Although polygamy was practiced in ancient times, men with status often had three wives and four concubines. However, no wife wants her husband to have another woman, so it is inevitable to do something to make her husband give up the idea of marrying concubines.
There is a poem about "Chen's wife" in Gu Jielun's "Guo Ya Pin" in the Ming Dynasty: According to legend, Chen wanted to abandon his wife and marry a concubine, and his wife wrote a poem "Seeing off her husband" in grief: "A new person is like a flower, so it is better to weave hemp than an old one. Weaving hemp can be used as a shirt, and flowers bloom in front of you. " However, at this time, it is naturally a bit difficult to impress her husband with such poems.
There is a story in Yuan Mei's Poems with the Garden in Qing Dynasty: A friend of Wang Mengduan secretly married a concubine in Beijing, and they were inseparable and happy. The original wife was naturally unhappy, so she found Wang Mengduan to persuade her husband to go back. So Wang Mengduan instructed his wife to write a poem for her husband: "New flowers are better than hops, and there is no intention of parting from now on." Do you know Qinhuai tonight? Some people return to relative numbers. "Unexpectedly, the husband who spent a lot of time drinking and drinking actually regretted it and" took my concubine home ". Is "coming back with my concubine" a good thing?
When marriage is in crisis, even a conceited and beautiful wife needs to find ways to win over a talented husband. Zhao Mengfu, a great talent in the south of the Yangtze River in Yuan Dynasty, can be said to be an all-rounder in poetry, painting and calligraphy. His regular script is called "Zhao Ti", which has a great influence on calligraphy in Ming and Qing Dynasties. His wife, Guan Daosheng, is also a talented woman who is good at drawing bamboo. Zhu Mo, written by her, has been handed down from generation to generation, which is of great benefit to future generations in learning to draw bamboo. It was common for celebrities in society to take concubinage at that time. Zhao Mengfu is unwilling to be lonely, wants to take a concubine, and her career is thriving. Zhao Mengfu, who is nearly fifty years old, also envies beautiful young girls. And he is not good to his wife, but a scholar has a way of being a scholar. He made a little word to his wife:
"I am a bachelor, and you are a wife. Don't you see that Wang has peach leaves and peach roots, and Su has morning clouds and dusk clouds. It's not too much for me to marry more Wu Ji and Yue Nv. You are forty years old, just take care of Yutangchun. "
The general idea of this word is that you have heard that Wang Xizhi has two concubines, Ye Tao and Taogen, and Su Shi also has two concubines, Chaoyun and Muyun. Therefore, it is not too much for me to marry more concubines; Besides, you are over forty years old, so take the seat in the first room.
Moreover, Mrs. Guan also filled in a poem "My Nong Ci" after reading it, not only to replace answering her husband, but also to express her heart sound. The way is:
You are so affectionate when you are jealous of me. A lot of feelings, hot as fire. Twist a piece of mud to make you and me. Break us together and mix with water. Twist the other you and shape the other me. I got you into the mire, and you got me into the mire. Born like you, died like you.
Zhao Mengfu got the word and had to give up the idea of concubinage. This literary anecdote was later passed down as a love story between husband and wife. Everyone later compared the clay figurine to the inseparable relationship between husband and wife, with you and me.