I work in a medium-sized company. Due to my hard work in the first three months, and the recognition of my leadership, I was given an interview qualification for the preparatory management competition. I was really lucky, and I got the preparatory management position through the interview.
Then the praises from my colleagues came overwhelmingly: Congratulations on the promotion and salary increase. Note that this is my first real promotion and salary increase.
?However, due to personnel changes later, I did not receive a salary increase (other preparatory managers did not receive a salary increase), nor was I transferred to a preparatory management position. The leader comforted me and I said it was okay. I really thought I was fine.
However, since then, my work has lost any passion. I work passively every day and am indifferent to the KPIs for work assessment. I just want to get off work as soon as possible and take a rest. Moreover, I am still very tired when I get home from work. In my free time, I either play games or watch boring videos. It’s not like before when I go home and read books to recharge my batteries. I don't know why I changed so much suddenly? I don’t know what took away my passion for work?
Two weeks later, one morning when I was writing my weekly diary, I found the reasons: 1. I no longer have any interest in the work content. 2. It is indeed the psychological gap that caused me to feel discouraged.
I will continue to discuss the first question later, and now let’s talk about the second question: psychological gap. The psychological gap is nothing more than 8 simple words: the greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment. In fact, no management in the company clearly told me that I would receive a salary increase if I was promoted to preparatory management. It was just rumored that there would be a salary increase (which shows that the rumors are not credible). On the other hand, it is normal for me to be transferred to a small preparatory management position due to personnel changes. . But my expectations were so good that when the dream shattered, I was disturbed by disappointment and failed to think through this section through rational thinking.
An example of the psychological gap: you chase a beautiful woman for 3 months. You work very hard, buy love breakfast every day, and treat her to movies and dinner every other day. Express yourself to the best of your ability. And she shows that she has a good impression of you. She never forgets to say a word of love when having breakfast, she always chats with you excitedly for a long time after watching a movie, and she always blows you an ambiguous kiss after dinner. As a result, when you confessed your love when you were sure of winning, she said: NO! I think your first thought now is definitely, how could she reject me? The second thought is: No matter how hard I try, I can't find love, no matter how hard I try, it's useless! Then you become depressed. When you are depressed, it is difficult for you to reflect on the clues that she did not like you when she got along with you before.
?What I want to say is very simple: when the gap in your heart makes you think "No matter how hard I try, it's useless", you will be almost useless. How can you be happy when you think that you cannot achieve happiness through hard work? But if you can reflect on the joints and believe that you can pursue happiness with correct efforts, you can regain your full fighting spirit.