The quickest way to destroy a child: give him a mobile phone.

A class teacher who has been in charge for many years found a phenomenon by analyzing the class report card:

The frequency of using a mobile phone is inversely proportional to your grades, which means that using a mobile phone more often will affect your grades more or less. At present, the performance has deteriorated seriously. Almost all the students in the lower rankings have mobile phones, and most children will play games with them. One of the boys is heavily dependent.

After years of observation, he also found that:

In the possession rate of mobile phones, key classes are far lower than ordinary classes. Moreover, the students who play mobile phones the most fiercely in class are often not the "students with good families" in the eyes of ordinary people, but some children with relatively ordinary families.

Children with good family conditions have stronger self-control, or parents have a clearer understanding of the control of their children's mobile phones. On the contrary, families with average economic level dote on their children, making them take out their mobile phones and glance at them from time to time in class, playing games against time in class, and even staring at the screen when talking to the teacher.

This proves once again that the use of mobile phones has a great influence on learning.

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What effect does playing mobile phone have on your grades?

How much influence does playing mobile phone have on learning? How does it destroy concentration and affect performance?

Destructive concentration force

Pick up the phone and want to check a question, but be attracted by a page of flashing news;

Sitting at the desk, I want to do my homework. I pick up my mobile phone and ask my deskmate to spit out my English teacher.

Thinking hard about the solution to a problem, I flashed a lyric in my mind and couldn't help but pick up my mobile phone to find a song to listen to;

Time flies like this, as if I have been working hard, but I stayed up until 12, and my homework was not finished.

The inability to concentrate for a long time and the lack of in-depth and lasting understanding and thinking about a certain problem seem to have become the "common disease" of modern people under the control of mobile phones, and the state of "concentration" is becoming less and less common.

The satisfaction brought by mobile phones is too easy to get. Once you get used to this "easy to get" satisfaction, you are reluctant to do those "high investment" things. For example, finishing homework and thinking in a state of high self-discipline.

In answering "What is the most important thing in a person's life?" When asked this question, Buffett said, my answer is concentration, and Bill Gates's answer is the same as mine. For a student, whether or not to cultivate the ability needed for the college entrance examination depends on the strength of concentration, not the low-level time investment.

It is difficult for students who are addicted to mobile phones to think continuously and deeply in their studies; Without in-depth thinking, it is not conducive to mastering the difficult content with flavor.

Take up precious time

Children don't have much time to finish learning. Some children use their spare time to read a few extra-curricular books, do some exercises and chat with their parents. Some children want to pick up their mobile phones whenever they have time, but it is difficult to put them down once they pick them up. The more you play, the more you want to play, the more you don't want to change channels and enter the learning state, thus entering a vicious circle and becoming a mobile phone addict.

Luo Zhenyu said in his New Year speech on 20 18:

The the glory of the king made by the game bosses makes people have a wonderful point in ten minutes, while the game of eating chicken has a wonderful point in three minutes, and even a wonderful point is pursued in one minute. To put it bluntly, as long as you sit in front of the game, you can't get down at all, and you don't want to get down if you want to. If you come down, it is the failure of the player.

Are you smart or the game maker smart? They are a research team, and the children are only minors. How can they compete with them?

Others study hard after class, but you are desperately staying up late to play mobile phones; Everyone else is listening attentively in class, but you are thinking and dozing off; Others have a class or a rest or prepare for a preview, but you are excited to talk with fellow travelers and play tricks, and your fingers itch. Who can get good grades in the exam? Needless to say.

Destroy the relationship with the people around you

Once children love to play with mobile phones, parents are bound to be afraid and worried, get angry in a hurry, or directly interfere, unplug the network cable, smash the mobile phone, quarrel and scold; Or ask for advice everywhere, and when I think about it, I secretly cry and worry about my child's future; The teacher was very angry with it, and after repeated persuasion was useless, he simply let it go; Children under pressure, no matter how much fun they have on their mobile phones, will feel particularly stressed once they face the reality. This is the living condition of most children who are addicted to mobile phones.

The conflict between ideal and reality, and the contradiction between individual will and parents and teachers put them in an unharmonious relationship. Under the pressure of being forced to study, they can't have heartfelt happiness and real progress.

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How to pull the child out of the phone?

As a parent, you should also change your understanding, stop simply, and realize that the mobile phone problem reflects the child's spiritual dependence on it. In a patient, step by step, give the child a process of putting down the phone.

Understand and accept

For things that we can't get used to, perhaps we can get good results by deeply understanding their interest and attraction.

For example, children like to listen to music on their mobile phones, so we will listen to it together. Maybe you'll love the music he loves, too. At this time, let's talk about singers and music together, and listen to the children's stories about the struggle of singers you don't know, as well as the touching stories behind the music. On the one hand, it can communicate feelings with children, on the other hand, it can satisfy children's desire to talk and give them a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment. Isn't it fun and the best of both worlds?

? Guide children to have a "road"

The most important thing is to guide children to a feasible path, let them put their wishes into practice and action, and get a sense of accomplishment from real life. This can make children have a sense of direction and not indulge in fantasy.

The specific method can be to cultivate children's interest in calligraphy, musical instruments, etc.: it can be to exercise and read books with children; You can also encourage children to communicate with others and increase the fun of life; Wait a minute.

example is better than precept

If you play games or mobile phones in front of your children all day, how should you reprimand them-go and study? Do you think it will work? The best way should be to practice learning with children. I don't believe that a child who is nurtured by a good scholarly family will be addicted to the mobile phone network.

Nowadays, it is not necessarily the children of the rich who lose their homes, but the children of ordinary people who study hard at the cold window. Some parents who pay more attention to education play the role of supervisor, companion and motivator in the process of their children's growth, and have a clear understanding of their children's use of mobile phones. They hope to minimize the negative impact of mobile phones on their children.

However, some lazy parents still can't see the harm of mobile phones to their children. They still indulge their children to play mobile phones with the mentality of exchanging their mobile phones for their children to rest or buying their children's hearts with their mobile phones.

You know, all we have done today is just to look back one day and not feel that we personally destroyed our children.

9 recommended practices:

1. Don't bring your cell phone or old man-machine to school, and don't accept any refutation.

"I want to look up words" and "I can use an electronic dictionary (no games or novels)"

"I want to see the time." "You can take your watch."

"I want to brush the questions." "What? There are not enough topics in the school? "

"I want to contact my family." "The old man can help you ~"

"I want to check current political hotspots, look up words, and brush topics ........................"

"Well, I'll let you bring it, but please give it to the teacher consciously, and make an agreement with the teacher that you will check all the contents you want once a day, and then leave it with the teacher and get it back when you go home."

2. Turn off new message reminders on WeChat and QQ.

Believe me, the instant messages of WeChat and QQ are mostly chatting or messages that don't need immediate reply. If someone really has something important for you, they will definitely call or contact you through the teacher!

3. Open the message do not disturb function of the group.

Many people have various groups, some of which are very active. Every day, the news keeps coming, and from time to time, local tyrants send out red envelopes.

Constantly checking the group news and grabbing a few cents of red envelopes will seriously affect our concentration in learning. So I suggest you: streamline the group you own, quit the meaningless pure chat group, and open the news of the surviving group without interruption. You can directly close WeChat or QQ during study time.

4. Cancel the friend circle photo update reminder

When many people open WeChat and see the updated little red dot in their circle of friends, they can't help but look at it, for fear that they will miss something important and can't keep up with their friends.

But when you are used to not watching friends, you will find that what you miss is actually irrelevant news. Between people, eye contact with each other, and face-to-face sharing of daily joy can not enhance feelings more than praise in your circle of friends.

5. Reduce the update frequency of friends circle.

Restrain yourself from making friends and not seeking praise.

Happiness is a real feeling in life. Emotions and sorrows can be directly shared with people around you. You don't need to brush your sense of existence through deliberate "drying", and you don't need to rely on the recognition of others to get self-satisfaction.

6. Uninstall most (or even all) mobile games and entertainment apps.

Thirdly, indulging in games will affect your future.

7. Clean up the e-books in your mobile phone

Watching current affairs news is a good way to understand the society and accumulate composition materials, but if you are only addicted to all kinds of fictional novels with entertainment nature, then I advise you not to watch mobile phones.

8. Turn on the Do Not Disturb function of the mobile phone when you need to concentrate.

When you need to concentrate on your study, I suggest you disconnect yourself and turn on the Do Not Disturb function of your mobile phone (several important calls can be whitelisted).

9. Get up early and don't touch your cell phone before going to bed.

Sleeping and waking up in the morning are the periods when we are most prone to mobile phone dependence, so I want to remind everyone here: don't play mobile phones, don't play mobile phones, and don't play mobile phones during these two periods! ! ! You can cultivate the habit of reading for a while before going to bed. I suggest you have a good rest during the break to get high-quality sleep.