The sun and the moon go by, the four seasons alternate, cold comes and heat comes, and in a blink of an eye it is the autumnal equinox.
Time is changing, and so are people. Life is like this, you know autumn when the leaves fall, and you know your friends when you are in trouble.
Some people will glance at you and pass you by, and some people will stick with you through thick and thin and never leave you.
Time is the best witness. Only in the most difficult times can people see everything in the world clearly and understand who their true friends are.
Time knows people, and adversity knows the heart
Zhuangzi said: "The human heart is more dangerous than the mountains and rivers, and it is difficult to know the sky."
Zhuangzi tells us: The human heart is more dangerous than the mountains and rivers. To be sinister, guessing people's hearts is harder than climbing to the sky.
But true feelings can withstand the polishing of time, but fragile friendship cannot withstand wind and rain.
In the late Qing Dynasty, there was a shopkeeper who started from scratch. His business became more and more prosperous, and he became a famous and wealthy man at that time.
Since then, there has been an endless stream of people visiting.
Among them, most of them came to curry favor with the shopkeeper and wanted to find out the way to success. The shopkeeper was flooded with praises all day long and had no intention of taking care of the business of the shop himself.
At this time, Uncle Zhang, a long-time friend, came to visit and said to the shopkeeper: "No matter how successful the business is, you should keep a low profile and focus on the business, and don't get carried away by these intrigues and flattery. ."
But the shopkeeper couldn't listen to this and still went his own way.
One day, there was a problem with the shopkeeper's shop and he needed a large amount of funds for turnover.
Otherwise, a business that has been running for many years will be ruined.
In desperation, the shopkeeper asked for help from friends who used to visit regularly, but everyone rejected the shopkeeper's help for various reasons, as if they had agreed upon it.
When he was at a loss, his friend Uncle Zhang gave all his savings to the shopkeeper to help him tide over the difficulties.
At this moment, the shopkeeper understood what it means to be "poor in the busy city and no one cares about you, but rich in the mountains with distant relatives."
As the saying goes: "Until something goes wrong, you don't know who is near and who is far away; If you don't taste it, you won't know who is strong and who is weak. "
Only when the leaves fall, do you know how cold autumn is; only when you are in trouble do you know how weak people's hearts are.
The human character is easy to write but difficult to understand. When the spring breeze is triumphant, some people are flattering; when the storm is stormy, the old friends leave one after another.
Things in the world are impermanent, so you must understand: the person who is the icing on the cake may not be sincere, and the person who provides help in times of need must be cherished.
Time can know people, and adversity can understand people's hearts. When making friends, one should put character first, make friends with gentlemen deeply and stay away from villains.
Only those who have withstood the test of time are the most precious people left around.
Know people, know others, and compare your feelings with your own.
"Tao Te Ching·Chapter 33" says: "He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise."
People who truly know how to deal with others know themselves well and can see through others.
When communicating with others, you must not only know their hearts and minds, but also be able to compare your hearts to yourselves in times of adversity and hardship.
Gao Xiaosong is a famous program host. He has a program called "Xiao Shuo", named after the director Han Han.
Later, when Han Han's movie was released, Gao Xiaosong tailored an interlude "A Speeding Life" for him.
Both of them are recognized talents, but a few years ago, Han Han quoted Gao Xiaosong's lyrics in his book, and the two staged a war of words among literati.
It was this storm that made the two meet and become close friends.
One year, Gao Xiaosong was detained for some reason, just as his new movie was in the promotion stage.
He called his friends one by one in prison and wanted them to go to the premiere to support him.
But the friends who were usually close friends all found various reasons to shirk it, and some people agreed but failed to keep the appointment on time.
On the day of the premiere, only Han Han came as scheduled.
He had just finished the competition and had no time to change clothes and tidy up, so he hurried to support the movie.
Later, Gao Xiaosong said with emotion: "Only in that bad time in life can we see the true nature of people's hearts."
There are not many friends, but the most important thing is to be together through thick and thin; no matter how long the love lasts, the most important thing is All requests are answered.
People’s hearts are unpredictable, but true feelings will emerge in times of adversity.
Only when you work hard for others will others treat you as a brother or sister.
Throughout life, it is important to know how to know people, but it is more important to know how to treat people than their hearts.
When you are rich, don’t forget your close friends who helped you; when you are down, don’t try to catch up with your fair-weather friends when you were rich.
To get along with others, you need to be sincere and sincere, rather than being pushed down by others.
The rest of your life is short, so leave your time to your true friends and don’t waste your time on people who are not worthy of it.
"Zeng Guang Xian Wen" said: "The road is far away to know the horse power, and the time is to see the human heart."
Time is the best touchstone, which can test who is a confidant and who is a confidant. They are passers-by, who is sincere and who is fake.
A true friend must remain by your side after the test of time.
They don’t care if you have a lot of money, they just want you to be happy;
They don’t care if you have both fame and fortune, they just want you to be safe and contented;
They don't care whether your appearance is aging, they just want you to stay healthy forever.
Friends are more important than many. No matter what you look like, the people who care about you will care about you and care about you.
For people who don’t care about you, even if you try to please them, it won’t help.
You know: a true confidant is worth millions of fair-weather friends.
In life, if you can find a friend who is willing to be by your side sincerely, you must cherish it even more.
Because there are very few people in this world who can accompany you to the end.
Only when leaves fall do you know autumn, and only when you are in trouble do you know your friends. Don’t force yourself, and don’t embarrass yourself. Leave everything to time. Time can see people better than the eyes.
At the autumnal equinox, I hope you and I can be treated kindly by life, meet precious friends, accompany each other, and cherish each other.