So, how to improve your self-confidence
Everyone has setbacks, but don't doubt your ability because of temporary setbacks, and then form a kind of pressure.
Keep a clear head when encountering setbacks, face the reality, face it bravely and don't run away. Calmly analyze the whole process of the incident, whether it is caused by its own problems or external factors. Or both? If it is your own factor, then you have to reflect on yourself. Why did you make such a mistake? What should be done to avoid similar incidents in the future? What has happened, don't rush to investigate the responsibility or blame yourself, but think about whether there is still room to reverse Gan Kun. If so, what should be done to minimize the loss or pain? What can I do to feel more comfortable?
When you encounter difficulties, please remember one sentence-there are no eternal difficulties and no insurmountable difficulties, just the length of time. Compared with life, difficulty is just a pigment, a pigment that adds color to life. When you are in trouble, don't run away from the problem, and don't drown your sorrows in wine. There is a saying: "If you drown your worries with wine, you will add to your worries!" As long as you have confidence in yourself, nothing will stop you.
Then how can we improve our self-confidence? First of all, we should overcome inferiority complex, build up self-confidence, and say "I can do it, I can do it" in our hearts every day. Others can do it, so can I! Everyone is a human being, with a head and hands, and similar intelligence. You can do anything if you work hard and use the right methods.
Believe in yourself, I will be able to do it;
Others say I can do it, and I can only do it if I work hard;
If you can't do it today, try it tomorrow;
I can face it squarely, but I can do it;
Not only do it yourself, but also help others;
Support each other and cooperate with everyone;
Strive for the comprehensive line, the college entrance examination can.
Secondly, you can keep a sweet smile every day. People who have no self-confidence often have dull eyes and pull a long face, while ambitious people always have bright eyes and bright smiles. People's facial expressions are consistent with people's inner experiences. Laughter is a sign of happiness. Laughter can make people have confidence and strength; Laughter can make people feel comfortable and refreshed; Laughter can make people forget troubles and get rid of them. Learn to laugh, learn to smile, learn to laugh when you are frustrated, and you will improve your self-confidence.
Finally, we must hold our heads high and learn to actively associate with others. People who are frustrated by setbacks often hang their heads, which is a sign of failure, lack of strength and loss of confidence. Successful people, proud people, successful people, always hold their heads high and high-spirited. Holding one's head high is a sign of strength and confidence.
A positive self-image and a healthy attitude towards life can enhance your immunity to stress diseases. Self-doubt and loss of confidence in one's abilities are common. Anyone, no matter how confident he is, will inevitably lack self-confidence when facing challenges. This is usually a defensive response to stress. Long-term loss of self-confidence will affect the understanding of one's own abilities, and stress will arise. Accompanied by emotional, psychological or physical problems. Many mental health experts believe that psychological barriers such as anxiety and depression are caused by the contradiction between self-image and other people's views on your purpose.
Therefore, if you can't overcome anxiety or depression, you should seek the help of experts. The primary goal of treatment is to change your self-awareness. Once you find your self-worth, the stress will be relieved and the symptoms will disappear. When you look in the mirror, are you carefree or anxious? A positive self-image is a sign of confidence. If you think hard, you will find positive aspects in life.
The following measures are aimed at improving your self-confidence and improving your life:
List the positive aspects of your personality, and you will know yourself better.
● Give a positive evaluation of your success.
Choose an aspect of your life and try to change it.
● Set achievable goals.
● Don't change too many aspects of your life too quickly.
● Find a suitable role model instead of an unrealistic idol to learn.
Don't dwell on past failures and misjudgments.
● Don't use alcohol to stimulate confidence. Self-evaluation: Write down your strengths and successes, focus on a positive life and enhance your self-confidence.
A person's lack of successful experience, objective expectation and evaluation, negative self-suggestion to suppress self-confidence, physical or psychological defects, bad life circumstances and other reasons lead to inferiority. This kind of psychology is often manifested as depression, pessimism and loneliness. If left unchecked, it will become a part of people's personality, which is difficult to change, seriously affecting people's social interaction and inhibiting people's ability development. So how to overcome inferiority complex?
First of all, we should consciously choose to associate with people who are cheerful, optimistic, enthusiastic, kind, respectful and caring for others. In the process of communication, your attention will be attracted by others, you will feel the joys and sorrows of others, jump out of the small circle of personal psychological activities, and your mood will become cheerful. At the same time, in communication, we can know others and ourselves in many ways, and through conscious comparison, we can know ourselves correctly, adjust our self-evaluation and improve our self-confidence.
Secondly, we should constantly improve our self-evaluation, make a comprehensive and correct analysis of ourselves, look at our own strengths, think about our own successful experience, and constantly hint and motivate ourselves: "I will succeed" and "I can do what others can do, and I am not worse than them". After a period of exercise, our sense of inferiority will be gradually overcome.
Finally, we should find ways to continuously increase our successful experience, find what we can as a pilot, and strive to succeed. If you succeed in your first action, you will increase your confidence, and then you will succeed again and again. With the accumulation of successful experience, your inferiority will be replaced by self-confidence.
Careless personality: concentrate on whatever you do.
Careful inspection and serious treatment can reduce mistakes and avoid unnecessary mistakes. Therefore, the spirit of "concentration", "carefulness" and "seriousness" is a good medicine to overcome the problem of carelessness.
While enhancing self-confidence, we should adjust our mentality and overcome our inferiority complex. How to prevent and adjust their inferiority complex?
(1) childhood education: inferiority complex began to form in the family at an early age, so childhood education is very important. Parents should not expect their children beyond their actual abilities, but should objectively observe and recognize their natural conditions. We should focus on cultivating his practical ability, teaching students in accordance with their aptitude and trying to reassure him. Success requires firm perseverance, and it is necessary to help children cultivate a good psychological character.
(2) Turn disadvantages into advantages: inferiority will make people shy and retreat, and it will also make people work hard. In a sense, inferiority is a stepping stone to success. Find it, admit its existence, and try to make up for it, so as to achieve the goal of life.
(3) Serial escape method: If you are incompetent, don't force you to do it at once. Instead, we should start with the easier people, gain self-confidence, and then do more complicated things, so as to achieve our goals step by step. It's called serial prison break.
(4) Understanding of * * * vocalization: For people with inferiority complex, we should get rid of isolation and loneliness, tell people around us about their confusion, help them share their worries, understand and understand their distress, and strive for the understanding of * * * vocalization by people around them and their families, which has a good effect on eliminating inferiority complex.
(5) Behavior correction method: We should make a step-by-step training plan according to our own weaknesses and implement it persistently. If you try to speak at the rally, take the initiative to contact strangers; You can formulate topics in advance, practice dialogues, and improve your language skills and social means. You can also observe the people around you and find that others are not as perfect as you think, and there is no discrimination against yourself, so you won't be "ashamed of yourself" again.
(6) Group psychotherapy: For overcoming inferiority complex, reasoning, analysis and evaluation, teaching strategies and encouragement and comfort in general psychotherapy are all useful. In psychotherapy, people with the same experience are organized into collective groups to comfort each other, discuss with each other, encourage enterprising and eliminate inferiority. For those who have inferiority complex that is difficult to overcome by themselves, it will be more beneficial to participate in this organized self-help group and carry out self-help psychotherapy.
(7) Treatment of accompanying psychological disorder: If you have obvious anxiety, depression, insomnia and autonomic nervous dysfunction, you should seek medical attention in time and use appropriate drugs for treatment. When inferiority complex is accompanied by neurasthenia, depression, psychosomatic diseases, etc. It is best to stay in hospital for a short time.
After doing the above two things, you should learn to release stress. Only by doing this can you completely change yourself. Here are ten tips to keep you away from stress:
Do you think you are going crazy? The pressure from work and family makes you breathless, so do something to save yourself before the pressure threatens your health!
1. Only worry about one thing at a time. Women are often more anxious than men. Researchers at Harvard University conducted a six-week study on 166 married couples, and found that women are more likely to feel stressed than men because they love to think in all directions. She will consider her job, weight, the health of each family member and so on.
2. Concentrate for a few minutes every day. For example, the job now is to type this report well and put everything else behind you and not think about it. During the break from work, you can also take 20 minutes to relax, just take a walk, regardless of work, just focus on everything around you, such as what you see, hear, feel, smell and so on.
3. Speak or write out your concerns. Keep a diary or talk to friends, at least you won't feel lonely and helpless. American medical experts once divided some people with rheumatoid arthritis or asthma into several groups, and one group perfunctorily recorded what they did every day. The other group was asked to keep a diary carefully every day, including their fears and pains. As a result, the researchers found that the latter group rarely felt worried and anxious because of their own diseases.
No matter how busy you are, you must exercise. The researchers found that after 30 minutes of cycling, the stress level of the subjects dropped by 25%. Go to the gym, take a walk for 30 minutes, or do some stretching when you get up.
5. Enjoy a massage. Not only traditional full-body massage, but also foot massage, manicure or beauty treatment can relax your spirit.
6. Slow down your speech. Maybe your desk is full of documents to read every day, your right hand is answering the phone and your left hand is turning over the information. You have to deal with all kinds of people and say all kinds of things. Then you must remember to keep an optimistic attitude and slow down.
7. Don't take it too seriously. You might as well tell a little joke to your friends. Everyone laughed, the atmosphere became active and you relaxed. In fact, laughter can not only reduce tension, but also enhance the body's immunity.
8. Don't let negative voices surround you and drive you crazy. The boss may say, you can't do this or that. In fact, you have many advantages, but the boss didn't find them.
9. Let yourself completely relax for a day. Read a novel, sing a song, have a cup of tea, or just sit by the window and stare blankly. At this time, the key is your inner body odor, a kind of tranquility and a kind of relaxation.
10. Remember at least one good thing that happened today. No matter how hard and unhappy you are today, you should share a good thing with your family when you get home.
When you change yourself slowly according to the above methods, you will find that life can be like this, colleagues and friends can be so close, and you can spend every day happily.