What should children do if they are impatient and impulsive?

The expression of emotional impulse is as the saying goes, "thinking about one is one", "changing your face quickly", "just a little", "giving some sunshine will make you brilliant" and so on. Emotion changes quickly, and it is soon reflected in words and deeds. It is normal for children to have these behaviors before the age of 6, because they don't have that long patience, can't comprehensively consider the environment and other people's situations, and are impulsive. However, if parents can't calm their impulses after giving comfort or explanation, they should pay attention to it and investigate it from two aspects: physiology and parenting style. Of course, things are special and exciting. For example, a four-and-a-half-year-old child heard that he was going to visit Snow White in Disneyland during the holiday, and he sang and danced happily and began to pack his bags. This is not a problematic behavior. If a four-and-a-half-year-old child is eating a cake and everyone is talking about strawberries, she will eat strawberries at once. Although my parents explained that it was late, the shop was closed and strawberries in winter were not delicious, I still had to eat them. This is a problem that parents have to solve. The reason why children don't listen to advice, can't wait, and have no patience is because they can't understand adults' explanations except for congenital mental retardation, that is, there are connivance, unclear boundaries, irregular or unclear rules and insufficient enforcement in parenting methods.

Spoiling is manifested in satisfying children's needs as soon as they cry and get angry, instead of helping children experience emotions, finding out the reasons for their crying or getting angry, and correctly expressing or regulating their crying or getting angry. When children are happy, excited or please their parents, parents tend to meet their children's requirements. Over time, the rapid response mode of "stimulus-impulse-satisfaction" has been formed, rather than the establishment of "stimulus-emotion-thinking-strategy-behavior" mode.

Unclear parents failed to help their children establish the concept of "person-me". What I want is equivalent to what others think, not to learn to observe the difference between my thoughts and my goals.

Non-standard or unclear parenting styles lead to children's behavior without any restrictions, so they don't need to think and make decisions, and do whatever they want. The lack of execution is that although parents verbally have regulations and requirements, they have not actually implemented them. In short, children are willful behavior habits.

Children born after the age of 6 are rarely impulsive, and some children show that certain things or certain emotions are more unbearable for children. For example, when it comes to watching cartoons or playing games, we should start immediately; I don't want to play the piano when I say it; He is very timid. Whenever something scares him, he will be scared to drop everything at hand, or he will easily get carried away when he is happy. If the child's reaction is above average, parents should pay attention.

Emotion is a signal. One of the biggest differences between humans and animals is that animals are driven by emotions. On the one hand, humans give meaning to feelings caused by emotions, name and classify emotions through their minds, and learn how to deal with and express emotions. On the other hand, human basic emotions are compounded with many very complicated social emotions to contain or drive our social behaviors. Emotional impulses often occur in children, because they lack the corresponding knowledge and ideas to decode emotions, lack experience in dealing with emotions, and seem to be driven by emotions.

But even so, the child is a human being, and he is only impulsive rather than driven. What parents should do is, on the one hand, to explain to their children and help them analyze, on the other hand, to have real emotional interaction with their children, so that they can realize the different effects brought by different emotional expressions. Gradually, children can learn to deal with emotional signals and stop being impulsive.

(This article comes from: Baidu Baby knows that I am a small cockroach)

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