Those who often complain about objective things never look for reasons from themselves, and sometimes even think that fate is playing tricks on themselves. In fact, this has nothing to do with the god of fate, because fate is in our own hands. As long as you can reflect on yourself every day, you will make fewer mistakes.
Some people will feel this way. Hearing them reflect on themselves is just like teachers educating students, because when we go to school, we often hear teachers say something similar: "Go back and reflect on yourself and see where you are wrong." "Don't emphasize the reason, but reflect on yourself and find out the crux", and so on. But what the teacher said is really reasonable. "teacher. Therefore, preaching and teaching is also chaotic. " The teacher's purpose in saying this is to educate students to learn to reflect on themselves. If we can really do this, then we will benefit a lot ourselves.
So what exactly is introspection? The so-called introspection is to examine yourself. Review whether there are any mistakes in your words and deeds and whether there is anything that needs improvement. The reason why people should always reflect on themselves is that there is no perfect person, and more or less they will make mistakes of one kind or another. Especially as the younger generation, they lack social experience, and it is the time when they are young and energetic, so it is inevitable that they can't grasp the discretion when they speak and do things. If it's your family or your close friends, they may remind you out of kindness, but if it's someone who has nothing to do with you, people won't care about you, so you need to know your mistakes through self-reflection and examine your behavior. So how should we reflect on ourselves? You can do this in the following ways:
First of all, reflect on the interpersonal relationship of the day. Let's see if there are any problems in today's interpersonal relationship, if there are any problems in words and deeds when getting along with colleagues, and if others take their own mistakes into account when they are rude to themselves. ...
Second, reflect on the way you do things. Reflect on what you did today, whether you handled it properly, whether you need to make further corrections, and how to do it better. ...
In addition, we should also reflect on how our work is progressing. Think back to what you have done so far, how much your goal has been achieved, and whether you have made progress than before ... The purpose of this introspection is to help you find a better way to do things, find a better direction for yourself, and help you improve your communication skills. None of these can be bought with money. In this way, if you can persist in self-reflection every day, then nothing can stop you from living a happy life.
As far as we are concerned, when interacting with people, we often don't deliberately think about what to do, what not to do, what to do and what not to do, but everything goes with the flow. If it is not necessary, we will not recall and think after the completion, nor will we deliberately analyze the gains and losses. Therefore, when people who have been in contact with us afterwards talk about their original experiences, they must seize this opportunity to reflect on themselves.
There is a young leader in a certain unit, who is in close contact with Xiao Zhang of this unit. Once he happened to talk about his first contact with Xiao Zhang a few years ago. Xiao Zhang seems to have some impressions, but he can't remember them clearly. It seems that the leader came to Xiao Zhang's office for something. Xiao Zhang talked to him in the impression that he was impressed, but he couldn't remember what he said at all.
He told Xiao Zhang that he was almost always asked by Xiao Zhang. An inappropriate metaphor is like interrogating a prisoner and asking him where he graduated, whether he has any research results, what specific goals he has, and so on. Although Xiao Zhang had a gentle attitude, he was still a little uncomfortable at that time. Why? At that time, Xiao Zhang was a very powerful person, but they were colleagues, but the length of time was different. Their conversation could have been more harmonious and pleasant, but because of Xiao Zhang's condescending, their conversation was very embarrassing.
Therefore, whenever something unfortunate happens, don't forget to look for reasons from yourself, do a good job of daily introspection, and you will see a brand-new yourself.