As a mother, do you know how many rebellious stages a child must go through?

As a mother, do you know how many rebellious stages a child must go through? The first rebellious period: most children aged 2-3 enter the first rebellious period after the age of 2 (alias "little baby rebellious period"). As long as your parents ask them to do one thing, the children will sing the opposite. For example, I don't want my parents to eat their cookies with their dolls in their arms. Mainly because children gradually have self-identity. Everyone knows what is their own and what is others'. Parents should clearly see that this age is good for their children's development. Parents can calm down most of the time without being upset, and then look for various countermeasures. The best way is to distract the child's concentration and then go to the right route.

The second rebellious period: children aged 7~ 10 have gained professional knowledge, met more good friends and gained more self-identity because they entered colleges and universities. They are eager to show that they have grown up. "They are little adults. They are no longer children." Therefore, it is gradually stipulated as independence. In order to get rid of parents' manipulation in behavior, many things like to sing against their parents. My Lord said so, but he refused to do so. On the other hand, they rely heavily on adults.

At this time, the child has understood the parents' church. Parents must abandon the "centralized" way and discuss their own affairs with their children more. They must never use "combat power" to solve difficulties, and they must never rudely refuse their children. Parents can try to let their children make their own decisions. If children encounter difficulties, they should give them more correct guidance and guidance. For example, if the child is unwilling to attend the calligraphy training class of the parents, the parents can discuss with the child whether the child has other hobbies. Or give children a variety of choices and let them choose freely. Only when parents and children are happy can we learn the actual effect systematically.

The third rebellious period: 12~ 18 years old. Rebellion in this period is called adolescence. They don't like their parents treating themselves as children, and they often boast that they are adults. In order to show that they are different, they like to attack everything. They look like adults, but their mental state is still not perfect. Children in this period will pay more attention to peer relationship and their position in the crowd. Therefore, they are easily hurt by their partners, so they "follow the trend" and do something that is not their intention but recognized by their partners, such as smoking and drinking.

What children do is just the representative of adults, which means that they are perfect individuals and can solve their dependence on their parents. But rebellious middle school students are likely to do some extreme things in order to show their personality, such as stealing, drinking or doing some extreme things.

If the child wants to pass these three links smoothly, first of all, please trust the child; Later, while maintaining close relationship with children, we also need to give them some space: children are not the spiritual sustenance of their parents, but individuals, and they must be treated fairly by their parents, encouraged and comforted when they fail, and affirmed and praised when they succeed; Give your children some privacy. Generally speaking, the rebellious period is not terrible, indicating that the child is growing and improving. Parents understand this and make corresponding countermeasures. I believe that many children can successfully survive these three rebellious periods. As a parent, you just need to grasp the standards, in fact, you don't need to take everything seriously.