There is a saying in "One Hundred Years of Solitude": "Life will eventually be a solo journey. Before loneliness, there is confusion, and after loneliness, there is growth."
And loneliness* Love is a required course in life. Hard times can sharpen people's will and become more tenacious. Lonely days can also forge people's abilities to become more outstanding.
Everyone will eventually learn to live side by side with loneliness in their life. When you feel lonely and difficult on the way forward, that is the upward path for you to grow.
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Surviving loneliness is beautiful
Hermann Hesse also said: "God uses various ways to make people lonely. So that we can go towards ourselves. ”
Life is just a process of constantly tempering ourselves.
We come into this world alone, and we will eventually leave alone. And the process of walking is bound to be filled with suffering and joy. Only by being able to endure loneliness and endure suffering can the chapter of writing the content of life become richer and more fulfilling.
In 2012, the "Pritzker Prize" award ceremony was held at the Great Hall of the People in Beijing. Architect Wang Shu won the award. This was the first time a Chinese won an international architectural award.
When Wang Shu was asked what is the secret of success?
He replied slowly: "I have to thank those years of loneliness. When I was a child, I fell in love with painting because of my loneliness, and I had an ignorant concept of architecture. After graduation, because I was alone, I was able to quietly If you think about it carefully, a lot of design inspiration comes from that period. ”
When Wang Shu was a child, he often painted at home and gradually fell in love with painting.
After graduating from university, he devoted himself to architectural research, but the work he was engaged in sometimes made him feel less free and convenient, so he resolutely chose to resign.
Gradually, more than ten years have passed. His colleagues who were engaged in architectural design have all achieved success. Only he spends time at the construction site every day, doing basic work with the craftsmen, and has no time to do anything. When I am free, I just read books and drink tea.
Some people felt sorry for him, but he said: "I want to go forward silently alone to see how far I can go."
It was because of these lonely and silent times that he Standing independently and soberly from another angle, he formed his own set of ideas and associations, finally completing his dream and reaching the pinnacle of modern architecture.
Some people say: "The path of spiritual practice is always lonely, because wisdom must come from loneliness."
People who do not have the courage to face loneliness cannot truly grow. When you face loneliness and overcome setbacks, you will definitely see a different scenery.
Suffering can smooth our sharp edges, and experience helps us learn how to live. After all the indescribable loneliness and pain, if you get through it, what will greet you will be extremely beautiful.
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Enjoy solitude and freedom of the heart
Zhuangzi said: "To be alone is to be unique; to be alone is to be supreme. Expensive. ”
If your heart is strong enough, you can live the most elegant and wanton life in the loneliest life. Wise people like to be alone, and enjoying solitude is to please themselves.
The background of life is loneliness. We cannot change the world, but we can change our own mentality. When we live in peace with loneliness, we will feel extremely free.
When TED speaker Piqué Yael was 29 years old, he worked for Time Magazine, the top news magazine in the United States. His high salary allowed him to achieve financial freedom early.
But this kind of life that ordinary people dream of did not make him feel happy. He always felt that something was missing deep inside.
After some careful consideration, he quit his job and moved to a secluded alley alone, where he lived for more than a year.
During this time of solitude, he read and wrote in a small room where no one was disturbed, and finally found his true self.
After being away from all the complexity, he found that his heart was very fulfilling here. In his book "The Power of Quietness", he wrote down the method to make yourself free and happy:
"Turn off the computer, throw away the mobile phone, stay away from electronic products, enjoy solitude and sit quietly." < /p>
Sometimes, the freedom of the heart is worth all the fame, fortune, wealth and splendor.
Life is never easy. People who know how to live understand that calmness and calmness can heal everything in the world. The stronger your heart is, the more independent you will be.
Life is like this, you may have everything you want, but no one may really understand you; even if you are well-rounded, you may not be happy and fulfilled. High-quality solitude is always better than low-quality carnival.
As that sentence says: "Loneliness is not loneliness. It is a way for people to be alone with themselves. Only when people are lonely can their hearts be truly quiet and rational." < /p>
On the long and complicated road of life, loneliness is not indifference. It allows us to practice meditation, so that we can have peace of mind, clarify our direction, and see the essence of things. Only by understanding and enjoying loneliness can a person gain true freedom.
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Only when people are lonely can they excel
I once read a passage: "As an emotion, we need to learn to get along with loneliness, and properly Loneliness is not a choice to calm down in the hustle and bustle. ”
In a complicated life, people who passively choose to be lonely will often feel unbearable pain, while people who actively choose to be lonely will always feel miserable. Be able to face it calmly and enjoy it.
Steel must be tempered for thousands of times before it can be forged into a sharp sword, and bamboo must endure four years before it can break out of the ground. The same is true for people. Only by learning to live with loneliness can we stand out and be better than others. .
Huang Tingjian, a famous poet in the Northern Song Dynasty, was born into a famous family. After entering the court, he wanted to show his great ambitions, but unexpectedly, misfortunes came from the sky, and he faced the fate of being demoted again and again.
Fortunately, he was free and easy by nature. Not only did he not complain about others, but he found something he loved in his lonely years.
When he was in Qianzhou, he planted bamboos, vegetables, flowers and birds. When he was in Rongzhou, he tasted and appreciated fine wines.
During the years of being demoted, he used all the beauty of life to build his own spiritual garden, focusing on writing poems and lyrics, and studying calligraphy.
Huang Tingjian’s poems got better and better as he wrote more and more. He wrote more than 100 excellent poems. He devoted himself to practicing calligraphy and eventually became a master of his generation, leaving many immortal works for the world.
Yu Hua said in "Screaming in the Drizzle": "I no longer pretend to have many friends, but I return to loneliness and start a life alone with the real me."
Only by going through many vicissitudes and being calm can you enjoy loneliness in the long years. Accumulate in solitude, comprehend in solitude, and excel in solitude.
The more setbacks you have, the more you can forge your life; the deeper the loneliness, the more you can calm your heart. When you have experienced the ups and downs of your life, you will understand that only when you are alone can you excel.
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"One Hundred Years of Solitude" said: "Life has never existed independently without loneliness. Whether we are born, we grow, we fall in love, or we succeed or fail, until the end In the end, loneliness exists in the corner of life like a shadow. ”
Life is lonely, and many things need to be faced alone. When you travel through life, you will find that I can accompany you to the end. Yes, only myself.
Maybe you are experiencing loneliness now, or you have survived it, or you are enjoying it. Only by overcoming the loneliness in your heart, you will be the shining star of freedom. May you live the life you like. Oneself, elegant and confident, independent and calm.
About the author: A happy little warmer, a female warrior who has a warm temper and writes life with warm words.