? Last night, I was studying "Shupu" and wrote "I hold the ice and blame the summer insects", and suddenly I felt something.
"Shu Pu" said: "Therefore Zhuangzi said: 'The bacteria in the morning do not know Hui Shuo, and the worms do not know Spring and Autumn.' Laozi said: 'When a corporal hears the Tao, he laughs. If he does not laugh, he is not enough to practice the Tao. "How can you hold on to the ice and blame the summer insects?" Although this passage is written in a book, it can also be applied to people. Beauty is beauty because it is connected.
"Zhuangzi·Autumn Waters": "Summer insects cannot talk about ice, they are devoted to time."
In life, we often encounter similar "summer insects" phenomenon. There is a type of person who doesn't understand something at all or only has a superficial understanding of it, but he pretends to be proficient and talks a lot, but none of them hits the point. What's more, when they encounter a problem to discuss, they still insist on competing with you, thinking that "I am the best in the world" and the only one who is right in the world, and they use it to cover up their ignorance by pretending to understand. Originally, I pretended to understand because I wanted to win false praise, but in fact, I would only be looked down upon and thought to be ridiculous.
? I remember there was a WeChat group for talking about calligraphy. There were many calligraphy masters in the group, as well as many calligraphy enthusiasts who had just started and those who were not yet beginners. Everyone often discusses a topic. Many times, these experts are very humble and low-key. When others ask about calligraphy knowledge, they always answer patiently and explain carefully. There is a businessman in the group, and he always speaks when everyone asks. It seems that he is always online, and there is no knowledge that he does not know. In fact, calligraphy requires hard practice in addition to professional knowledge. As soon as you open your mouth, everyone already knows how many days you have practiced calligraphy, how much skill you have used in calligraphy, and how much ink you have drank. They do not reveal it because they want to give you face. As the saying goes, don't argue with a madman, otherwise others will think you are a madman too. This is also the reason why others are reluctant to argue with you.
When you speak and everyone says "hehe", you have to understand that this is not an expression of approval, but an expression of amusement, helplessness, sympathy and sarcasm. At present, there is a saying that goes well, "Rumors stop only with wise people, and chats stop with people talking." You need to know yourself.
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? Mr. Yang Jiang has an article titled "Mr. Zhang Taiyan talks about anecdotes". There is a paragraph at the end of the article: The next day, a news article was published in the Suzhou newspaper, saying Mr. Zhang Taiyan was talking about anecdotes, and a girl came on stage to record it, but didn't remember a word. Why didn't she remember it? Because she didn't understand. Later, her teacher clicked on her and said, "Yang Jikang, you are so stupid! Can't you pretend to write?" But because she "could not understand a sentence," she would rather not remember it. Of course Yang Jiang is not stupid, but has an honest attitude towards learning.
? The same is true for the master of Chinese studies, Wang Guowei. When a student asks him a question he doesn’t know, if he doesn’t understand, he will answer honestly: “I don’t understand this.” There are still many things we don’t understand, especially us ordinary people. There is a saying in Han Yu's "Master's Theory": "There is a sequence of learning, and there is a specialization in skills." There is a vast amount of knowledge. Each of us has limited energy, and the knowledge we learn is also limited. Even if we are an expert in a certain profession, there are many things that he does not know. Know the place. It is much better for us to frankly and honestly admit that we are ignorant in certain aspects than to pretend to understand. ?
? It is undeniable that sometimes, we also become "summer bugs". For example, we always like to look at problems from our own perspective and are self-centered. When we don’t understand the essence of the problem or are unwilling to understand the other party, we will evaluate, condemn, criticize at will, and think of our own ideas as other people’s ideas. , forcing others to use their own thoughts to guide others' thoughts, instilling their own values ????into others, and trying to force others to accept it, what a stupid thing it is! Just like a person who uses modern thinking to evaluate the historical issues of the Republic of China, he is really like "an insect in the summer cannot talk to someone in the ice."
In terms of knowledge, do not be a "summer bug". Only by admitting that you don’t understand can you have a chance to get things done. If you don't know how to pretend to know, you will lose a lot of opportunities to learn new knowledge, only satisfy your own vanity, and end up getting ridiculed by others. "Knowing is knowing, not knowing is not knowing, that is knowing." This is the Master's teaching to his students. And a person's ignorance starts from pretending to understand when he doesn't understand. If he doesn't learn, he doesn't know, and he is unwise.
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? Get along with others and don’t be a "summer bug". We must learn to look at problems from the perspective of others, be more respectful, understanding, and tolerant. A gentleman is harmonious but different. If you don't want to change yourself, don't think about changing others. Respect differences and seek common ground while reserving differences. Only in this way can we get along for a long time. Don't do to others what you don't want; don't impose on others what you want. And some people insist on a moral kidnapping and impose their own perceptions and preferences on others. In this world of mortals, each of us is a practitioner. Only by not imposing your delusions on others can you be kind to all living beings. You are not me, you have never walked the path I have walked, and you will never understand my life, so please don’t criticize or judge at will, because you can’t appreciate all this without experiencing it. For some questions, the reason why we give different answers is because we stand at different angles. Why would you use the same cup to hold dirty water? In the same heart, why are you filled with hatred? The same people, why can't you be happy to do good?
? Can we use this mentality to empathize and understand others, instead of just criticizing and trying to impose on others? This is a basic cultivation of being a human being. The years are quiet, don't have any thoughts, that is compassion.