They say that even if you like another boy, you can take the initiative to take 99 steps to him, but confession is the last step he must take.
From a man's point of view, I basically agree-because if you use game terms to describe it, confession is a hard mode of flirting with Hanzhong. If you are not a very advanced player, it will be much safer to chase a boy by "attracting" him, asking him to meet him, talking about some interesting things, proper physical contact and so on. It is better to take the initiative to confess.
But I still can't stop. Every now and then, girls come to ask me. I didn't hide my confession yesterday. As a result, he didn't reply/reject me/said that he always regarded me as a friend. What should I do? Aunt Yuan, please help me. ...
In fact, at this time, the advice I can give is generally only one sentence: if you confess failure, you will fail. Try to pretend that nothing happened and just continue to get along with him naturally.
This sentence seems plain, even if it has never been said, but it is indeed the most direct, effective and fastest way to turn things around.
More importantly, girls who can really understand and play this sentence will often become high-profile players in love, successfully control the hard mode and turn defeat into victory.
To make this topic clear, we must first understand why most people don't support girls' confession.
The so-called "social culture encourages men to chase women more" or "girls profess that boys are not easy to cherish" are all appearances-in fact, no matter whether they are boys or girls, those who profess their love will readily agree, while those who profess their dislike will inevitably be rejected and hurt, which has nothing to do with gender.
Do not believe you think about it, are there few examples of boys confessing to their favorite girls and being issued a good friend card or being a spare tire?
The fundamental difference is that, due to the influence of social culture, boys and girls have completely different mentality in the face of "confession failure".
When a boy admits a girl's failure, it is often easier for him to treat her with a normal heart. Whether she continues to pursue or give up, she is relatively calm. However, a girl admits that a boy needs more courage and more pressure to overcome, so once she faces failure, she is more likely to have psychological burden and embarrassment and confusion.
They are more likely than boys to think that confession failure is a very serious and "shameful" thing.
But is this really the case?
I often emphasize to the students that your world is what you are-it's really not just chicken soup.
Because your thoughts will be expressed through your words and deeds, and people around you will naturally get them. If you are more determined and infectious, they will be easily influenced by you.
For example, if you think it is really shameful to face the failure of confession, then when you face this man again, you will look very humble, as if you have done something wrong, and everything you say and do reveals a sense of "please". Then it is easy for boys to receive the message that the atmosphere with you is awkward and you will become unattractive in front of him.
But if you think it's nothing, or even pretend that the confession of failure has never happened, you can still naturally chat with this boy, meet him and get along as before. Then boys can also receive your positive aura and feel that confession is just a trivial matter.
I was confessed by a girl before.
She is actually a lovely girl, and we get along very well. I was just preparing to study in France at that time, and I may be abroad in the next few years. I couldn't promise her anything, so I told her my real situation now and said it was better to be friends first.
But since then, her attitude towards me has changed strangely-if I don't take the initiative to contact her, she will be very anxious and often leave me messages late at night, telling me that she misses me very much; And I took the initiative to contact her, and she was not very willing to communicate with me normally. She even said a few words, "I don't think we should contact each other, otherwise I can't help feeling for you."
After less than two weeks, she sent me a message saying that she was sad to see my avatar and dialog box every day, and then deleted me.
I thought it was her deliberate decision, and I was embarrassed to disturb her, but two days later she applied to add me and said, "I still miss you." ...
To tell the truth, by that time, I was reluctant to add her friends to contact her-not because she liked me, nor because she told me I didn't agree, but because she brought me only great pressure and deep helplessness at this moment.
I really don't know what to do with her.
In fact, from God's point of view, when this girl really failed, it was not the moment when I refused her confession, but her reaction to the "confession failure" incident.
Another fact is that I often thought of her when I was studying in France. I think she was a very interesting girl when we first met. I thought we all liked Shunji Iwai's movies. I spent the whole night talking about beautiful camera language. I think we will go for an outing together. When she ran, her skirt flew up. ...
I don't think so. I don't like her at all. If I hadn't acted after my confession, maybe I would even take the initiative to pursue her.
Another secret is that men's world generally worships the strong. The aggressive behavior of "voluntary confession" may not necessarily cause men's disgust and contempt. A considerable number of men will appreciate this girl and start to pay attention to her.
He refused you, not necessarily because he didn't like you, but probably because of the same objective reasons as me before, or because he felt a little sudden, or because he had a little crush on you, but he still wanted to know more about you. ...
If faced with such a situation, it is especially necessary to put on a high profile that "winning or losing is a common thing for military strategists." It is easy for boys to think that you are particularly cool and have a strong heart, which makes them doubly attracted to you.
This is a method used by many higher-level girls-attracting boys' attention through confession, and then acting very chic and calm after confession, thus stimulating boys' interest and even infatuation.
Of course, this also needs stronger inner support.
Finally, I ended with a sentence I saw on the Internet, which was a boy's answer to the question "How to treat girls who actively pursue themselves" and also gave you a little confidence in girls who chase boys:
If one day you succeed in your confession, it is not because you touched me, but because I firmly believe that I can love you more.