“The one who is close to ink is black, and the one who is close to vermillion is red.” What kind of circle you have, you will associate with what kind of people.
When Mr. Qi was 10 years old, his grandfather passed away. The lives of orphans and widowed mothers were made easier with the help of their grandfather's disciples Shao Mingshu and Tang Ziqin.
Because Mr. Qi is interested in calligraphy and painting, he has integrated into the calligraphy and painting circles of famous artists and everyone through his teachers. He often writes poems and paintings with Fu Xinshe, Guan Jisheng, Guan Zhiyun and Ye Yangxi. When I was with Teacher Xinshe, I received guidance from Teacher Zhang Daqian.
I got to know Mr. Qi Baishi because of his love of painting since childhood, which was introduced by his great-uncle. Mr. Qi Baishi is 50 years older than Mr. Qi, so he still likes Mr. Qi. Or maybe it's because Mr. Qi is an honest and honest man who doesn't show off.
Be low-key and do things in a high-key manner. This is a virtue that each of us must learn.
Write it at the end
Ordinary things, a normal heart. No matter what you do, keep a balanced mind and everything will fall into place. Just like Mr. Qi Gong was inexplicably labeled as right-leaning, causing him to lose his job. He was not impatient and treated it with a normal mind. He also advised his wife not to be impatient. The truth will eventually come out one day.
Gratitude is a kind of cultural quality, a state of mind, a life attitude, and a social responsibility.
Always be grateful and don’t show off or publicize. Do your own thing well. As Mr. Qi Gong said: "If you do things carefully and carefully, you may not always succeed; if you do things recklessly, you will never succeed."