Do you want to have the ability not to be afraid of the trough of life? Why meet the same setbacks, some people will be very sad and difficult to get out, while others seem to have nothing happened. You can continue to be passionate about life. Psychologist Duckworth found through a lot of research that the most important factor that determines whether a person can rebound in the trough is not IQ, EQ, personal resources or even talent, but something similar to muscle-psychological resilience. Psychological resilience, just like your muscles, is not born, but can be improved through acquired exercise. So what should we do?
First of all, what is psychological resilience? Professor Peng Kaiping of Tsinghua University gave an answer: the ability to recover from adversity, contradiction and failure is toughness plus perseverance plus toughness.
So how to improve it? Very simple, always leave yourself a way out. How to be strong inside-the way to improve psychological resilience.
First, the methods of emotional control: delaying reaction, distracting attention, taking a deep breath and drinking water, self-reflection by writing a diary, writing and reviewing one's thoughts and feelings, or expressing emotions by singing, listening to music, dancing, painting, writing poems, crying and chatting with friends. Control life: realize what you can control, what you can only influence or negotiate, and what you can't control. In any case, you should control your emotions and keep a good perspective.
Second, responsibility. Set a goal for yourself and work hard to achieve it. Learn to know when to let go and when to change. Don't let emotional reactions stop you. Recall your achievements to create happiness. We're not superheroes. No matter how willful you are, there is always a peak that you can't climb. If you climb hard, you will be doomed to failure and feel depressed. Therefore, when you meet an insurmountable peak, you must learn to retreat first. Perhaps, you will find a way to get around the difficulties but reach your goal faster.