Now I look back at some problems in introspection every day, such as talking. There is a cloud in Zhouyi: "Ji people talk less." The higher the level, the more you know what to say and what to say.
They can keep their mouths shut, be cautious, see through without breaking, be sensible without arguing, know people without judging, but whenever they speak, they are like a spring breeze. Speaking carefully can not only take care of others, but also leave a way out for yourself. This is great wisdom to deal with the world. As for me, sometimes I'm just a person with a straight mouth and no brain.
Zeng Guofan said: "Be cautious in words and deeds, the first is self-cultivation." Regarding caution, he even wrote a "monograph" called Caution. When he first entered the Imperial Academy, Zeng Guofan was proud of his spring breeze. Once he celebrated his father's birthday and boasted to his friends who came to celebrate his birthday. He was a little carried away. As a result, this friend was disgusted and left.
Afterwards, Zeng Guofan regretted it very much and reflected on his mistakes in his diary. He blamed himself. As a Confucian scholar, he can't even understand the truth that "bad words don't come out of his mouth, angry words don't come out of his body" in the Book of Rites. This is very wrong.
Since then, he has been practicing "don't talk too much" all his life, taking "don't talk too much" as a very important content in family training, and often instilling and emphasizing the life creed of "based on not lying" to children.
And my generation of vulgar women should be more cautious.