This involves a person's career and life planning at all stages of his life. Most people have no plans: no determination, no goals, no long-term plans and unremitting efforts. Life is like duckweed drifting with the tide. When you get old, you haven't figured out what you really want. Good at what? I have accomplished nothing in my life.
A few smart people, or ordinary people with smart teachers' guidance, set great ambitions from an early age, have goals at all stages of their growth, clearly know what they want, what they are good at, and what their mission is, and constantly improve, and finally make great achievements in a certain field.
Many people after 70s and 80s have this experience, that is, when filling in the college entrance examination volunteers, they are actually confused about which major or school to apply for. Because I didn't experience anything at that age and didn't understand society at all. However, most parents and teachers can't put forward practical suggestions according to their children's characteristics because of their own structure and vision limitations. Finally, many people signed up for a certain major and entered a certain industry. When they find that they don't like and are not good at a certain industry, except for a few who dare to do it, most people are unwilling to give up their years of efforts (sunk costs) and continue to work in this industry. The effect can be imagined.
So what are the characteristics and tasks of each stage of a person's life? If a person has not experienced it, it is often unclear, but it can be clarified through learning. Books, internet, parents and people who have been there can all learn. It is not helpful for a person to understand this problem after personal experience, and often he misses a certain stage, leaving only experience and lessons. Of course, this is also a kind of harvest, which can be taught to young people and give them useful guidance in their growth.
After all, it is a small probability event that a young man succeeds in his ambition and a late bloomer. The next step is the situation of ordinary people.
What are the characteristics and tasks of each stage of life?
I. Preschool children (before age 7)
As a newcomer, I am full of curiosity about the world. The main tasks are sleeping, eating and playing. Exercise various perceptual abilities in the process of eating and playing. Improve self-care ability and experience social rules initially.
Kindergarten is still necessary, and there is a bigger communication platform between people. Art and other special classes, if children have special skills, like, meet the age requirements, you can sign up for one or two classes, not more. If you don't study culture, primary school will talk about it. Now when I was in primary school, I learned it for the second time. At that time, children formed the bad habit of not listening carefully.
Parents who attach great importance to cultural classes or even enroll in cram schools for cultural classes, parents who are complacent when they see that their children can read more than their peers, and parents who enroll in sky-high kindergartens, most of them have intellectual and cognitive problems.
You must believe the story of Shang. Don't believe the "don't lose at the starting line" poisoned chicken soup. Parents are harvested by training institutions and other relevant stakeholders.
Second, the primary school stage
From then on, until I graduated from high school, my main task was to study. Some points that primary schools should pay attention to. First, get into the habit of concentrating on things, don't procrastinate, study hard when you should study and have fun when you should play. The second is to develop the habit of reading. Both habits will benefit for life. Third, don't attach too much importance to academic performance. There is a certain falsehood in primary school grades, because primary schools have more requirements for children's memory and less requirements for understanding and creativity. Of course, you should enroll in special interest classes, but not too many. Fourth, parents must spend more time with their children before they graduate from primary school. Because children only give you about ten years of companionship. Junior high school enters the rebellious period of youth. If you want to accompany your children, they won't give you too many opportunities. At that time, children would like to play with their peers and become less and less dependent on their parents.
Third, the junior high school stage
Junior high school is a very important stage, more important than senior high school. The admission rate of the middle school entrance examination is less than 50%, and the admission rate of the college entrance examination is about 80%. It can be said that the move is more important than the college entrance examination.
First of all, when children enter adolescence, their sense of independence becomes stronger and stronger, and they begin to question their parents' pre-convinced preaching and become rebellious. At this time, the role of words and deeds has weakened, and the role of example has become more and more important. Secondly, some children have puppy love behavior and can only be persuaded. Moreover, the second grade of primary school is a period of mutation and differentiation. Many children with the best grades in primary school suddenly decline in grade two, while some children with average grades in primary school make rapid progress in grade two. Why is this? Primary school depends on memory ability, and junior high school depends on understanding ability; The influence of adolescent restlessness; Whether there is reading accumulation; Is the child "enlightened" Finally, it is necessary to prevent children from indulging in mobile computers. Adults can't put down their mobile phones as soon as they pick them up, let alone children with poor self-control. Good use of mobile phones is a good learning tool, but bad use is drugs. Parents should set an example, don't play mobile phones in front of their children, and read books while their children are studying! Limit the time and content of children playing mobile phones.
There is little difference between primary schools and kindergartens in the same area, but there is a big difference between junior high schools and senior high schools in terms of key points and good lessons. Not only teachers, but also learning atmosphere and peer interaction.
Fourth, the high school stage
Concentrate on your study, sprint for the college entrance examination, and just say "learn". Except for art students, the extra-long classes have basically stopped. No way, so far, the college entrance examination is still the fairest system in China, and it is still a great opportunity to change our destiny. Be careful not to put too much pressure on children and take part in cultural and recreational activities appropriately. It is meaningful to learn only if you can play.
Verb (abbreviation for verb) college stage
Compared with middle school, learning is much less important, and a lot of time is occupied by cultural and sports activities, community activities, work-study programs and social practice activities, which is the transition period for students to enter the work and social stage.
During this period, most students left their parents and felt liberated. Some students with poor self-control completely indulge in games and entertainment, let alone study. After mixing for several years, I didn't learn my major well and my ability didn't improve. Really failed.
There are also many interested students who not only do not relax their studies, but also actively participate in various activities to make positive preparations for graduation, work and society. Some students have found satisfactory jobs even before graduation.
Ten years later, you will find that the friendship between high school students and college students is not only a simple feeling, but also an important resource for your career development.
Six, work until about 35 years old.
Join the work and enter the society, and no one will spoil you like your parents in the future. You will live independently in the future. There are about ten years for you to try, make mistakes, accumulate experience and manage relationships. Repeated defeats and repeated wars are not terrible, but they will not be repeated defeats and repeated wars.
There are a few points to note. First, when choosing a job, don't pay too much attention to income, but pay attention to whether you can improve your ability, whether you have development prospects and whether you can accumulate relationships and resources. Second, if it is not suitable, you should dare to resign and start over, or even change your major and start over. Third, don't quit your job frequently, which only shows that you are not practical and focused. Even if you resign, you should keep good relations. This is a basic personality problem. Fourth, before the age of 35, we must find out our strengths and weaknesses and determine our career and goals in life. The rest is just deep ploughing and accumulation. If the age of 35 is not completely determined, your future career will be difficult to succeed.
Many young people in Europe and America have entered the society for several years before they find their interests and mission and return to university. There is no such condition in China, but you can teach yourself and participate in social assistance.
Before the age of 30, you must find a good life partner and get married. Otherwise, after the age of 30, men can still meet "true love" with money, but if men have no money and women have no money or none, the chances of meeting "true love" will become very small.
Children should be born before the age of 35 (especially women). After the age of 35, physical and mental energy are somewhat backward, and the talent of the children born also has an impact.
At this age, do many people regret not studying hard at school?
Seven, about 35 years old to 45 years old.
In the golden age of doing business, one word is "doing". There is also the problem of children's education, which must not be lost.
At this age, do many people regret that they didn't dare to break in and try more?
Eight, about 45 years old to retirement (60 years old)
The stage of harvest and persistence. By the age of 45, my career has not been "successful" (promoted from politics, made a fortune in business, and achieved academic success), and the possibility of "success" in my life is almost gone.
When a man reaches middle age, if his wallet is not bulging, don't blame a woman for attracting bees and butterflies. If a woman can't control her figure, don't blame a man for philandering.
There is also the issue of children's education, and we will never let go.
At this age, do many people regret it? Why didn't they devote themselves to a cause before?
Nine, after retirement (60 years old)
The last stage of life. No money will be miserable! As long as you are healthy and not short of money, it is the stage of enjoyment.
Need to pay attention to a few points. One is to have a good body (in fact, you must have the consciousness and habit of maintenance and exercise from an early age), otherwise you will not enjoy Jinshan Yinshan. Second, you have hobbies, such as calligraphy, painting, traveling, fishing and so on, which are beneficial to your physical and mental health and will make you live a full life. Third, don't give your family money to your children until the last moment. To be realistic, filial piety is bought with money. There are more unfilial people in rural areas than in cities, and there are more unfilial people in the poor than in the rich. Actually, it's all about money. If you give the money to the children early in the morning, it will be over when you are bedridden! Fourth, don't be obsessed with sex and fall into the hands of women. Don't think you are attractive just because a woman younger and more beautiful than you praises you, and you think she is considerate, just cut out your heart and penis. Soon you will find that it is money in the end. You are old. What charm and true love do you have? Just for the money.
At this age, many people regret that they have not made any achievements in their lives.
In addition, there are three things that run through life and cannot be separated at any stage. That is, body, study and making friends.
You should have the concept and habit of maintenance and exercise from an early age. Otherwise, it will be too late for middle-aged and elderly people to get sick.
Society has been developing and knowledge is rapidly updating. If you are not eliminated by society, you must study for life.
Friendship is necessary in terms of feelings, life and career. But there are also many human tragedies caused by careless friends. So choose friends.
To sum up what is a man's "success":
3 years old, do not pee pants;
5 years old, can eat by himself;
18 years old, able to drive by himself;
20 years old, with a girlfriend;
30 years old, rich;
40 years old, rich;
50 years old and still have money;
60 years old and has a girlfriend;
At the age of 70, I can still drive by myself;
At the age of 80, I can still eat by myself;
At the age of 90, I still don't pee my pants;
100 years old, not hanging on the wall!