In short, responsibility and responsibility, every generation has come this way.
When I was young, my income was low, but when I was young, I was more suitable for having children, and I had the energy to manage children and grow up with them.
Forty or fifty years old, with high income, is not suitable for having children, and is not the best age to have children.
In the 1970s and 1980s, the older generation had a low income and gave birth to seven or eight children. Many believers worked hard at that time.
Nowadays, one or two children are enough for most people, and the cost of raising children is high.
So why do you want everything to be good and expensive when you know that you are an ordinary person? What can you use to support your ambition? I can live an ordinary and simple life without money.
Do you think that if you earn more, it will be lower? There are mortgages and car loans, but from another perspective, how can a house and a car be called low income?
In the past, China people had no property of their own all their lives. Most of them are renting houses, and all the income is used for daily life. Now is the first time to have a house and a car to repay the loan, turning private property into reality after 30 years. This is called enjoying first, then consuming. From this inverted consumption view, are young people owners or poor people? !
The so-called life pressure is caused by the ownership of assets with reverse consumption. If your income and consumption are normal, there will be no pressure. How much water and how much mud can't make ends meet, you can't bear the loan.
So, don't mention stress, it's self-inflicted.
Our income is quite high now, and life is very easy without the pressure of RV loan. Therefore, low-income families still have children, and it is not a problem to arrange a son and a half daughter every day.
Did primitive people have the concept of income? Then why descendants? Do animals also make money?
Similarly, why should India, whose income is lower than ours and poorer than ours, have children?
Why do you have to work and eat when your income is so low? Still breathing?
On the contrary, the lower the income, the more people want to invest in the stock market, thinking about buying a house and thinking about double eleven.
Human nature is human, reason is only a tool, not an end, and absolute reason is extinction, that is, nothing ~ ~ ~
So, follow your instinct, there is no obligation, no responsibility, and no morality ~ ~ ~ Just the nature of your lower body and the warmth of your heart ~ ~ ~
Poor people can't have children? This is the basic right to be a man, and it should have nothing to do with wealth! Rich families have many broken families, and poor families have many happy lives. Look at your personal feelings!
Because you have to have children sooner or later, you have to do things at any age. You can't have children when you are old. Why do you study hard? Isn't it just to find a job you like in the future? Moreover, most people are ordinary people, so don't always think about being a dink, being a strong professional woman (older) and not getting married. You will find that the so-called older women Dink finally got married or had children, not for men, but for herself. If you are not dissatisfied with older women being inferior to men, don't think too much.
This is a custom and a responsibility. Human reproduction is a historical law.
After the country opened the second child policy, families did not want to respond to the policy and gave birth to a second child. Some people say that having a second child is something rich people do, but looking around, we find that most families with a second child are not very economically superior, and some families with unstable income are actively having a second child, but middle-income families are hesitant.
Facing the problem of whether to have children is really a headache. The reason why people are reluctant to have children is actually because of excessive pressure. Nowadays, many people are only children, and they are busy buying houses while taking care of their children. There are parents and elders to take care of. They have given birth to their first child and need education. This kind of pressure seems to be unbearable for young people. They are very busy. Having another child will crush the younger generation, so I stopped.
Rural neighbors are troubled by the old idea of having many children and grandchildren.
Xiao An lives in a second-tier city and always goes back to his hometown every holiday. In my hometown. I found a new neighbor moved in from the countryside. There are two children in the neighbor's house. Dabao is four years old and Bao Xiao is only half a year old. Because we are neighbors, we talked briefly when we met. When asked about the reason for having a second child, the neighbor explained. Having a second child is because most families in rural areas have multiple children. Although their families are neither rich nor expensive, they have the ability to have a second child and give them multiple companions. Other relatives have brothers and sisters, and children can't say no.
Hearing this, Ann couldn't help sighing for herself. The income of herself and her husband adds up to more than one month 1000 yuan, but she takes care of a child. The expenses in her life are mainly used for mortgage and car loan, and she also gives the elderly living expenses every month. In terms of children's education expenses, the proportion of expenditure is large, and there is almost nothing left in one month. She simply does not dare to have a second child.
In the subsequent chat, Lingju also revealed that if there is an opportunity in the future, she can have three more children. Neighbors think that the more children there are, the happier they will be, and the children will be happier if they have many brothers and sisters in the future.
In fact, it has become a common phenomenon that low-income families are more willing to have a second child. Nowadays, the poor are the main force to have a second child, but those families who have a decent life don't like to have children. What is the reason for this phenomenon?
Low-income families are more willing to have a second child, and most of them cannot escape for three reasons. Their courage is commendable.
First, raising children to prevent old age
In China's traditional thought, when you get old, you have to rely on your children to provide for your old age. Many people will stay with their children for a long time to help them support their old age in the future. They will think that it is unfilial to send old people to nursing homes when they are old, so some families give birth again.
They will think that if they have more children, they will be more likely to help them support the elderly and die when they grow up. In the future, children can spend money on themselves, and they will be more spoiled when they are old, so they don't have to worry about things at home. They regard having children as an investment, believing that the efforts they made when they were young will have higher returns in the future.
Second, the old concept: the pursuit of quantity rather than quality.
In some high-income families, it is very important for them to educate their children and think that their children will have a bright future, which is the key point. However, for poor families, they think that the more children they have, the happier they will be. They will not invest a lot of money and time in their children's education, but only consider raising their children. This situation also makes them willing to have more children.
Third, son preference.
After the first child is a daughter, he will gamble. One more child may be a son, who can help him support his old age and give himself a natural death. Having such a preference for boys will make many families willing to invest in a second child. They think that as long as they can raise their son successfully, they can drive the whole family to get rich, and having a son can get a lot of returns. People who have this idea will try their best to have children, but if they can't give their children a good education and put the burden of the whole family on them, then the children will not grow up happily.
Many middle-class couples, with stable income and good work units, can be self-sufficient when they are old, and they don't need their children to help them support their old age, which will also reduce the idea of having a second child. Middle-income families will be more willing to invest in their children's education, let them get the best education, send their children to cram schools and remedial classes, and let them develop in an all-round way. Double the cost will be unaffordable.
Everyone has his own opinion. You can think about it according to your actual situation before making a decision. What do you think of having a second child? Is your family a second child family?