Although few people can stay at the top of the mountain forever, the valley is a more realistic life. So, how to manage adversity, create more opportunities for prosperity, or upgrade stronger resistance for the next trough?
The biggest inspiration of this book is that when I am in a deep trough, on the one hand, I understand the causes of negative emotions according to changing objective facts, and on the other hand, I use my future vision to guide my progress.
If you regard a person's growth as a timeline:
(1) now → past. The reason for analyzing the current behavior pattern and thinking mode is because of his family background and the accumulation of his growth experience, so as to learn lessons and avoid making mistakes again; ② Now → Future. Guide the way forward, future vision: what kind of person do you want to be, what kind of thinking mode do you have and what kind of life do you live?
Through personal practical experience, it is very useful to analyze the stages according to the coordinate axis, to understand the causes of the predicament, to clarify their own shortcomings, and to move forward firmly in the future direction.
Your present predicament is bound by your past behavior and thinking. From family to growth experience, you can gradually erase painful memories and find out the most fundamental reason, which is the source of the deadlock.
So, what do you want to do after you untie the knot? Plan your own vision, stay in the next action, keep your goals clear, and avoid being confused by the temptations and fantasies in front of you. Through this difficult experience, I also found that ideas must be balanced with practice, such as sensibility/rationality, reading/reading people, feeling/practice, input/output, acceptance/dedication, work/life and so on. If the mind has more ideas than actual practice, it will be bound by perfectionism and gradually put chains on itself.
The change of peak or trough depends on you. When you are at the bottom, you pay close attention to the problem, study the problem, and take pains to solve it, so you create prosperity. However, after your success, you become complacent, push your luck and do whatever you want. As a result, you have a problem and get into trouble. Therefore, difficulties or adversity are actually determined by your own actions. When you are in prosperity, keep a humble, cautious, sincere and grateful attitude and face the things and people around you.
Plateau period is a good opportunity for recuperation, deliberation and self-renewal.
Face the prosperity with gratitude, cherish the hard-won prosperity, do everything with heart, greatly reduce the probability of accidents, not be lost by external illusions, stay awake, go forward, be pious, humble, cautious and grateful.
The author passed on a secret of keeping happy in the trough: living in every process of change and feeling colorful beauty will enrich life. Happiness is only related to your life at the moment, that is, living in the moment.
In fact, after practice, it is found that if you want to live in the present when the valley is low, you might as well get along with your children more, feel their needs and the most natural emotional expression and expression of the environment, like, don't want, need ... Children can always express their truest feelings and needs in the present environment, play with them, let them return to their children's mentality, and let them better understand the happiness of the present.
1, in our work and life, everyone will encounter peaks and valleys, which is the normal state of life;
2. Peaks and valleys are not only external prosperity and adversity, but also your inner feelings and changes;
3, the peaks and valleys are connected, and today's prosperity is not right, in exchange for the adversity of other days; Wisdom in today's adversity is exchanged for prosperity in another day;
4. Enjoy what you have, and you are on the top of that happy mountain; If you covet what you don't have, you will fall into the bottom of pain;
5. When a person chooses a good attitude, it means that he will leave the trough of life, between heaven and hell;
6. Find a new turning point from adversity, and start climbing from the trough to the peak with firm belief and action;
7. There must be a trough between two peaks, and the way you manage the trough determines the speed at which you climb another peak;
8. Learn to reflect on yourself, or you will have a violent conflict with the world. Only by reflecting on ourselves can we find out the truth of the matter and find a way to get along with the world.
9. The peaks and valleys of life are normal phenomena, so you should face these ups and downs calmly;
10, the plateau period of life is a period of rest, deliberation and self-renewal;
1 1 No matter the peak or the trough, we should always pay attention to the objective facts of change, so that we can find the beauty in life anytime and anywhere;
12. Facing the prosperity with gratitude and doing everything with heart will greatly reduce the probability of accidents;
13. The reason why Murasu fell from the peak to the trough is often the arrogance of not knowing the truth, and the reason why she can't stand up again in the trough is often the anxiety and fear of not knowing the truth;
14, people can't live for "self", only by putting aside "self" can we pay attention to the truth of the problem, and then effectively solve the problem and get out of the trough of life;
15, making a vision is a good way to climb the peak, which can make you want to turn your vision into reality with your own actions;
16, the reason why God created suffering is to awaken your consciousness-pay attention to the truth you ignored;
17. Conquering your inner fear (vision) means that you are at the peak of your life;
18, vision can help us better understand the reality, fear will disappear, the peak is just around the corner, and life will become cloudless in Wan Li;
19, whether individuals or organizations want to maintain the peak of success for a long time, they should: don't be confused by external praise or ridicule, but concentrate on the study and judgment of facts; Maintain a modest and prudent work style, find problems in time and solve them in time; Always one step ahead of competitors; Enthusiastic help others, in order to cultivate the interpersonal relationship of friendship and mutual assistance; Prepare for the possible crisis in advance.
20. Look at yourself more objectively, examine your own shortcomings, and find out the path of improvement; Have more sense of service, rather than conflict with the world; You should know how to care about others, not ask others to love you.
2 1, your eyes determine the happiness of life: looking at what you lose, you will fall into the bottom of misfortune, looking at what you have, you will stand at the peak of happiness.