When I read this poem, it was autumn, and I was sitting by the river, and the leaves were dying. In my depression, I seem to see such a woman: in rags, with a sad face, struggling to come to me. It turns out that literature can travel through time and space like lightning and hit the soul directly.
To my surprise, thousands of years later, some modern women's fate is strikingly similar to hers, and some are even worse than that described by "self-protection". A few years ago, it was reported on the Internet that a woman in Guangzhou had been a full-time wife to take care of her two children for many years after giving birth, and the whole family relied on her husband to do business outside to support the whole family. She abandoned her and her children after her husband cheated on her. She left her two children and jumped off a tall building, ending her life. And that man is still living happily Recently, it was reported on the Internet that a woman was beaten by her husband and her nose was bitten off. There are often programs on TV to mediate family conflicts, which reveal that men go out to find mistresses and go home to abuse their wives. There are also some female stars who are even very popular. After marrying into a rich family, she was swept out of the house a few years later and was photographed as old and gloomy. It's not as good as the abandoned wife in the ancient book of songs who finally said, "It's no use thinking." Come strong, at least she doesn't want to go, she wants to live strong.
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? Self-protection means human in the old saying, and male in the animal kingdom. This is a creature that has been vying for fame and profit among human beings since ancient times. Since ancient times, emperors and princes are all men, which shows that they like power and fame more than women and are more keen on pursuing success. As the saying goes: it is easy to get priceless, but difficult to have a lover. He added: Men have been unlucky since ancient times. Men usually focus on their careers, and children's love is only temporary, but for women, affection and family are lifelong things. Even if some women have a successful career and an unhappy marriage, it is not satisfactory for her. Therefore, women will attach great importance to their feelings and put them on a man. This is called love. But the kind of love that gives up self and devotes herself wholeheartedly is sometimes risky after all.
? Junichi Watanabe, a famous Japanese writer, described in Husband that a man will turn love into affection after marriage, especially a woman will reduce her enthusiasm for women after giving birth. On the contrary, they will be interested in other women outside marriage, and they are likely to have extramarital affairs. Some people say that men need different women at all stages. When they are young, they need maternal love. When they were young, they loved their sisters. When they are adults, they love their sisters. Middle-aged people love their daughters. In other words, a woman should be his mother, his sister, his sister and daughter. Few women in the world have this ability. Because women are old after all. Jia Pingwa, a famous writer, also wrote in On Women that if women want to live well in this patriarchal world, they must have their own pursuits and independent personality and attitude. State is interpreted as femininity in the author's article. Women who are financially independent and attractive will certainly be better than those who stay at home all day, but it is difficult to guarantee their fate of not being abandoned. For example, Zhang Ailing, Zhang Youyi and Xiao Hong.
? In the emotional world, the better a man is, the less likely he is to be controlled, and the greater his desire for offside and strength. For example, the ancient emperors were not three palaces and six courtyards, and modern corrupt officials often had many mistresses. If ordinary people have money, they will have three, four and five. The rich second generation are not married, so their girlfriends are dazzling. If you have no money, you can go to WeChat, Momo, cheat on eating and drinking, and cheat on feelings. After all, it is women who suffer. Therefore, self-protection has been the case since ancient times, as has Qin Xianglian, Chen Shimei, Wang Baochuan and Xue Pinggui. A man needs to be trained. If you devote yourself to him blindly, he will only eat you to death, and his desire will continue to expand. But some men can't manage it well, such as local ruffians and hooligans. Self-protection in the word rogue is a man who has existed since ancient times and is a rogue. There was a woman in the Tang Dynasty who did a great job and killed her directly. That is Wu Zetian. Of course, in modern times, you have to leave. Some people have a hard time leaving. Just a few days ago, it was said on the Internet that a man in Taizhou abused his wife for a long time, and her wife wanted a divorce, so he hacked his father-in-law's family to death.
? Therefore, women must have a stronger heart than men and a career that they can rely on more than men in order to play in this world. It was wrong for teachers and adults to teach us to be ladies when we were young. A lady doesn't have to do it, just pretend. Men are used to coax, the key is whether you have the ability to elbow him. And do you have a pair of eyes that find a good man around you, that is, a warm man that people often say? That kind of person is rare in the world. If you meet him, you must cherish him and treat him wholeheartedly, because you met a lover.