The formation of Ma Baonan is mostly due to the mother's excessive doting on her children, which leads to their lack of experience and immaturity. When they grow up, they will habitually be self-centered and extremely selfish. I am an adult, but I often talk and do things like a child. Even if you get married, it is easy to favor your mother in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and deepen the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Helping my younger brother is mostly due to the pressure of relatives. As brothers and sisters, it is still very rare to voluntarily pay for all the younger brothers and sisters. People are a little selfish.
Xiaohong (pseudonym) is 37 years old this year. She went out to work after graduating from high school, and later got married locally. Xiaohong, who is far from home, seldom goes home. Xiaohong's conditions gradually improved, and Xiaohong took her parents to live from time to time. Parents can help them take care of their families at home, and they also have more energy to devote to their own careers. Later, Xiaohong simply left her mother with her, and her father went back to take care of Xiaohong's younger brother. After all, Xiaohong's younger brother is still at school.
After Xiaohong's younger brother graduated, his mother meant to let Xiaohong take over his younger brother and start a business in a big city. After all, it is not easy to find a job in a small place, and the salary is relatively low.
But after Xiaohong took her brother over, the family became very unhappy and often quarreled over a little thing.
First of all, the problem of my brother's work. My mother means to ask Xiaohong to find a job for her brother in their company. But my brother's fooling around made people fired before the internship. Mom asked Xiaohong to put in a good word. Xiaohong is not that capable. After rejecting his mother, he is said to be unwilling to contribute. To this end, the mother and daughter also had a cold war for some time.
At Xiaohong's urging, my brother went out to look for a job, but he kept changing all the year round. None of them have worked for a long time, and he can hardly support himself. Xiaohong invested in buying a house in his early years. Before, he wanted to buy it and appreciate it. Unexpectedly, the policy has changed, and he can't sell it. He can only rent this small house.
Recently, the family was in financial difficulties, and Xiaohong thought of this house. The rent of the house has always been collected by her husband, and Xiaohong wants her husband to spend some of the money. But her husband told Xiaohong that he had no money, and all the money was spent at home. Xiaohong didn't believe her husband's words and they quarreled. Hearing the quarrel between her daughter and her son-in-law, her mother rushed out to make up, and the quarrel between them gradually weakened, but Xiaohong also took the house back from her husband and prepared to rent it out herself.
After the son-in-law went out, the mother took her daughter Xiaohong to the room and said to Xiaohong, "If you rent out this house, you might as well give it to your brother first. You won't get the money anyway. It is still a personal feeling to give it to my brother. " Xiaohong was startled by her mother's words. After she reacted, Xiaohong immediately rejected her mother. This house is the property of husband and wife, and she gave it to her brother privately. A husband may not divorce himself.
After refusing, Xiaohong thought that her mother would not mention it, but Xiaohong didn't expect her mother to ask from time to time. Xiaohong didn't promise her mother, and her mother took away the "nanny" who had worked for Xiaohong for so many years.
Mother said, "Anyway, it's only for your brother. When your brother is promising in the future, you can get it back. And now the house can't be traded. Just a verbal promise. When it was discovered, the name of the house did not change, and your husband had no place to find fault. "
Gradually, Xiaohong persuaded her mother to let her brother live in without telling her husband, and verbally promised to give the house to her brother. However, Xiaohong's younger brother has a big mouth. He shows off the benefits and brings back a group of friends from time to time.
After all, paper can't wrap fire. One day, Xiaohong's husband passed downstairs and remembered that the last quarrel with his wife was because of this house. Although the rent has always been collected by myself, it has not risen for many years, and it is usually used to subsidize the family from time to time, so it is really spent.
Since she came here, Xiaohong's husband decided to go up and talk to each other to see if the rent has gone up. After all, she can't treat herself badly because she has done something good. However, the sight of knocking at the door surprised Xiaohong's husband. The messy room was full of domestic garbage and wine bottles, and Xiaohong's husband suspected that he had gone to the wrong room.
If Xiaohong's brother hadn't opened the door, Xiaohong's husband would have confirmed it. When he saw his wife's brother here, his old tenant had already left. Xiaohong's husband is very puzzled. When I asked my wife's brother, I got a shocking news. My wife actually gave this house of more than one million yuan to her brother.
The husband immediately went home and confronted Xiaohong, but Xiaohong said that he stayed for his younger brother, not for his younger brother. But my brother said it was from my sister, and he refused to return it, and he didn't know where he got the signed contract with the little red handprint.
It's hard to say how Xiaohong came from. Finally, the family went to court. Although the house is finally coming back, they also gave their brother some money. The husband who went through all this was very disappointed with Xiaohong and asked Xiaohong for a divorce. After many unsuccessful attempts, Xiaohong agreed to divorce her husband. Because of a soft heart, Xiaohong and her husband's marriage had a heated discussion, and finally they got divorced, which was really embarrassing.
People still have to have their own bottom line, know what to do and what not to do, what to help and what not to help. As the saying goes, it is not good for others to harm others, and it is not good for others to prevent others. In fact, the contradiction between Xiaohong and her husband can be completely solved through communication. Poor communication between husband and wife led to more and more serious problems. Finally, she lost trust and chose to divorce.