because I found that there are three or five acquaintances (plastic love friends, just call them acquaintances for the time being) who don't like me. At first, it was one or two people, and slowly, like an appointment, they stopped ordering together.
We are acquaintances because we stayed together for several years. Although we all went our separate ways later, we occasionally met for dinner. In other words, they are all acquaintances, and friends in the circle of friends are friends. No matter who makes a circle, they will basically like or comment on each other.
it doesn't really mean anything if you don't like it. After all, there are still many friends in the circle of friends who have good private interaction and don't like it. But when the questions were asked, they praised and commented on each other except for me. Once, I sent a circle of friends with one of them almost at the same time, and the rest of them immediately came to praise and comment on her, but turned a blind eye to what I sent.
Holding a group to isolate someone and bullying with cold violence are common in companies on campus. I didn't expect the same thing to happen when it is extended to the Internet.
what's wrong with my circle of friends? I'll take a closer look. In fact, I haven't sent much in the past few months, just one or two a week. It's all about my self-discipline and recording my children's progress.
After running for eight months, I lost nearly 2 pounds of good news ...
Record the progress of children's extracurricular reading and calligraphy practice ...
Record the amount of exercise every month ...
Slow time of reading and writing in the coffee shop ...
Call for children to get straight A grades in all subjects in the mid-term exam ...
Food cooked on a whim ... < p
However, the last comment given by one of them is: I feel very flustered every time I see you send a circle of friends. Since then, I have never been praised or commented, and my interaction with others is normal.
maybe this is one of the reasons! Or, I have become a different kind in their eyes!
For example, they don't understand why I have to die with myself on the way to becoming thin and beautiful at an old age, and why I don't give my child a happy childhood by educating him so much? What's more, I don't understand that they always send a word or two in their circle of friends, and I have to pour out many lines?
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Look at their circle of friends. Today's cooking, tomorrow's hot pot ... It's good for you to grow up happily, son ... or forward all kinds of funny pictures and hot jokes ...
Well, well, I admit that I am proud of some achievements brought about by self-discipline, and I thought it could inspire my friends around me. Because it is true that some friends have started running because of my inspiration, but in fact, not all of them can be motivated. The subtext of their acquaintances is more likely-your self-discipline is really annoying!
I think of Xu Sanduo in the hit TV series Soldiers Assault a few years ago.
Xu Sanduo was assigned to the remote and desolate grassland Class 5 to guard the oil pipeline after the training of the recruits. The guard task of class five is neither too surprised nor too dangerous, nor too bitter or tired, but just boring. Eating, drinking, playing cards and watching TV are the daily routine of several soldiers who stay there.
But the arrival of Xu Sanduo seems to give them a loophole in their peaceful life. This fool-like recruit is still following the routine of the recruits' company: running, doing exercises and playing goose steps. Or clean the gun, and then go out and aim at a certain point on the wasteland for half a day.
the soldiers are angry for no reason. The monitor, Lao Ma, had to talk to Xu Sanduo alone, but around, Xu Sanduo seemed to only quote his father's words: Playing cards is meaningless, but what is meaningful is to live well, and living well is to do more meaningful things.
The old horse was so angry that he pointed to the dilapidated four rooms of Class Five and said, If you want to do something meaningful, you should pave a road between the four rooms. The old horse decided that he couldn't pave it, because there was once a platoon here that didn't pave it. Xu Sanduo, however, gave the order as an old horse and began to pave the way with joy.
The soldiers continued to play cards, while gloating and mocking the fool. But when the first road has taken shape, they suddenly feel a little uncomfortable. The hand is still wrestling with poker, but there is an uncontrollable nameless fire in my heart-why can this fool do such a boring thing?
The soldier Youzi led by Li Tie started sabotage and obstruction activities. They hid his tools, scattered his paving stones, and even the old horse sent him to visit the group in an attempt to distract him ...
But after all, it was a TV series, and the final outcome was of course happy. They participated in it and finally repaired the road.
but in reality? My circle of friends may be the same as that idiot Xu Sanduo in some people's eyes: How can a broken run last so long? How failed are you to impose your dreams on your children? What age are you still reading all day and dressing elegantly? ......
Of course, I'm sure I'm the same as Xu Sanduo in one thing, that is, I gave them a loophole in their comfortable life circle and began to make them feel uncomfortable.
After all, I have really lost weight by insisting on running. With careful education, my children not only get excellent grades, but also make continuous progress in all aspects. Reading and studying make my spirit calm and my life more colorful ...
Sometimes I feel that my circle of friends is actually a small river and lake. If you look closely, the complexity of human nature can be exposed. We won't envy those excellent people we don't know, but for those who used to be familiar with us at the same level, now they have quietly done something they can't do, so it's not pleasing to the eye anyway! Blacken it, I feel like I can't tear my face off. What should I do? Cold violence, when you deliberately interact with friends in front of you, I'm afraid it's the most Japanese way!
Of course, blx seems to feel only for a moment after discovering this secret, but it would be foolish to stop moving forward because of this.
In fact, a person's life is a process of continuous progress. No matter what lies ahead, whether you like it or not, you can never stop.
we don't always walk alone. On the way to walk, you will always meet all kinds of companions. At first, everyone jostled together and walked forward happily. But walking, the pace is gradually inconsistent, some people go beyond you, some people turn to the other side, some people are left behind ... Maybe, you will be alone on a certain section.
so what? People's growth itself is a helpless process, while gaining and losing. The reason why we still stay in each other's circle of friends is nothing more than to commemorate that time, that road that we used to walk together.
So, before you block me or blacken me, I will continue to sincerely praise each and every one of you as before, and I will leave a comment without stint if there is any content.
In your opinion, I am a little boring, but I know that I cherish every journey in my life and everyone I meet. Or, it may contain the malice of human nature that I am not aware of myself: that is a sentence written by Mao Mu in The Moon and Sixpence-what makes people act nobly is not all out of kindness, but sometimes they are full of ambition.
Of course, I will also reflect, and maybe I will continue to reduce the frequency of updating my circle of friends. After all, when others are feasting, raising children and enjoying all kinds of mundane happiness, it is really unkind of you to show off your slimming achievements, accompany you to cultivate talents and pursue spiritual significance.
However, I won't stop growing up by self-discipline. The small circle of friends may have long been unable to hold my satisfaction and pursuit, so now I officially turn to writing! In September, I wrote an article about running to lose weight, "Feeling of running for five months in the morning-life is never too late to start". For more than two months, the reading volume has been increasing every day, and it has become my first article with a reading volume of more than 1,. For a novice, it is enough to make me happy.
So, the world is so big, you don't have to pay attention to the noise around you. If you move forward firmly, you will always meet more and more people with the same frequency. Cold violence? Fuck you!