Second, be kind to others and yourself.
Mencius once said: "People who love others will always love others;" People who respect others will always respect others.
Third, endure calm for a while and take a step back.
"Those who achieve great things are not ashamed; Those who make great contributions are not informal. "
We mortals, though not as patient as Han Xin and Sima Yi, should cultivate our minds and avoid impatience in our daily life. If there is always joy in our hearts, we will be happy and have lasting grace.
As the saying goes: "endure a calm moment, take a step back and broaden the horizon." When dealing with people, there will inevitably be a lot of confusion and misunderstanding, or malicious ridicule and insult from others, but if you can restrain yourself at this time, things may be better. Therefore, in the process of doing things, as long as it is conducive to doing things, it is conducive to achieving your goals.
Fourth, a modest gentleman is as gentle as jade.
Wisdom is bound to hurt people, affection will not last long, strength will be humiliating, and modesty will be as gentle as jade.
A person who is too smart will do harm to himself. Too persistent and persistent feelings will not last long. People who are too prominent are bound to be humiliated. A gentleman should be warm and calm as jade, reserved and determined, but not unassuming, and show his own value.
Jade's light is inward rather than outward. Manners are generous, open-minded, natural, without sharpness, publicity, great joy and great sorrow, paranoia and madness, and the state of life presents a kind of maturity and mellow here.
Buddhism has a word, harmony, which is quite similar to this mature and mellow realm. Therefore, Buddhism emphasizes abstinence from anger, ignorance and greed, so as to keep calm and not stay in mind. So is the roundness of a modest gentleman.
"Ask questions and you will learn." If you are modest, you will be more sober and less narcissistic; If you look down on yourself, you can always remind yourself that "there are mountains outside the mountain, there are days behind the world, and there are people outside", so that you can see the sage Si Qi, learn from each other's strengths and improve yourself. If you only see the trees, not the forest, only the advantages and not the disadvantages, and often look at your strengths compared with people's shortcomings, you will see that you are getting taller and taller, more and more arrogant, and even drift away, and eventually go astray.
Fifth, be tolerant and patient.
Browning, an English writer, once said, "It is a good thing to forgive others, but it is even better if you can forget all the mistakes of others."
In a person's life, we need a lot of tolerance, and we need to tolerate friends and relatives around us, including ourselves. To tolerate others is actually to tolerate and give yourself. Because tolerance can make people seek common ground while reserving differences, look at each other calmly, appreciate each other's noble personality, unite and move in the same direction, paving the way for greater success.
Six, you respect me a foot, I will give you a foot.
Kind people respect others. Whoever is poor and rich, a bowl of level, who is strong and who is weak, has the same weight. You give me a foot, and I will give you a foot back; You respect me, and I respect you. Good people value righteousness and affection. When a friend is in trouble, don't stand by; A friend in trouble will not turn a blind eye. Treat people with integrity and illuminate people's hearts; Cherish warmth and you will win people's hearts.
Being a man, kindness is a virtue, tolerance, compassion, courage to suffer losses, not taking advantage, openness and perseverance. Good people will be blessed, because if they plant good causes, they will reap good results.
People's maturity is not age, but mentality; Inner maturity is not a lot of things encountered, but an attitude towards things. People live in groups, look at other people's mistakes and think about their own; Look at other people's shortcomings and forgive their difficulties. The weaker the heart, the less harm; How wide the heart is, how much happiness there is.
In social communication, we can call it the principle of respecting reciprocity, or the principle of respecting interests, which means that if you give others respect and help, others will give you the same or more respect and help.
Do as you would be done by.
People are like a magnet, attracting people with similar ideas and like-minded, and rejecting other heterogeneous people. If you want to make friends with kind and generous people, you must first become such a person, as you sow, so you reap. All your thoughts will eventually come back to you.
Confucius said, "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you." In other words, I don't like the words and deeds that others treat me, and I don't want to treat others like that. This sentence tells the true meaning of being a man, that is, push others with your own heart, learn to push others with your own heart, understand others and be kind to others.
Sow an action and you will reap a habit; Sow a habit and you will get a personality; Sow a personality and you will get a destiny; Sow a good thing and you will get a good result; Sow evil deeds and you will get a bad result.
Eight, the grace of dripping water is rewarded with a spring.