Tiger and rose, "fierce" and "thin", one masculine and one feminine.
Tigers sometimes smell roses. Their busy and ambitious ambitions will be moved by tenderness and beauty, and they will feel beautiful safely.
Everyone has two sides, a tiger and a rose. They are interdependent and indispensable.
Without roses, it is inevitable to become a vulgar and reckless person, and the courage and fearlessness of tigers are also essential motivation for people to face the hardships of life.
1. Learn to combine rigidity with flexibility.
Some boys have been taught to be men since childhood. Strong and independent, do not flinch when encountering difficulties, and do not shed tears easily.
So afraid to complain about the pain, I can only hide in my heart and bear it silently.
When he grows up and knows how to adjust his emotions, he will be safe and sound; If you just bear it blindly, like a tight string, it will break sooner or later and hurt your body.
I once saw a person recall his childhood growth experience. He was raised as an independent boy since he was a child, and he was rarely held by his mother since he was sensible.
In fact, he is eager to get his mother's love. When wrestling, what I long for is not that my mother encourages me to get up, nor that my mother's eyes are full of eyes looking forward to growing up, but just a caring greeting: "Baby, does it hurt?" Come and hug your mother. "
It is not a crime for a man to cry. Don't hide your emotions, cry when you are sad.
In childhood, parents need to take care of their children's physical and mental health, especially the expression of emotions.
IQ is not the most important, but EQ is the most important. People with high emotional intelligence are indifferent to everything, unhappy about things, not sad for themselves, and know how to adjust their mentality in time no matter what happens.
Therefore, when a man is strong, he is strong, and when he is weak, he is soft.
2. Love and hate are opposites, and they are also unified and harmonious.
Hatred that begins with love should end with love.
Heathcliff, the hero of Wuthering Heights, loves Catherine deeply, but in the end, it turns into a love-hate relationship, which finally kills his beloved and destroys himself.
Fortunately, I finally found out in time that I didn't let the next generation continue to bear their own pain, but let love continue.
The ancients said: "If the sky wants to die, it will be crazy."
It means that if God wants a person to be destroyed, he will become arrogant first.
Heathcliff was injured when he was a child, but when he grew up, he was blinded by hatred and bent on revenge. Arrogant, become arrogant, cold-blooded, and retaliate at all costs. When you lose someone you love, you find that all this is not what you want.
Because he neglected his inner love, the final outcome was not what he hoped to see, and it was too late to make everything irreparable.
If the tiger in your heart can't be controlled, you can't smell the fragrance of roses.
3. Leave the rose garden in it.
Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang are still strong and optimistic after all kinds of hardships in life. They are brilliant and have made lifelong contributions to literature.
Even if forced by life, they can still work tirelessly in abandoned small laboratories, and they can translate Don Quixote between cleaning toilets.
In their famous love letter, Jiang Yang only wrote the word "coward" on a piece of paper and asked how many people are in your heart. Qian Zhongshu only replied "you" and told the other party that I only have you in my heart.
A foreign scholar was surprised after reading Zhong Shu's Fortress Besieged and called to see him. Zhong Shu said on the phone: "If you feel good after eating an egg, why are you looking for a chicken with this egg?"
Not only a tiger, but also a tiger in armor. It's not just a rose garden, flowers have bloomed all over the world.
The ambition to serve the motherland is like a tiger, and artistic accomplishment is their inner rose garden.
No matter what kind of firm heart is like a rock, or full of lofty sentiments, there are still weak lotus flowers in the chest.
I hope we all have tigers in our hearts and have smelled roses.
Open up your own path and gradually become a king. Turn around, full of roses.
Text/Snow Lotus
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