Yesterday, in Meng Mu, I chose my neighbor, but I didn't learn it, so I broke the loom.
Dou Yanshan, an upright man, taught five sons and became famous.
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During the Warring States Period, Mencius' mother moved three times in order to give Mencius a good learning environment. Once Mencius played truant, Meng Mu cut off the cloth on the loom to teach his son. In the Five Dynasties, the Yanshan people had a good way to educate their sons. His five sons were all very successful and made a name for themselves in the imperial examinations.
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"Tiger Mom" Meng Mu and Dou Dad Yanshan
Mencius (about 372 BC ~ about 289 BC) was born in Zou Guo (now Zoucheng City, Shandong Province). He was a great thinker, educator and politician in the Warring States period. Mencius' celebrities in past dynasties were honored as "saints" by later generations, which was inseparable from his mother's education since childhood.
The story of Meng Mu's "Three Major Movements" has been circulated for thousands of years. Compared with the mother in the recent hit "Tiger Mom and Cat Dad", Meng Mu also resolutely bought the "tiger mom" of the "school district" for her children's future. Later, there was an allusion to "stop weaving and persuade students to learn", which is also well known to women and children. Needless to say here, today I want to share the story of Dou Yanshan's adopted son.
Dou Yanshan, formerly known as Dou, was born in Yuyang, Jizhou, Shanxi Province at the end of the Five Dynasties. * * * has five sons, and his family education is very strict. Dou built 40 study rooms, bought thousands of books and hired scholars to give lectures for him. Five sons didn't let him down. They are all smart and early-witted, and their writing and writing are excellent. It was praised as "Dou Wulong" by people at that time.
However, Dou Yanshan was not so smooth from the beginning. It is said that he was a rich boy and liked to oppress the poor by force. When a poor family borrows food from his family, they always make small fights, fight, lie in the dark, behave vaguely, and finally get what they deserve. When he was 30, he had no children. One night, his late father said to him in a dream, "You have bad intentions and a bad reputation. If you don't think about repentance and turn over a new leaf, you will not only be childless for life, but also be short-lived. " You must quickly change your way of doing good and accumulate good deeds. Only in this way can you save the will of God and turn over a new leaf. "
From then on, Dou Yanshan made up his mind to repent and turn over a new leaf, set up a private school at home, invited famous teachers to teach, dismissed the children of poor families who had no money to go to school and taught for free. Since then, Dou Yanshan seems to be a different person, helping the poor, traveling widely, convenient and fast, and praised by neighbors. In the following days, Dou Yanshan has also been helping the poor, subsidizing 27 coffin shop owners, 28 brides, dozens of people who make a living by buying and selling, and countless people who make a living by helping people pick up firewood.
Later, his wife gave birth to five sons in succession, and he devoted all his energy to the training and education of his sons, paying attention not only to their health at all times, but also to their study and moral cultivation. Under his training and education, all five sons have become useful talents, successively from disciplines and. At that time, an assistant minister named Feng Dao once wrote a poem saying: "Shilang, the sinus of Yanshan, taught a seme. Lingchun is an old tree, and Dangui has five branches. " The "five sticks of osmanthus fragrans" mentioned here is an evaluation and praise of Dou Yanshan's "five sons become a living".
Modern psychology believes that the interaction between heredity and environment determines children's psychological development. The two are not a simple superposition, but a child's unique personality will be formed through the dribs and drabs of daily life. Parents' words and deeds, neighbors' treatment of people, and peers' laughter and abuse will all play an important role in the formation of children's character.
Maybe Meng Mu didn't understand these profound truths two thousand years ago, but she understood the simple philosophy of "near Zhu Zhechi, near Mexico, black people", created a good learning environment for Monk with her mother's love for her children, and contributed an eternal saint to the Chinese nation.
The story of Dou Yanshan's adopted son explains the cause and effect to us with simple philosophical truth. Sima Wengong also mentioned in "Family Instructions": "If you accumulate money and leave it to future generations, future generations may not be able to keep it; Storing books for future generations may not be able to read them; It is better to accumulate virtue in the dark, thinking that future generations will have a long-term solution. " From a modern point of view, the so-called "virtue" can only be passed down from generation to generation if parents teach their children how to behave and be good at doing good deeds.