This is a book that introduces the whole historical process of the evolution of "marriage" and "marriage matchmaking" formed by the history and culture of the Chinese nation, to the "dating agency" and the standardization and scientific management of the dating agency. It is for those who are single. It is a reference book for people and current workers engaged in marriage psychology research, matchmaking, wedding celebrations and other services.
Xu Liugen, vice president of the China Association of Social Work and director of the Matchmaking Industry Committee of the China Association of Social Work, said, "China has a long history of marriage agency, but so far I have not read a book that systematically records China's matchmaking system. Thank you Mou Guangjun Mr. Wang has filled in the gaps in the history of the evolution of matchmaking in Chinese marriage culture and wrote "A Brief History of Chinese Matchmaking." Preface:
Marriage introduction and matchmaking, both at home and abroad, have been around since ancient times and are still popular today. Matchmakers are also called matchmakers, matchmakers, matchmakers, etc. What they do is a beautiful thing for adults, but it is a hard job. Among the "Three Letters and Six Etiquettes" stipulated in ancient Chinese wedding customs, every detail is inseparable from the matchmaker's mouth and legs. The British even vividly call a matchmaker "a go-between", which means a person who shuttles back and forth between two families to match up.
In China's feudal society, which lasted for more than two thousand years, men and women got married, and the two surnames were tied, and they followed "the orders of their parents and the words of the matchmaker." In an era when men and women were not intimate with each other and women stayed at home, the role of matchmakers was indispensable and irreplaceable. It is legal and reasonable to "marry with a clear matchmaker", and the matchmaker system has become an important part of the etiquette system. For this reason, matchmakers are not only valued by local clan elders, but also favored by officials, because after all, young men and women want to start a family, and humans want to reproduce. I don’t know when, probably after the promulgation of my country’s first marriage law, matchmakers and matchmakers have been derogated as matchmakers, and they often appear as “harlequins” on the stage. Their role in our country's long-term marriage system has been wiped out in one stroke, and they even bear all the blame for feudal arranged marriages, which is quite unfair.
New China's "Marriage Law" advocates autonomy in marriage and love, but it does not provide the necessary channels for young men and women to get acquainted and interact. Therefore, the labor unions, youth leagues and women's federations of various units are busy looking for partners for the young men and women in their units. Solving the marriage problems of older young people has even been put on the agenda of unit leaders.
After the reform and opening up, each person’s work-related attributes have been downplayed, and work-unit leaders cannot be relied upon to solve “personal problems”. Therefore, professional and market-oriented matchmaking services have emerged in response to the times. In the early days of my country's market economy, before the integrity system in all walks of life was perfected, market-oriented matchmaking services were bound to have irregular behaviors of one kind or another, such as the familiar "marriage entrustment" and other phenomena. Market-oriented services are inseparable from the media's hype. One is "trusted" and the other is "speculated." In addition, in the past few years, there was a mixed bag of people engaged in marriage agencies in various places, which temporarily made the matchmaking industry infamous.
In order to promote the healthy and orderly development of the matchmaking industry, with the approval of the People's Republic of China and the Ministry of Civil Affairs, the China Association of Social Work established my country's first non-governmental organization in the marriage agency industry in early 2005. Matchmaking Industry Council”. Over the past few years, the committee has vigorously promoted industry integrity and promoted industry standardization of service and management. It has also actively cooperated with the National Wedding and Matchmaking Standardization Technical Committee to draft my country's first national standard for marriage agency services.
Chinese marriage agencies have a long history, but I have yet to read a book that systematically records China’s matchmaking system. Thanks to Mr. Mou Guangjun for filling the gap in the evolution history of matchmaking in Chinese marriage culture and writing "A Brief History of Matchmaking in China". I believe that readers will not only get interesting knowledge from it, but also hope that it will make readers think.
About the author of "A Brief History of Chinese Matchmaking":
One of the main drafters of the National Standard "Marriage Introduction Service" of the People's Republic of China; "Matchmaking Industry of China Association of Social Work" Committee Executive Member"; "Executive Director of Marriage and Family Work Committee of China Association of Social Work"; first director of "Matchmaking Industry Committee of Guizhou Marriage and Family Association". General Manager (Legal Person) of "Zunyi City, Guizhou Province First-line Dating Agency Service Department"; General Manager (Legal Person) of "Zunyi City First-line Dating Agency High-end Club". Consultant of "Hong Kong Children's Visual Art Research Association"; Director of "Chinese Elderly Calligraphy and Painting Editorial Department"; Academician of "Chang'an Oriental Art Research Institute"; Vice President of "Zunyi Loushan Culture and Art Research Institute"; "Zunyi Chinese Painting and Calligraphy Seal Research Association" "Deputy Secretary-General.
His calligraphy works have won: the gold medal of the teacher group of the "First 'Hope Cup' National Teacher-Student Calligraphy and Painting Competition"; the "First World Chinese Art Exhibition"; the silver medal of "New Century Summer Resort Calligraphy and Painting Exhibition"; "'Ouyang Xun Cup' Calligraphy and Painting Competition" "Third Prize; "Millennium Cup" Chinese Painting and Calligraphy Exhibition Competition" bronze medal, etc.
In short, I think this is a professional document in the industry and has certain value. It is worth reading for those engaged in matchmaking, weddings, marriage and family, and psychology.