Question 1: How can you make your personality cheerful? A cheerful person is an optimistic person, and an optimistic person must be a happy person. Everyone has the potential to be a happy and cheerful person. Happiness comes from inner strength, not from external things, so cheerful people must have a happy heart.
(1) Reduce self-centeredness:
An unhappy person is usually a self-centered person who likes to be hostile to others. If you want to be a happy person, you must reduce your self-centeredness. If a person only thinks about himself and forgets about other people, his heart will only occupy a small area. In that small area, every little problem seems as big as the sky and can easily turn into unhappiness. If we can care about others, be considerate of others, and understand that many people are the same as us and want to be happy and happy, our hearts will be broadened. At this moment, your own problems, no matter how big they are, seem less important. If you only care about your own happiness and happiness, you will only become an unhappy and unhappy person, and you will become more anxious and fearful. Only a compassionate and altruistic person can be a happy person.
Many of your colleagues are self-centered people. They are obviously not happy and cheerful people. If they were happy, they would not quarrel with you over trivial matters. If you can be more open-minded than them, don't worry about small things, don't argue over small things, don't share their common knowledge, and be more broad-minded than them, you will be much happier and more cheerful than them.
(2) Perspective issue:
Everything has positive and negative sides. If you always think about the negative when analyzing a problem, you will become a pessimistic person. . If we can analyze the problem from a positive perspective, we will not get into trouble, and people will naturally be much more cheerful. For example: one day after work, you find that your car has been scratched. If you are a critical person, you will definitely think that it is the work of your colleagues. Even if there is no evidence, you have already determined that your car is the work of your colleagues. Co-workers are criminals. If you think on the bright side, you will be more rational. You will think that until there is no evidence, everyone is innocent, including your colleagues. If you analyze it head-on, you will see many possibilities. There are many entrances and exits in this parking lot. Maybe it was done by naughty children, maybe it was an accident, etc. There are many possibilities, not necessarily your colleagues. If you think this way, you will be more optimistic and cheerful as a person, and you will not always think about others being hostile to you.
Also, don’t be obsessed with your own perspective. Every time you think, think of other people's perspectives, don't just see your own perspective. For example: your colleagues may think that your opinions are not good and you are very angry. That is because you think that your colleagues are deliberately going against you. If you think so, you will definitely be very unhappy and you will also start to hate you. Colleagues, interpersonal relationships will begin to decline. If you analyze your opinions from the perspective of your colleagues, maybe you will find the weaknesses of your opinions. Maybe you will find that your colleagues are actually just expressing their opinions instead of deliberately making things difficult for you. You will also be much happier as a person. . If you are not prejudiced against others in the first place, you will not think that others are prejudiced against you, and you will naturally be able to get along with others.
(3) Cultivate positive emotions
A happy person’s heart is full of positive emotions, and a cheerful person’s heart is calm and happy. If you want to be a cheerful person, you must cultivate positive emotions and eliminate negative emotions in your heart.
Negative emotions, such as hatred, resentment, anger, and sadness, can make us pessimistic and unhappy. Positive emotions, such as compassion, compassion, etc., make us happier. If we continue to cultivate negative emotions, we will easily develop bad feelings that destroy our inner peace and happiness. Once you hide hatred in your heart, once you are controlled by negative emotions, others will also feel that hostility when they see you. As a result, you may feel depressed, insecure, pessimistic, and unhappy.
For example: You may be angry with your colleague over a trivial matter, and then try to find ways to punish him, or even say bad things about him behind other people's backs, hoping that he will be ostracized by other colleagues. Many people will do this. They think that after doing this, it will be like "revenge" and they will feel happy. Think about it, if you really do this, will you really be "happy"? I think your "happiness" will be short-lived. Why? Because your inner peace has been... >>
Question 2: How to make yourself more cheerful. Many introverts want to make themselves more extroverted, because it seems that only personality Extroverted talents are more adaptable to today's society and are more conducive to interacting with others. But in fact, many extroverts are dissatisfied with their own personalities.
Each personality has its own advantages and disadvantages. Introverts actually have many advantages, such as being serious, practical and steady, etc. Introverts want to make themselves more cheerful, mostly because lively and cheerful people get along easily with others and are more active in participating in activities. However, these are not the "characteristics" of extroverts, they are just accessories of extroverted personality. Master the skills of interacting with people and make your enthusiasm bolder. Introverts can do the same! Therefore, sometimes it is not a question of whether the personality can be changed, but whether the ability can be improved. I think I don’t need to say anything more about the answer to this question at this time.
After the above discussion, I think you may no longer worry about changing your personality. But you may still be confused, is your personality immutable? In fact, we can only say that in a certain sense, personality can be changed. For example, a person's personality will change as age or situation changes. But if you want to change your personality in a short period of time, even through psychological treatment and counseling, it is not easy.
It can be seen that sometimes we do not need to deliberately change our character. There is no good or bad character. As long as we improve our abilities and improve our own quality to make up for the shortcomings in certain aspects of our character, it is enough to make us impeccable people.
If you must change, read the post below!!!!
As the saying goes: A country is easy to change, but a person's nature is hard to change. Is personality innate and unchanged throughout life? Not really.
It is necessary to understand personality before understanding personality. Personality, sometimes called personality in psychology, is a unique behavioral pattern, thinking pattern, and emotional response characteristic of a person's interaction with the social environment. It is also one of the characteristics that distinguishes a person from others. Therefore, personality is manifested in thinking ability, cognitive ability, behavioral ability, emotional response, interpersonal relationships, attitudes, beliefs, moral values, etc. Generally speaking, the formation of a person is related to biological genetic factors, but personality is produced under a certain social and cultural background, so it is also a product of social culture.
From a psychological perspective, personality consists of two parts: character and temperament. Character is the psychological characteristic of a person's stable personality, which is reflected in a person's attitude towards reality and corresponding behavior. On the good side, people's attitude towards reality includes love of life, pursuit of honor, loyalty to friendship and love, courtesy, care and help to others, hatred of evil, etc.; people's behavior towards reality such as behavior Dignity, gentle attitude, bold emotions, humorous conversation, etc. The combination of people's attitudes towards reality and behavior patterns constitutes a person's unique character that distinguishes him from others. On the issue of character, Engels once said that a person's character is not only reflected in what he does, but also in how he does it. What a person does indicates what a person is pursuing and what he rejects, which reflects the person's attitude towards reality. How he does it indicates how a person pursues, reflecting the way a person behaves towards reality. Character essentially expresses a person's characteristics, while temperament is like giving a color and a mark to personality. Temperament refers to the characteristics of a person's psychological activities and behavioral patterns, which gives the character a luster. The same people love to work, but people with different temperaments behave differently: some people move quickly but rough, which may be a choleric person; some people are very meticulous and move slowly, which may be a phlegmatic person. people. Temperament and character thus constitute personality.
Character can be sculpted
Some people talk about character and say that it is related to genetic factors. They say that the temper you are born with and the life you have been born cannot be changed. This is not necessarily the case. There is a British psychologist named Aisenko. He advocates personality latitude in personality theory. One extreme of the latitude is extroversion and the other extreme is introversion, so there are many levels between the latitudes. He believes that extreme introverts and extreme extroverts are a minority, and most people are comprehensive, either more introverts or more extroverts. The emergence of Eisenko's personality latitude theory has had a great impact on the field of psychology, so we believe that personality can move along latitudes.
In recent years, Japanese scholar Hasegawa Yozo believes that personality can be changed through behavior. This poses a new task for our psychotherapy and children's education: we must cultivate good behavior in people, especially children, to help them change their character weaknesses; we should cultivate character in daily life, when children are young It is the gold for cultivating good character... >>
Question 3: How to make yourself cheerful and optimistic. What you said reminds me of a college classmate of mine. She is a girl and she looks really good... ...The first time I met her, I really thought she was the ugliest person I had seen in 19 years. It was strange. Really, even now I think this thought was a bit... immoral.
She is a very nice person and many people like her. She never seemed to feel inferior, and she was very chatty with everyone.
You are still young, and the children around you may not yet have a mature concept and the habit of considering problems from other people's perspective. However, if you make fun of someone like that, they will actually turn around and ignore it after laughing. He won't know that a joke he turned around and forgot about is a trauma to you. Adjust your state and don't take it too seriously. This is the only thing you can do. You say it’s different abroad, but actually it’s not the same abroad, maybe even worse. You try to adjust yourself and not care about this.
Let me tell you about me.
I grew up living among a group of very outstanding cousins. They had good grades and were beautiful, like little princesses and princes. But I was not pretty, my grades were not very good, and my elders were also more... I love them so much. When we stand together, I feel like a toad among the swans. Until now, I can't get rid of that inferiority complex. There is a brother among them. I like him very much and want to play with him, but they They didn't like me very much, and they always had a mocking attitude towards me. They suspected that I had stolen his money, and they said they didn't know if there were any schools that would let me study without getting into the college entrance examination, and I was very hurt. Later, I decided not to follow them and try to fit in with them. That would only lead to more inferiority complex. I thought, my grades are not better than yours, my looks are not as good as yours, I must have something that can make you think highly of me. thing. So I no longer conformed to them. I started to read the books I liked, learned Chinese painting and calligraphy from my father, and openly interacted with people other than them. After graduating from college, my achievements in several hobbies have already made them envious. They don't treat me like they used to, and I no longer value their eyes, because apart from them, I have my own very good friends, and my life is fulfilling and satisfying.
People live in a certain state. You may be too young to understand this. Where you put your mentality determines what kind of person you are. Be yourself and don't care too much about other people's opinions.
Question 4: How to make yourself cheerful and optimistic? First, you must believe in yourself, as long as you work hard and have a clear conscience.
Second, interact more with people with cheerful personalities and try to take the initiative to interact with others. I believe most people are friendly. Make more friends and talk to them more. Your personality can change. You can first try to greet others proactively. Maybe you are not used to it at first, but you will gradually get used to it later. Once you take the first step, it won't be difficult in the future.
Third, go out for a walk more often and don’t shut yourself up at home all the time. Try to create as many opportunities for yourself as possible to interact with people, such as participating in more activities, and you will always be able to find people with whom you can talk.
Fourth, think more about happy things. From the moment you open your eyes every day, you have to tell yourself that today is a good day. No matter what happened yesterday, after all, yesterday is the past and cannot be changed. Don't let yesterday's troubles affect today's happiness.
Fifth, you must be confident in yourself, do some positive things, be optimistic and confident, do not compare with others, treat everything around you with a normal heart, and Prove the value of your life by doing something you can do well, and you will live an easy life. To give yourself the joy of success and maintain a good mood.
Sixth, discover the advantages in others and transfer them to yourself. Smart people do not need to be taught by others. They must create their own learning opportunities and take the initiative to learn.
Seventh, you can usually read more books and watch TV, and share what you hear and see with everyone. This is an opportunity and method to actively exercise yourself.
Eighth, in the face of your own restraint, you can also do some relaxation training to eliminate your nervousness and withdrawal.
Ninth, finally, here are some suggestions on specific practices:
1. Speak louder;
2. Say hello when you meet people. Be proactive;
3. Be brave when asking others for help;
4. Ask more questions about study.
If it is difficult to do it at first, you should often hint to yourself: You must do it, what is it? Be brave, be bold! If this continues, the situation will gradually improve, and I will slowly become cheerful and lively.
Question 5: How can we make people cheerful? Original How Introverts Improve Interpersonal Relationships
Many introverts hope to change their introverted personality, improve their ability to interact with others, and then have good interpersonal relationships. So they read many books on interpersonal relationships and learned many interpersonal skills, but they found that the results were little and not obvious. This shows that just learning skills is not enough. Their inability to have good relationships is not just due to lack of skills but also to many deeper reasons. At the same time, does this also show from one side that the current books on interpersonal relationships are flawed and incomplete? If introverts want to have good interpersonal relationships, they need to change and improve their beliefs, attitudes, skills and other aspects.
1. Belief: Establish the belief of "win-win" (equality and mutual benefit)
If you want to have good interpersonal relationships, you must have the idea of ??equality and mutual benefit. In fashionable terms, it means having a win-win mindset.
When it comes to dealing with interpersonal relationships, there are the following thinking patterns:
1. I win and you lose:
The education we have received since childhood has been strengthening. This idea. In exams, you have to do better than others. In sports competitions, you have to run faster and jump higher than others. You want to win the championship. In short, only by surpassing others and winning can we feel happy. We see life as an arena. To be successful and happy, we must surpass others and leave others behind.
In addition, selfish people also hold the idea that I win and you lose.
2. I lose and you win:
People who lack self-confidence and self-esteem often have this kind of thinking.
They dare not stick to their position, want nothing, seek compromise at the expense of personal interests, and seek peace at the expense of others.
3. Both sides suffer:
On the surface, no one will benefit from doing this, and it seems that no one will do this. But some people just want to think and do this! It harms others but does not benefit oneself. You can't get what I can't get. In order to get revenge, I would rather sacrifice myself to bring you down.
4. Win-win:
Win-win is based on the idea of ??equality and mutual benefit. Benefit yourself without harming the interests of others. Don't pit yourself against others. You and I are not enemies, but comrades in the same trench. We share wealth, shoulder difficulties together, and create a better future together.
Things like "I win and you lose" (selfishness), "I lose and you win" (compromise), and "lose-lose" (both sides suffer) - these thinking patterns cannot lead to good interpersonal relationships.
If you want to have good interpersonal relationships, you must have a win-win mentality, equality and mutual benefit.
How introverts improve interpersonal relationships (2)
2. Attitude: Grasp love Balance with courage.
A win-win situation means that everyone wins and both parties benefit.
A win-win situation requires love and courage.
Love enables you to care about others and take care of their interests; courage enables you to stick to your position and safeguard your own interests. The balance between love and courage can truly achieve a win-win situation.
If you want to have good interpersonal relationships, it is not enough to have love, you also need to have courage. Introverts lack not only love, but also courage. You cannot have good interpersonal relationships without courage.
Only a balance of love and courage can produce good interpersonal relationships.
The balance of love and courage is specifically reflected in the balance of the following pairs of relationships.
1. Respect others and self-respect (the balance of "respect" and "self-esteem")
Most books on interpersonal relationships emphasize the importance of respecting others and advocate smiling, praising, Gratitude…wait. Respecting others is indeed important, but these are just scratching the surface for introverts and do not address the key points that introverts really need to improve. The real problem for introverts may be a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem, and they are too willing to compromise. Therefore, building self-confidence and self-esteem is the key to solving problems.
2. Honesty and trustworthiness and trust in others (the balance of "integrity" and "trust")
Be honest and trustworthy so that others can trust you. At the same time, you also need to trust others.
Introverts actually do not trust others from the bottom of their hearts and always have vague suspicion and fear of others. I feel hesitant and fearful when I think about interacting with people. This is one of the reasons why he cannot have good relationships. Distrust of others is an issue that introverts need to address.
3. Interest in others and openness to oneself (the balance of "curiosity" and "openness")
Books on interpersonal communication teach us to be interested in others. And said, "A person who is interested in others can make more friends in two months than a person who only knows how to make others interested in him in two years...>>
Question 6 : How to make yourself cheerful? Don't worry too much, don't care too much, and you will naturally be cheerful. If you don't care about other people's affairs, you will be looking for trouble. Don't feel inferior to yourself, you don't owe others anything.
Question 7: How to make yourself more cheerful. Go out more and participate in some social activities or group activities. You can choose group outings. Pay attention to communicating with people more often, don’t have stage fright when talking to others, just exercise for a long time.
Question 8: How can I become optimistic and cheerful? People live
In order to experience joys and sorrows, birth, old age, illness and death,
To understand why people live?
In order to realize their own ideals, pursuits, goals, desires and values.
Life is very tiring and hard
Because the society is very unfair, life is very helpless
If you are sad and sad, you will cry, but if you find something to do, it will not be boring
Because This is how life is
No one’s life is smooth sailing
As long as you work hard, it will be wonderful!
Be optimistic about anything you encounter
< p>Keep a normal mind.Just remember: If you don’t give up this second, there will be a miracle in the next second
It is inevitable to fall and wait in life
You must raise your head bravely
< p> Sunshine always comes after the storm!Let me give you my opinion, do you think it’s okay?
1. Look at the world with a different perspective. Not everyone in this world is going smoothly. It just depends on how you solve it. For example, if you are hit by someone while walking and someone apologizes to you, sometimes you still can’t. You may feel angry, but you never thought that the person who bumped into you would actually feel more uncomfortable than you. You should think about the saying, "Happiness is a day, and unhappiness is a day, so why not be happy every day."
2. If you think that you will be in a bad mood if you are in a bad mood, then don’t think about it. If you still think about it, then make yourself busy so that you have no time to think about it and let yourself live a fulfilling life. Every minute, when you wake up in the morning, don’t fall in love with your bed. Get up when you wake up, get busy, open the window, breathe the fresh morning air, relax your whole body, and let yourself imagine yourself as a happy little angel...
3. Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, no disturbance, and a place where you can move freely. Take a position that feels more comfortable for you, and stand, sit, or lie down.
4. Move some large joints and muscles of the body. When doing this, the speed should be even and slow. The movements do not need to have a certain pattern, as long as you feel the joints are relaxed and the muscles are relaxed.
5. Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and then exhale slowly, saying "Relax" silently in your mind every time you exhale.
6. Focus on some everyday objects. For example, look at a flower, a candlelight, or anything soft and beautiful, and carefully observe its details. Light some spices and inhale the aroma.
7. Close your eyes and try to imagine some quiet and beautiful scenery, such as blue sea water, golden beach, white clouds, mountains and flowing water, etc.
8. Do some activities that you like that have nothing to do with the current specific matter. For example, swimming, taking a hot bath, going shopping, listening to music, watching TV, etc.
9. Life is easy, work is easy, but life is not easy. Don’t worry. There are many people like you in this society, but they all live happily. Not everyone can succeed. As long as you work hard on everything and take life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, no matter you No matter how your life is, I believe it will be wonderful. Come on!
Finally, I wish you can live happily every day!!
Question 9: How to make yourself smooth, cheerful, and understand routines. In fact, the best way is to In sales, you can deal with all kinds of people and learn a lot from them.
In fact, it doesn’t matter if you don’t have words to say to people. Just observe the people around you carefully. Don’t talk to someone who is arrogant about trivial things. It’s best to be simple and clear. It’s fine for people who are more easy-going. Chat more, but be careful not to talk too much about personal matters with your colleagues. Once you have judged the people around you, you will know what to say to whom. When it comes to other people's opinions, be sure not to speak directly. You should do this or that. Don't use a commanding tone, speak tactfully. It also depends on your relationship with the other person. For example, you and your good friends can talk about relationships, income, family, etc., but don’t rush to ask other people questions about yourself or them with people you don’t have a close relationship with.
Question 10: How can I make myself lively, cute and cheerful? I used to be a quiet person, but now I am getting better. In fact, people who don’t like to talk are those who don’t have much confidence in their own language or You say you are thin-skinned and don't easily confide in others, and you don't feel the need to say too many useless words, right? But people who don't like to talk are not completely non-talkative. If you stay with someone close to you for a long time, you will understand each other. There will naturally be more topics, but at the beginning you can often find some topics to chat about. The topics are about the things around you, even small things, as long as they are not harmful to others, you can talk about it, or you can talk to her about some things in life. If something interesting happens, if she starts the topic first, you should keep talking about it. Don't just say yes or no after they finish talking. You should always say what you think naturally and continue the topic from this topic to another. You can also pay more attention to others and say some greetings. It may be more deliberate at first and you will get used to it as time goes by.