The mirror is not a stage.
There's nothing,
Where is the dust?
Face the suffering calmly.
The past has become the past. Don't look back. When you encounter bumps, you will inevitably look back. However, in this case, it is easy to produce negative emotions.
Former US President Nixon has been in politics for many years. He was the first president in American history in the 20th century who was forced to resign because of Watergate. In his eighties, a sad thing happened to him, and his wife left him forever. Facing the misfortunes in his career and personal life, Nixon said with emotion: "The secret of longevity is not to look back, but to look forward. You have to find something to live for, or it's the end of your life. " Because of this, he buried himself in writing after leaving office and has written nine books so far, seven of which are world bestsellers. In his view, too many memories will only bring sadness to one's mind and make one's mood greatly tense.
From a psychological point of view, memory is a source of psychological stress. Of course, the taste of memories varies from person to person and from scene to scene, but when memories come to mind, there is always a different taste. Whether it is a glorious past or a gloomy past, memories will not be a kind of beautiful enjoyment. Sweetness will fade with the passage of time, and bitterness will become astringent because of old scores. So, don't recall the past, your mind will be much easier.
Everything has two sides, don't just stare at the bad side.
Everything has two sides, both advantages and disadvantages. There can be neither advantages nor disadvantages. Smart women know which advantages are big and which disadvantages are small, so as to "choose the big and abandon the small". Everyone should seek advantages and avoid disadvantages when making a choice. It's just that the advantages outweigh the disadvantages As long as this is the case in the long run, we should give up the temporary "superiority" and "small interests" and pursue the potential "big interests" with development prospects.
If there is a "criterion" in psychology before choosing: pros and cons are real reality and pros and cons are quite good, then you will not be lost because of loss, nor will you be arrogant because of gain. Facing life like this, we must be open-minded.
Sadness is a personal feeling. Try to imagine a worse situation.
In psychological trauma, sadness is undoubtedly the culprit. If you want to get rid of this "killer", you can take the method of "fighting poison with poison".
There was an English businessman who was heavily in debt because of business failure and never recovered from it. One day, when a disabled person who lost his feet and walked on a wooden board with wheels happily said "good morning" to him, he was so ashamed that he came home and wrote these words on the mirror that he could see every day: "I have been depressed because I have no shoes to wear; Until I was in the street, I saw a man with a missing leg! " From then on, he regained his confidence, worked hard, and finally paid off all his debts, and his business grew bigger and bigger.
When sadness strikes, you can imagine a worse situation than you, and maybe your sadness will be dispelled. This kind of psychological self-defense actually adopts the method of "fighting poison with poison". When you realize that there are more difficult situations in the world than you, your mind will be suddenly enlightened.