There are joys and sorrows in one's life. In the event of a happy event, we don't want to stay because we can't. When we encounter sadness, we should not be too sad, because it will hurt our health. We should always control ourselves, and the most important thing is not to solve the problem. So don't take the gains and losses too seriously, keep calm and try to solve the problem. If we can't solve it, let time prove everything, and let time resolve everything. As long as we are broad-minded, everything is not a problem!
Today, we are in a high-tech era and people are very busy. When we encounter unhappy things and no one complains about our grievances, we will persuade ourselves not to be angry and be optimistic. Since happiness is also a day, unhappiness is also a day, then we will live every day seriously. Do your job well, study more, exercise more, watch more comedies, movies and TV plays, let yourself laugh, vent the yin in your body, listen to more cheerful songs and feel sunny, and everything will be fine.
As the saying goes: life is not satisfactory, nine times out of ten. Everyone will encounter grievances and troubles in one way or another in life, which is very distressing.
It's really hard when you feel wronged and can't even find someone to talk to.
I think you should ask yourself why you can't find someone you trust to talk to and try to solve it.
Grievance is a negative psychological emotion, which has great influence and destruction on people's interpersonal relationship, work life and physical and mental health, and must be effectively eliminated and suppressed. In interpersonal communication, due to personal words and deeds, image reflection and other subjective factors. Being evaluated and influenced by others and the outside world leads to the loss of balance of subjective mentality and negative psychological activities. When the negative evaluation of others and the outside world exceeds personal psychological expectations, the so-called grievance is formed.
Therefore, we must first find ways to learn to eliminate and release our sense of injustice. I suggest you do the following.
The first point: be a relaxed person. We should treat others' and outsiders' evaluations of ourselves calmly, objectively and to the point, listen to others' explanations clearly, correct our mistakes with an open mind, work harder and do better without making mistakes. Stick to your original heart, free from interference and temptation. Grievance means being narrow-minded, selfish, comparing with others and being paranoid. Therefore, you should be open-minded, atmospheric and calm. Mental imbalance is often the beginning of stupidity. So, you need to calm down. If you don't hurt others, it's hard for others to hurt you. You should stick to your original intention.
The second point: reduce dependence. Sometimes grievances are caused by feeling good about yourself, relying too much on others and expecting too much from individuals. Are the inducing factors of resentment. Being too conceited at ordinary times and lacking an objective and correct understanding of yourself will produce a sense of injustice.
The third point: people's world outlook, outlook on life and values should be correct. Correct thinking and behavior are the foundation of being a man. The correct attitude should make you more self-disciplined, less willful, less arrogant, less self-centered and less compared with others. In addition, correct behavior and words, usually cautious words and deeds, will minimize and reduce the criticism of others, and avoid giving people a handle to attract right and wrong.
The fourth point: strengthen personal cultivation. Good personal cultivation is a good way to fundamentally eliminate old grievances. The more cultured people are, the more they will win the respect and admiration of others. The sense of injustice comes from itself or from the outside world. A cultured person, even if others wronged him, will rationally drive it away, and with his own strong heart, he will not feel wronged and wronged, because his heart is full of sunshine and happiness, and there is no psychological space for injustice. As long as you are self-loving, self-disciplined, self-reliant and self-reliant, you will completely eliminate your sense of injustice.
No one complains about grievances. My suggestion is:
1: Broaden your social circle and make friends all over the world. Now you should adjust your mentality, make yourself full of sunshine, happiness, confidence and vitality, and let others feel your personality charm when they get along with you, so that others will be willing to take the initiative to associate with you.
2. Willing to accept the invitation of friends. When friends invite you to some healthy parties and activities, don't refuse because you are embarrassed or there are many strangers. Accept the invitation and take an active part.
3. Seize the rare communication opportunity. On any occasion, at any time, if someone takes the initiative to talk to you, don't be shy, put down your posture, seize the opportunity to speak, show enthusiasm and generosity in making friends, and treat others sincerely.
4. Join social groups and organizations. Use your spare time to join some organizations according to your hobbies, such as community volunteer association, photography association, calligraphy association, art association, song and dance association, chess club and so on. Make friends with hobbies and broaden your social circle.
Of course, expanding social circle is to improve personal ability, that is, to make friends with different qualities and levels. Therefore, it is necessary to save your strength and improve your ability, so that you will not be stretched in communication, so that you can have the capital to make high-level friends and gradually expand your circle of friends.
If you do the above, there will naturally be many trustworthy friends who will listen carefully to your grievances and help you solve your problems enthusiastically.
The above suggestions are for reference only, thank you!
I have tried to write in my personal diary in QQ space, and I can also watch documentaries such as "Life is a Matter of Heaven". On the one hand, I can make the touched part cry, on the other hand, you will find that as long as the person you love is healthy and safe, the remaining difficulties are not invincible. If there is really no way to solve it, just endure it and it will pass. There will always be a bright future. Come on!
If you feel wronged but no one tells you, then take a good look at what makes you feel wronged. Can you solve the problem from the source.
If you can't find someone to talk to, you can write down your grievances in the form of a diary. Although I only wrote it myself, I don't need to show it to others, but it is also a kind of catharsis. How much can alleviate the sad mood.
Sing a song well and shout out all the grievances, injustices and boredom in your heart. Only pick those who are in high spirits or sad, and vent their inner pain with songs. Whether he sings well or not, whether he acts well or not. I feel comfortable after singing.
Watch some comic sketches, funny videos, soothing light music, participate in some group activities and try your best to help others. You can also go running, walking and traveling. These can make you feel relaxed.
Taking part in outdoor sports and climbing mountains are all good choices. When you climb all the way up, your bad mood will be released unconsciously. The moment you climb to the top of the mountain, you may feel suddenly enlightened.
Life is doomed to be bumpy, bumpy. Face it bravely. As long as you are willing, there is no hurdle to cross and no slope to climb over. As long as there is sunshine in the heart, the world is everywhere. I hope I can help you.
You can go to a place where no one is there to cry, or you can scream hysterically and vent your stomach. It will be much better. Don't hold your breath, it's easy to get sick. Some people have liver cancer because of forbearance, so you have no one to talk to. Venting is the best way. Ladies should be careful not to go to that deserted place alone, even if it is hysterical in their own homes.
Run to the mountain and shout in the distance. Don't tell anyone, everyone has grievances and worries. Don't bother others to be your audience, it will only increase sadness. Put away your sadness and don't let others see your weakness. Good people will despise you, and bad people will use you. I feel wronged in my heart and smile on my face. Even if the mouth twitches, I can't help but want to confide in my heart. Never in this secular world, your grievances will not get any response, but will only become the laughingstock of everyone. Women will whisper that you are not a gentleman, and men will hide their faces and not treat you as the same kind. Brave, strong! Really feel uncomfortable, find a lonely night, climb mountains, stay away from the noise of the city, and shout at the distant night sky. The mountains listen for you, the vegetation listens for you, the night sky listens for you, and the distance listens for you; Tell nature that they are the most loyal listeners. Without any subjective emotions, I am friendly and quiet, and I am not happy to hear you speak.
This will happen to many people, especially those who are introverted and unsociable. Being wronged has two consequences: first, tell the truth to the person who wronged you. Many people are wronged by embarrassment. In fact, when you refute and clarify the facts, you will feel that it is as simple as whitewashing grievances. Second, endure grievances. Some grievances cannot be washed away, and it is not convenient to tell others. I can only endure it myself and digest it slowly. In this case, I can only convince myself that the fact is the fact, and I just want to forget it because I can't change it. I should find something I am interested in to do, improve my physical and mental pleasure and achieve the purpose of digesting my grievances. What do you say, my friend?
In fact, the more I grow up, the more lonely I feel. When I am wronged, I can go to someone I trust and cry. To tell the truth, I didn't feel anything when I was a real adult. It's just that in recent years, I've had more ideas and greater psychological pressure. When others misunderstand me, I feel wronged, but sometimes I think, life is beautiful, why bother about these bad things? When I am really annoyed, I just stand by the window and watch. Think about some interesting things that happened when I was a child, and it's not so annoying. There is still a long way to go, so I don't take people who don't care about me so seriously. You are not good to me, this is your business. There is no need to care so much. There are many people who hate me, and you are nothing.
Me too. I want to post my work on a short video of vibrato and broadcast it live. My husband said he was afraid of villagers' jokes. In fact, his thoughts are behind the times, but he found a reasonable excuse, which really makes people angry. Fortunately, he works during the day, and I study video at home. In his eyes, I may be blind and I can't explain it clearly, so I won't explain it. You can complain to the people closest to you, but the most important thing is to adjust your mentality. As long as the mentality is good, nothing is a problem. Cry in a deserted place first, then think quietly, or sing and run loudly, and be sure to release the emotions that are pressed in your heart. Write down why you are uncomfortable in the notebook, write a few articles and overcome them one by one. You can't think about changing others, you can only change yourself. No matter what you put in your heart or see in your eyes, you must make yourself happy subconsciously. If you are in a good mood, everything will go smoothly. I wish you a happy friend.
Feel the same way! There are many grievances in my heart. My parents can't talk, and I don't want them to worry. Not the other half. He is too busy and stressed, and he can't talk about his friends. You don't know whether he will laugh or sympathize! There are a few close friends, from all directions.
Sometimes I want to cry, sometimes I want to disappear! Life, too many gullies, perhaps, most people are not easy, all wronged!
What should I do, keep a diary, or be alone in a daze? Often stay alone in a daze for a while as if forgetting everything, and then move on! Keep a diary, write everything, and write whatever you want. I'm not a writer, and I don't want perfection. Just write it out and let it out, it's nobody's business!
That's it. Who won't be wronged? Bear with it, a lifetime has passed ... [comparison]