Ancient wedding etiquette Wedding is considered to be the greatest etiquette in life in ancient and modern times, both at home and abroad. Compared with other customs, wedding etiquette changes with the world. To a certain extent, it reflects the degree of civilization and education of mankind at that time. There were many tedious procedures in ancient marriage, but people took it seriously and never carelessly. There were only two purposes: one was to get the marriage recognized by society, and the other was to eliminate evil for the newlyweds and pray for happiness. Life. Nowadays, when some young people get married, in order to make their wedding unique, some others have begun to go traditional. Here I will introduce to you the wedding etiquette in ancient my country as a reference for everyone. 1. Matchmaking: "If there are no clouds in the sky, it will not rain; if there is no matchmaker on the ground, there will be no marriage." In traditional marriage, both men and women must go through a matchmaker to get married. Matchmakers can take the initiative to help matchmaking between men and women, or they can be entrusted by others to provide adult beauty. There is also a saying that "the orders of the parents are the words of the matchmaker", which is the truth. 2. Approval of the horoscope and prediction of the zodiac. The ancients were very particular about marriage. If the man's family wanted to marry a daughter-in-law, they would first obtain the woman's horoscope from the woman's family, and then hand it over to a fortune teller to calculate whether she would be compatible with their son. This is commonly known as "Jiawujia". If the female's horoscope is negative or her son's horoscope conflicts, the two families will not be able to form a marriage. You can also place a post with the woman's birthday and horoscope on the groom's family's god and ancestor table to predict good luck. Within three days, if nothing happens at home, the man and woman can become in-laws. Regarding the zodiac, there are many folk rumors, and the relevant ones are: blue rabbits and yellow dogs have existed since ancient times, red horses and yellow sheep have a long life, black rats and yellow ox are prosperous, green ox and black pig are happy, dragon and rooster live longer... Snake and Rabbit , must be rich and so on. The ones that don't fit in well include: the white horse is afraid of the green ox, the sheep and the rat carry a load, the snake and the tiger are as sharp as a knife, the dragon and the rabbit are afraid of communication, the golden rooster is afraid of the jade dog, the pig and the monkey are afraid of the head, etc. 3. Engagement and engagement. Engagement is also called small engagement, which is equivalent to the current engagement ceremony. A kind of big post must be used when fixing the appointment. People in my hometown call the date of fixing the post as the big post of replying or pressing the big post. Besides the invitation, there is also a letter of engagement, commonly known as a marriage letter. The appointment letter is usually prepared by the groom's family. All gifts have been listed in the gift list before the appointment is made. The groom's family only pays a small half of the gift, commonly known as the upper half of the gift. You can also use a gold ring as a betrothal gift when making a betrothal appointment. On the day of appointment, both the male and female families hold a banquet to entertain relatives and friends. The participants only join in the fun and do not give gifts. 4. Gift-giving Gift-giving should be carried out approximately 20 days or one or two months before the wedding. The most important thing in gift-giving is the gift money. Since the first half of the gift has been taken when the appointment was made, it is commonly known as the second half of the gift when all the gifts have been paid. Other gifts are listed in the gift list and included in the gift book. The gift list must include fabrics, silks, gauze, etc. These fabrics are used to sew clothes for the wedding. The girl's family also wants to return some gifts, repair the gift book and give it to the person to take back. After giving the gifts, the wedding day is not too far away. 5. Welcoming the bride: On the day of the wedding, the groom’s family will fire cannons, play music, and send out a sedan to welcome the bride. The matchmaker took the lead, followed by the groom, bridesmaids, sedan chair, band, and box team, all arriving in great numbers. As soon as the sedan chair arrived, the bride's family played music and fired cannons to welcome her. After the welcoming team entered the bride's main hall, the sedan landed on the ground, and the groom kowtowed to his father-in-law and mother-in-law. After bowing to the bride's ancestral tablets and elders under the guidance of the matchmaker, the bridesmaid took the bride's arm onto the sedan chair. When getting on the sedan chair, the bride usually "crys" to express her attachment to her parents. The way back from getting married must take another way, which is also called no turning back. 6. Visiting the church On the wedding day, the bride and groom hold a ceremony of worshiping in the church. The two groomsmen appeared as "Yin Zan" and "Tong Zan" respectively. The awareness process of worshiping is as follows: Introducing praise: The groom stands in front of the sedan chair. Tongzan: start the sedan chair, and the new couple will get up. Introduction: the groom bows (invites the bride with his hands) Introduction: the bride and groom go straight to the front of the flower hall. Introduction: The bride and groom are seated. Tongzan: The bride and groom offer incense. Introduce praise: Kneel down and offer incense. Tongzan: Kneel down, kowtow, kowtow again, kowtow three times, and then the three bows commonly seen in TV dramas: one bow to heaven and earth, two bows to the high hall, husband and wife bow to each other, and finally enter the bridal chamber. 7. Making trouble in the bridal chamber. Making trouble in the bridal chamber is mainly due to the fact that in ancient times, marriages were arranged by parents. Neither the man nor the woman had any contact before the marriage. Some of them had never even met each other, let alone understanding and familiarity. Now that we suddenly become husband and wife, it must be very strange. With such a process of having a wedding ceremony, we can change the indifferent atmosphere, reduce the unfamiliarity of the couple as much as possible, and bring the young couple into a state of intimacy as soon as possible.
So to this day, there are still popular sayings that the more noisy the happier you are, the more noisy you are, the more noisy you are, the more noisy you are, the more noisy you are, and the saying that there is no big or small thing in the three days of the wedding