Which tone is more important, family destruction or separation?

The family is ruined and the tone is heavier.

Family destruction means family bankruptcy and population death. Describe the tragic situation of family misfortune

Family destruction and death: from Biography of the Book of Jin and Wenqiao: "Hui Kun was harmed by Duan Pi _, which shows his loyalty. Although he failed in meritorious service, his family was ruined and he died, so he should be praised and admired to comfort his family's hope. "

Separated from each other: describes a family being forced to separate. "Mencius Hui Liang Wang Shangshang": "When taking people; Make it impossible for them to farm to support their parents. Parents are cold and hungry; Brothers and wives are separated. "