Suhomlinski said: "Moral self-education-that is, to stimulate students' desire to be a good person, essentially begins with pride, self-esteem and labor dignity. Without this, the school and the student collective are incredible. " Let him work and give him a chance to be proud, that is, the teacher will ask me something. I am still very useful. I am no different from other students.
There is a student named Li in my class. He is a typical left-behind child. His parents went out to work for a long time, and his grandparents loved this only grandson very much. In addition to the stars in the sky, other requirements can be said to be responsive. If someone dares to "bully" him, he will make trouble with others for three days and nights. Smoking, playing truant and going to the game hall are commonplace for him. Even when I come to school, I never attend classes, let alone do my homework. But other things like fighting and making trouble have never been heard of.
For a child like Li, it is absolutely impossible not to work hard. Think about it. Try the soft one first. Anyway, I was very polite when I first met him as a child, and I think he also wanted to leave a better impression on me. Then why don't I cooperate and make him feel that he is a good student in my mind, at least like other students. There were a lot of things at the beginning of school, so I took care of them. Let him help me with my work, give him a chance to show and give me a chance to praise him. So I called him to me: "Li, the teacher is going to trouble you." Moving books at the beginning of school is too heavy for me. At first glance, you are strong. Would you like to help me move the book together? " As I expected, he readily agreed. He said to me, "Teacher, I'll take care of it. Keep doing the rest. It's a piece of cake for me. " I saw that he quickly organized several boys to help move the books into the classroom. So when I gave a speech to my classmates for the first time at the beginning of school, I deliberately said that he took the initiative to help me move books, and that because of his help, I solved a big problem for the teacher. Thank him again, and finally call on other students to learn from him. Obviously, he is very proud. This is what I want. It is easy to praise.
Needless to say, I can imagine the academic performance of students like Li, that is, a word difference. But after a week of teaching, I found that he is not a poor student, but a poor student with no foundation at all. It is no exaggeration to say that his knowledge level can only reach the students in the second grade of primary school. To make matters worse, his study habits are even worse. He never listens attentively in class, either fidgeting or staring blankly. He never does his homework by himself. Even if he copied words in Chinese, he habitually copied other people's books. For his habitual behavior, a simple and rude stop is definitely ineffective. In particular, students like him who have no learning foundation have even announced that they are not allowed to do homework. Come to think of it, all his actions are actually his inferiority complex.
Although Li's parents don't ask him to study, his sense of inferiority can still be clearly felt in the gap between himself and others. It is important to restore his confidence. And this kind of self-confidence cannot be simply produced in labor. However, his handwriting is beautiful. First of all, I praised his calligraphy many times in class and recommended him to participate in the school calligraphy competition, and won a third prize. At the same time, I got in touch with his parents and asked them to cooperate and praise him well, so that he could earn enough money and arouse his enthusiasm. Of course, this can't change his habit of not listening to lectures and copying homework in class.
After school started in spring, a classmate told me quietly that Li often hid in the toilet and smoked secretly. After hearing this, my heart was half cold. Unexpectedly, I have tried my best to educate him, but this happened to him. It was so disappointing that I left him alone. This is my first reaction. But after a while, I think it's still wrong. Li, who has shown obvious signs of improvement, suddenly changed again this semester. Although I have heard that he smokes before, it turns out that he is just learning to have fun, but he doesn't really smoke. So how about this semester ... There must be a reason. We need to talk to him. After I found him, I didn't directly blame him for smoking, but asked him what he was happy or unhappy about this semester, and we could communicate. I didn't expect him to say that he was very unhappy as soon as he opened his mouth. After careful inquiry, he knew that his parents who came back from the Spring Festival were going out. He went out for a year regardless of his feelings. I asked him conveniently, what do you do when you are unhappy? I saw him looking at me a little warily. I talked to him about what I like to do when I am unhappy, with special emphasis on what I like to eat when I am unhappy. The teacher told him his habits, which he didn't expect. And I asked him what to do if he was unhappy at the right time, and told him clearly that I wanted to hear his reason. While he was looking around, I asked him directly if he smoked. When he realized that I didn't mean to criticize him, I just cared about his physical and mental health. He voluntarily admitted that he did smoke during this time and said that he would never smoke again. I hope I don't talk about it in class. I promised him that I would never smoke again. In this way, my purpose has been achieved.
In short, as long as teachers adhere to the educational policy of "moving with emotion, understanding with reason, guiding with action and perseverance" and pay attention to methods on the basis of understanding children, they will certainly make due contributions to the country's training of qualified next generation.