After marriage, a man has several lovers in his heart. From lovers to couples is a wonderful process, but many men are completely different before marriage. After marriage, I will always dislike my wife in all aspects. At this time, a man will want another woman in his heart. Let me see how many lovers there are in a married man's heart.
After marriage, a man has several lovers in his heart.
When it comes to mistresses, people will definitely think that they are women who ruin their married life and fool around with their husbands. However, the mistress mentioned here is not what we usually think.
A mistress who lives in a man's heart may not have had sex with a man. This mistress may have only met a man once, or had initial contact. She may be in the past tense, in the present continuous tense, but she may also be far away ... She may be a man's first girlfriend, an ambiguous colleague in the workplace, a beautiful woman passing by, a confidante ... anything is possible.
So you can't say that your husband is cheating or having an affair, because these mistresses only exist in men's hearts, not necessarily in your real life.
Psychological sustenance
Married life seems happy, but trivial matters affect the feelings between husband and wife every day, so there will be seven years of itching. Women will become more and more nagging, men will become less and less romantic, life will become dull, troubles will increase, and many men will begin to get tired of married life.
The biggest difference between women and men is that women have a strong sense of responsibility for their families. When women get married, no matter how dull and difficult life is, they will experience the extraordinary in the dull and see hope in the difficulties, because they have a strong sense of responsibility for this family and will not easily say divorce. Men, on the other hand, are mostly influenced by physiological desires, which blind them and make them do something wrong.
A mistress who lives in a man's heart is his psychological sustenance. The mistress lives in his heart and does not appear in real life. Men put their dissatisfaction with life and their yearning for life on the mistress in their hearts. She has all the advantages of a wife, except all the shortcomings, and is a perfect goddess. It is precisely because a man has this mistress in his heart that he won't be philandering in reality. This little three-dimensional is tied to your marriage.
The object of fantasy
All human beings have sexual fantasies, and men's sexual fantasies appear very early. When they were babies, breastfeeding was a phenomenon. Ordinary babies will touch their mothers' breasts with their hands after eating breast milk, seeking a kind of psychological satisfaction, which is the embodiment of male sexual fantasy.
Men like to seek excitement and freshness, but wives are rarely willing to try new moves in husband and wife's life, which can't give men new feelings and make men more and more tired. In this way, a man will hide a mistress in his heart. This mistress, like the sexy actress in the film, has a graceful figure and can be competent for all kinds of difficult movements, giving men a feeling of flying and making them enjoy it. When a man and his wife live a husband-and-wife life, this mistress will jump out of the man's heart and make the husband-and-wife life more harmonious and happy.
There is no right or wrong in sexual fantasy itself, because it is inherent in life, and women also have sexual fantasies. Therefore, we don't need to care too much about this mistress in men's hearts.
Although this mistress in a man's heart rarely affects his marriage feelings, women are also jealous no matter how cultivated they are. If you know this secret of a man, you will certainly make a mountain out of a molehill and not give him a good life. Therefore, men will not easily tell all this to women, especially the women around them.
Almost every man has had a colorful love life. A better man will keep Xiao San in his private house, while some excessive men will dig her out of his heart, let her get involved in real life and become a third party to affect his marriage life. After all, having a lover and a mistress seems to be a capital for men to show off, and men will be proud of it.
For women, if your husband has only a mistress in his heart, then we should not take it to heart. The more men stop, the more they resist. But if he brings his mistress into your marriage, you don't have to be polite to him. Don't be divorced by these mistresses.
After marriage, how many lovers live in a man's heart?
In May this year, Xiao Chen, a member of Absolute 100 Marriage Network, said that in his mind, there has always been a perfect woman: beautiful hair, delicate eyes and graceful … but he is almost 30 years old, and he has never met such a woman, so he refused to fall in love with others rashly.
Xiao Chen also said that although there are women who are affectionate and righteous to themselves and have a good impression on themselves, they are always unwilling to accept their feelings and are afraid of missing the meeting with the dream person, so they wait and wait, and their parents urge their marriage, and their friends are anxious, which makes a group of people unhappy and makes them feel at a loss. I don't know whether waiting can bring a happy ending, let alone whether the so-called dream person really exists.
Julie's point of view: In fact, men and women will inevitably idealize their lovers before meeting them, and set the rules according to the mold they want. However, as the internet says, the ideal is full and the reality is skinny. If you blindly pursue your lover like your dream lover, the result will be more likely to disappoint or even despair. After all, the perfect person in the world is not easy to find, so if you meet the right person and feel very excited, then love it well.
Unforgettable first love
Nalan said: "If life is just like first sight, why draw a fan in the autumn wind?" This poem expresses the beauty and indifference when we first met. Equally beautiful, there is first love.
I once met a man on a trip. He is 32 years old and now his girlfriend is 30 years old. I have been in love for two years, but I have been reluctant to step into marriage. I asked why, am I infatuated with my girlfriend or my first girlfriend? I am only with my current girlfriend because she is a very good woman and cares about herself. In the case consultation of Absolute 100, there are also many confused women who write letters complaining that their boyfriends don't pay enough attention to themselves, but they know their ex-girlfriends like the back of their hands.
Julie's point of view: The first love was mostly in "Seeds of Love". At that time, the feelings were simple and beautiful, and most men devoted themselves to doting on the women around them. However, once separated, there are many regrets, which will inevitably be remembered. That's why some people say that they loved once and can't love again. Some people say that true love only happens once. Because men become more and more rational after they set foot on the society, they put more energy and thoughts on hard work. Even if they love each other, it is difficult to have the care and romantic warmth of their young lovers. At this time, what he needs more may be a woman who loves, understands and tolerates him.
Love each other.
Because of marriage, men also have responsibilities and obligations.
Home is a man's harbor, and it is a warm-hearted lamp that men come back from hard work outside. Women, on the other hand, have become people living in men's hearts. They do housework for him, give birth to children for him, and attach colorful fireworks to his charming face ... The days of caring for each other are as light as water, and men know that women have made efforts for themselves and are more attached to their small family.
This woman who lives in a man's heart has become synonymous with home.
Julie's point of view: it is a big deal for a man to get married. A woman who can go hand in hand with men and help each other naturally holds considerable weight in his heart.
Girl's bosom friend
"More friends, less lovers" is the definition of confidante.
The so-called confidante is a female friend who is spiritually independent, spiritually equal and capable of being profound. It is not only an emotional trash can to pour out troubles, but also a bird's nest tired of looking for a home after being injured in the outside world. Therefore, many men want to have a confidante.
Julie's point of view: confidant is hard to find, and confidante is even harder to find. Women have a bad feeling about the beauty that men do, so it is very important to grasp the "degree" and prevent the "confidante" from becoming a "femme fatale".
Give up the constant maternal love
Just as many women have Oedipus complex, most men also have deep Oedipus complex. When many men are looking for a girlfriend, they will find someone who is similar to their mother in personality and lifestyle. Absolutely 100 There are also many members on the online dating service: Why does the husband always compare himself with his mother-in-law, accusing himself of being less diligent and cleaner than her mother-in-law, and should learn more from her mother-in-law? ...