In the Northern Song Dynasty, there was a prime minister named Lv Mengzheng, who enjoyed high prestige in the imperial court. However, when he first went to court as a prime minister, an official in the DPRK pointed at him and said, "What virtue and skill does this man have?" What makes him prime minister? " Lv Mengzheng turned a deaf ear. His friends tried to blame the official, but Lv Mengzheng stopped him. After leaving the DPRK, a friend asked him why he didn't investigate the man's rudeness. Lv Mengzheng said with a smile: "There is no need to blame and hate others for a little thing." After listening to this, my friend said admiringly, "Lv Gong is really a broad-minded person." Later, the officials who laughed at him admired Lv Mengzheng's generosity, made friends with him and managed the country. This has produced an eternal famous saying: "The prime minister can punt in his stomach."
When the official insulted him with sharp words, if Lv Mengzheng didn't have a broad mind, he immediately flew into a rage, rushed to the bullfight and went to theory, which would inevitably worsen the relationship between the two sides, escalate the contradictions and form an incompatible deadlock. As prime minister, Lv Mengzheng's power is under one person and above ten thousand people. He was fully capable of punishing the officials who abused him, but he didn't. Faced with unreasonable slander, he chose tolerance and silence. Lv Mengzheng not only didn't lose his dignity, but won a valuable friendship for him, making him one more friend and one less enemy. He sowed the seeds of tolerance, but harvested the tree of friendship.
One day, a poet and calligrapher in Qing Dynasty received a letter from home, saying that his family had a dispute with his neighbor for more than three feet and asked him to come back quickly. So he wrote a poem: "a letter from a thousand miles is just a wall, and it doesn't matter if people are three feet away." The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, and Qin Shihuang is not seen. " Under his guidance, the two families finally turned against each other. When reason triumphs over emotion, people are less driven by interests, and the harmony and friendship between neighbors also create a good living environment for themselves.
I once saw on TV news that a passenger punched a bus driver for a dollar, which caused quite a stir. Many passengers came to watch, and the crowd was full of accusations. They didn't buy tickets when they got on the bus. Even when the driver persuaded him not to listen, he hit people with confidence and was of course sent to the public security bureau. But this was originally a trivial matter, but it caused a bad social impact because of lack of tolerance.
Many family tragedies are also caused by the inability to tolerate each other. The indifference between husband and wife, glaring at each other, is like strangers. Domestic violence and abuse mean disillusionment of feelings, and some even lead to massacres. This is terrible and its roots are thought-provoking.
In the works of a famous person, there is such a passage: "If you treat people with understanding and forgiveness, people will feel that the lush world is full of spring, warmth, charity, friendship and sympathy." In life, we should learn to be tolerant and understand others: to treat colleagues, we need tolerance; Treating neighbors requires tolerance; Treating workers needs tolerance; Treating the family needs more tolerance.
Tolerance is not cowardice, not timidity, it is a kind of wisdom, an open mind, it can narrow the distance between people, it can bring sunshine and warmth.
Before becoming a happy person, you must first become a tolerant person. Only in this way can we live in harmony with the people around us, our life will be full of vitality and sunshine, and it will become more harmonious and colorful!