Be an expert and know professional knowledge. As the saying goes, "Interlacing is like a mountain." In modern society, the professional division of labor is very fine, and each major is relatively independent, forming a relatively closed system. If you have a narrow knowledge, you will undoubtedly become a kind-hearted "layman", but you can't find a topic of praise.
First of all, be good at using technical terms. Terminology is a cell that constitutes a science, and it is its basic component and basic concept. As the saying goes, all walks of life have their own jargon and slang. There are blowing, pulling, beating and singing in Quyi, each of which has rich connotations; There are talking, learning, teasing and singing in cross talk; There are edges, angles, stars, eyes, chess tendons, endings and so on. Go inside. There are tendons, bones, spirits and blades in calligraphy, all of which are jargon in a certain field. On certain occasions, if you praise others in professional terms and make them feel that you are an insider, your praise will make them feel credible and authoritative.
Once, when Zhao Peixin introduced the young to Mr. Cheng, he praised, "This is high flyers of St. John's University! He played well against Laosheng, Tsing Yi and Hua Dan. Recently, I have devoted myself to studying your accent. From what I heard, it is similar to Zhou Changhua's. " At that time, he was learning Hu Qin from Zhou Changhua, and he was still an unknown young man, while Cheng was a master of Peking Opera and a famous pear garden. If Zhao Peixin's introduction is not up to standard, I'm afraid this young man will not attract Cheng's attention. Zhao Peixin's introduction is very professional. His proper and clever use of terms such as "Laosheng, Tsing Yi and Hua Dan" shows that he has a certain research on Peking Opera, a certain appreciation of Peking Opera talents and a certain understanding of people, so most people will not make mistakes. In particular, he said that he was studying, which was founded by Cheng, which made the host very happy.
Secondly, you must have some accomplishments in a certain line, and your praise will be accepted by insiders and regarded as a confidant. Let's take Tang Zaixin as an example. Tang's dialogue with Cheng in Heart shows the young man's understanding of Peking Opera.
Cheng: "Are you from Akira Chemistry?"
Don: "Well, I have studied with Teacher Zhou for three years."
Cheng: "Study drama?"
Don: "Learn, too."
Cheng: "Good." (Nodding with a smile) "Just now, Pershing said that you used to take Yu to see off the old students?" Don: "Yes, I pulled his performance. But I like playing Tsing Yi, and I like your play better! "
Don: "Your singing is deep and delicate, with a strong sense of rhythm, novel and beautiful, and varied. Especially sad drama, sincere feelings, contains rich content ... "
Cheng listened attentively, and her eyes gradually became soft and deep. Finally, he said happily, "Good! If we want to improve Peking Opera, we need college students with high cultural level to participate. I welcome you! " Later, the two became close friends.
In most cases, we are amateurs. Mao Zedong once raised the question that laymen lead experts. Today, we are faced with the problem of amateurs boasting experts. The main point of the method is to expand the knowledge and make yourself an expert. For example, before meeting a person who is engaged in a certain profession, searching for some books and other materials about the profession and carefully studying and understanding the background information of this person will make him an expert speaker. Because journalists are engaged in journalism, they know everything in people's footsteps. In fact, they are not proficient in everything. Their method is to make themselves experts or quasi-experts before the interview, so as to grasp the essence of the problem and have a dialogue with Kan Kan during the interview.
Once, I accepted the task of going to Beijing Environmental Sanitation Bureau for investigation. I didn't know much about sanitation work before, so I collected some information from all sides, sat down and studied it carefully, and I felt almost the same. Later, when I arrived at the Environmental Sanitation Bureau and contacted the bureau leaders, I praised them first: "Our city's Environmental Sanitation Bureau has a fine tradition, and Shi Chuanxiang, a model worker, was trained by our bureau." The leaders of the environmental sanitation bureau are very happy to hear this. They told me some touching stories about Shi Chuanxiang's back dung, and the conversation immediately became active. I further said: "At that time, sanitation facilities were backward, feces were picked by hand, and garbage was swept by hand. It is understood that in recent years, the bureau has done a lot of work, improved sanitation facilities and improved the degree of mechanization. However, people know very little about hygiene operations. They think that sanitation means sweeping garbage. In fact, there is also garbage transportation and disposal work, which is more complicated and harder. I came to investigate this time to understand the ups and downs of sanitation workers, publicize them to the society, and strive for social understanding and support. " The leaders of the environmental sanitation bureau were very happy after hearing this, and enthusiastically gave me the green light for the investigation. Now there are a lot of surveys and interviews in the society. Some people go down to investigate and interview without knowing at all, and are looked down upon by the leaders and employees of the units they go to, thinking that the investigation and interview conducted by such people will have no results, and their reports will not have any influence and authority. In this survey, the leaders of the environmental sanitation bureau first realized that I had a certain understanding and understanding of environmental sanitation work. I not only mentioned their proud deeds in Shi Chuanxiang, but also expressed deep sympathy, support and praise for the hard work of sanitation work, which greatly shortened the psychological distance between the two sides and made them realize that our investigation will play a certain role in promoting sanitation work. Therefore, I readily accepted my request.
The expert admirer also showed his unique vision. A discerning admirer is good at discovering advantages, strengths and meanings that others can't. For example, in the face of a pair of calligraphy, almost everyone lamented: "It's amazing!" "I'm afraid I can't catch up with it after ten years of practice!" Calligraphers have long been used to such compliments. There is only one faint compliment: "As the saying goes, words are like people. Your vigorous writing and steady brushwork are inseparable from your honest nature and calm and experienced attitude towards life. " It is refreshing to talk about people, reason, find another way and change the angle skillfully. His praise is different and superior.