? Indeed, as the question said, people often talk about "married couples", and married couples refer to the original couples, that is, the couples who got married for the first time. Chinese culture has attached great importance to the relationship between husband and wife since ancient times. "The Rites of the Zhou Dynasty" talks about the meaning of marriage: "Be respectful and cautious, pay attention to the uprightness, and then kiss each other. This is the general etiquette, which distinguishes men and women and establishes the righteousness of husband and wife." The etiquette of the Zhou Dynasty tells people that marriage begins with respect and caution. , starts with being upright, maintaining a cautious attitude, and formally entering into marriage. This is a solid foundation for your own sweet family.
? "Tiefa couple" is the special name for the first wife. So why is it called "hair knot"? This is a term derived from weddings.
"Etiquette. It is recorded in "The Wedding of Scholars": "When the master enters the house, he personally takes off the woman's tassel." According to current sayings, on the wedding night, the groom personally removes the colorful ribbons that tie the bride's hair. Weddings in the Zhou Dynasty had the ceremony of taking off one's hair, but the practice of "tying hair" has not yet been seen. However, the word "hair knot" appears in poems of the Han Dynasty. Su Wu has a poem: "Tie hair as husband and wife, and the love between them is unquestionable"; Similarly, in the ancient Yuefu poem "The Peacock Flies Southeast" in the Han Dynasty, there is also the poem "Tie your hair and share a pillow".
? It can be seen that the ceremony of "tying hair" was included in weddings in the Han Dynasty at the latest. On the wedding night, the bride and groom cut off a lock of hair and tied it up in the order of men on the left and women on the right, as a token of eternal union. This was the highlight of the wedding ceremony of the ancients, and the term "hair-tying couple" comes from this ancient ritual.
?This ancient ritual is also recorded in the folk customs of the Song Dynasty, "Tokyo Menghua Lu." "Marrying a Wife" contains "hair-tying" supplies: "Men are left on the left and women are on the right, leaving a little hair. The two families produce pieces, hairpins, wooden combs, hair and beards, etc., which is called a 'combination bun'." "The pieces of satin, hairpins, wooden combs and a little hair given by both men and women when they get married are all necessary wedding supplies for 'tying their hair'. After tying the hair, use two colorful knots to connect them. Therefore, drinking each other is called "exchanging cups of wine"
Chao Cai's "Eighteen Midnight Songs One" of the Tang Dynasty specifically describes the situation of couples tying their hair: Nong is cutting off his hair, and Lang is. They also part their hair, looking for a place where there is no one, and tie it into a knot of one heart.
?The couple's hair shows their firm intention to be united forever, and it is also a kind of vow, just like the friendship mentioned in the ancient poems. : We are married as husband and wife, and we vow to live together until we grow old together. Therefore, only the first couple (original spouse) in the first marriage is called the "married couple", and the first wife is called the "married wife".