Yesterday, I opened WeChat to send a message and saw: "Happy New Year, how come I didn't even receive the group's Happy New Year", a big red exclamation point! The message was sent, but it was rejected by the other party. I'm not as sad as I thought.
This is probably the content of our last conversation. We always chat in a relaxed way, joking while chatting. I don't know how many times we have said things that hurt each other and hurt each other. I used to think that our relationship could last forever, but nothing is the same. Now chat has become irrelevant self-talk, and it is more and more difficult to understand each other's expression.
There is no need to be strong because the three views are different. I am really tired, but I am very tired. I want to say anything, but I can't say anything. I don't even want to comfort myself.
Personality does not affect friendship, but people with different views can't be friends.
As we grow older, our experiences are different and our values are drifting away. Too many changes have taken place in our youth and inexperience, so forgetting the rivers and lakes may be the best way to deal with our old friends who are drifting away from each other.
After watching the movie, I said for a long time: "children can distinguish right from wrong, adults only look at pros and cons."
We are no longer teenagers who are full of infinite energy at any time in college. We no longer express our ideas and convince others in everything, and we don't want others to shake and convince ourselves. We have our own right and wrong.
02
What do you mean by three views? It mainly includes world outlook, outlook on life and values.
The standard of "three views" has become the way for us to live, understand and deal with the world.
On the way of growing up, the time we know can't let us in, but the closer we get to the world view, the farther we can go.
I'm glad you can come, and I don't regret your leaving. Just because we know each other well doesn't mean we know each other. Consensus is the driving force for us to go on.
Three views are the criteria to determine whether the other party can become our friends. As time goes by, the world is changing and we are growing. Any topic can make you disagree with others and have the same voice as others, depending on whether we can talk to each other, that is, whether we can talk to the same channel when talking about life, the world and value.
Not everyone in the world can understand you. On different roads, we will eventually part. There is no need to regret it. What you have to do is constantly strengthen yourself, study hard and be happy.
03
Friends are people who talk to each other, complain to each other, reason and gossip. When they meet people, they have a good conversation with each other.
People with the same views can be friends, confidants and lovers. This is really important.
"I share my happiness with you and hope you can have it, but you think I'm pretending."
Making friends is really a technical job. You really can't be friends without three views. Full of joy, full of chicken blood to share a book "seven habits of efficient personnel", the right person can discuss how we should struggle in our twenties; If you share it with the wrong person, unfortunately, it is undoubtedly a disaster. You're pretending! You are showing off! A newcomer who has just entered the society wants to earn millions a year. Isn't it sick?
There is really no need to force yourself into the three views, which not only makes you tired, but also makes others more embarrassed. You can't change his mind, but you doubt yourself Find someone who is like-minded, understands you and has the same hobbies.
You can always find people with like-minded ideas, like Dickens, people from North Island and Yanbian to talk about literature and poetry, people from Curry, Cristiano Ronaldo and Sun Yang to talk about sports, people from Primary Six, Huaizuo and Xiaoduo to talk about how to "explore" their lives, and people with the same interests to talk about entertainment gossip and social hotspots.
A roommate story with friend H, who told his daily life with his wonderful roommate:
This kind of friends with different views, talk slowly, you must have had such classmates, who have low emotional intelligence and don't work hard. They are forced to think about the help of others as a whole and insist on their own efforts. It is also reasonable to be indifferent and complacent.
In fact, the most terrible thing is that the three views are not harmonious, which limits your efforts, ignores your diligence and despises your achievements, so please stay away from these people with three views.
04
The world is very big. I hope you have like-minded friends, stories that someone can understand, happiness that someone can share, and sadness that you will never lack an audience.
How to expand your high-quality circle of friends, have a high-quality social circle and find like-minded friends?
Attend more parties and seminars, or search in "movies" and "watercress", and you will find many free social activities. Community activities under the city line can help you make friends in different fields, be a social animal, improve attendance, go out, meet interesting new friends and expand your circle.
Labels can be: photography, calligraphy, writing, new media operation, financial management, etc. Give you an advantage and let others know about you. Every label on your body can attract some people with the same points. Everyone is very busy. We pay attention to diamond cut diamond when making friends. Our ability, the road we have traveled and the books we have read are the basis of making friends. Find a close colleague and choose a friend who can really make friends.
Different friends need different ways to protect each other, and close friends who can talk should be careful in management. We need to find a good friend with similar interests, to know, to explore, to discover his advantages, and then to try to get close. Politeness and tolerance are our manners. We cherish your friends and have a good talk.
New friends, new fields, endless topics, the same identity and the same knowledge can make a better conversation. Don't just hope others can help you. Your knowledge is the basis of equal communication, improve your strength and find a bosom friend to accompany you for life.
05
Making friends is really a technical job. We can't grow up alone. We can only grow together if we find a person with the same three views to discuss the road of life together, solve your confusion and move forward together.
The road ahead is long. We are not born kings. Find a close colleague, a close friend who can point out your mistakes and be outspoken.
The happiest thing I can think of is not getting old slowly, but getting stronger slowly.
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