Contents Method 1: Stay Busy 1. Spend more time with your family and friends. 2. Spend more time on hobbies. 3. Create a beautiful piece of art to commemorate your relationship. 4. Write a poem, draw a cartoon or write an illustrated story. 5. Cultivate new relationships. 6. Use exercise 7. Complete any unfinished business. Method 2: Keep your relationship healthy 1. Accept that it’s healthy to spend some time apart. 2. Don’t worry about what your significant other is doing. 3. Make a phone call or video chat. 4. Keep your relationship fresh. 5. Plan a special event. 6. Tell your significant other that you love them and miss them. Method 3: Channel negative emotions 1. Acknowledge and accept your negative emotions. 2. Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. 3. Replace longing and sadness with gratitude. It's always hard to be separated from someone you love, especially when that person is your significant other. While it's okay to miss them, it's also important to take care of yourself and your emotional health. No matter how long you've been apart, the process of learning how to cope with missing your partner is the same. Reprogramming your thoughts and filling your extra free time are great ways to think about the people you love and miss in positive, healthy ways. If you miss your partner because of their death or breakup, you can learn some ways to cope.
Method 1: Stay Busy
1. Spend more time with your family and friends. Sitting at home alone waiting for your partner to come back won't make you feel better about their absence, and it may actually drive you crazy. Instead, try spending this time with a friend or loved one. Think of this separation as an opportunity to catch up with old friends. Or, spend some time with your best friend and let your friend know how much they mean to you. Call a friend and ask them for coffee.
Invite a few friends to your home to cook and have dinner together.
Plan a weekend trip to visit your grandmother.
Avoid withdrawing from other people, especially if you think you might be depressed.
2. Spend more time on hobbies. Chances are you've cut back on your activities to make time for your significant other, or have some new activities you've been meaning to try but haven't gotten around to yet. Instead of sitting around feeling lonely, take advantage of your free time to finish that model ship or that dress.
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Pick up a book you’ve always wanted to read and start reading.
3. Create a beautiful piece of art to commemorate your relationship. Use any artistic or clever approach you like, or try something new! Design a cross-stitch pattern based on your initials, your favorite joke, or your significant other's favorite movie character. Or use different colors and textures to depict how you feel about your significant other. Or turn your favorite photos into a collage. Cross-stitch is a great hobby to spend time alone because it involves a lot of detailed work and requires counting. If you're trying it for the first time, choose a simple style so you don't feel frustrated or overwhelmed.
Pick up some cheap outdoor acrylic paint and canvas at a craft store or Walmart to create an abstract painting. Choose colors that express your emotions and add sand or plaster to create different textures.
Use blank picture frames with or without glass to create collages. If you don't have glass, glue the photo to cardboard, seal it, or spray it with varnish to protect it from damage.
4. Write a poem, draw a cartoon or write an illustrated story. Create something special that describes your relationship and give or share it with your partner when they come back. Use it in any creative way you like. Put all your energy into creating a surprising gift that will let your significant other know how much they mean to you. Use a calligraphy pen to write an original poem on beautiful floral paper. It would be better if you could make a piece of paper by hand yourself.
Write a children's style book with illustrations about how you met. Making a cute book that your significant other will love doesn't require you to be good at drawing.
Simple illustrations can add some meaningful detail to each scene.
5. Cultivate new relationships. Join a book or movie review club. Participating in these activities can give you a chance to get out of the house and make new friends. These things will also take up some of your free time to read or watch "homework." Plus, you might make a great new friend or even meet another couple you can hang out with on a date night.
6. Use exercise to distract yourself. When you're feeling particularly sad and unable to engage in your favorite recreational activities, get up and go for a run, bike along the trails, or hit the gym for at least 20 minutes of aerobic exercise. Not only does exercise help relieve stress and shift your focus to something else, but it also causes your body to release endorphins, which act like painkillers and mood boosters. Just five minutes of high-intensity exercise can instantly lift your mood, but regular exercise can help relieve long-term depression. Think of exercise as the natural medicine your body needs to function properly.
7. Complete any unfinished business. Use your time apart as an opportunity to finish some unfinished business. Maybe it’s something you’ve started but haven’t finished yet, or maybe it’s something you’ve been putting off until you have enough time. You'll stay busy and be happy that you finally get these things done. Re-caulk the bathtub, re-sand and refinish your grandma's antique dresser, repair a window screen that flaps in the wind, and more.
Finish your short story, make those throw pillows you’ve been saving up fabric for, or sign up for that pet training class you’ve been meaning to go to.
Paint your bedroom, install shelves in the bathroom, or build a vegetable garden.
Method 2: Keep your relationship healthy
1. Accept the separation It's healthy for a while. Whether you live together or not, in any relationship, taking some time apart is necessary to maintain your independence. If you can't stand being apart from each other for a few days, you may be too dependent on each other for your own happiness and sense of self-worth. Remind yourself that you are a valuable person and you don’t need others to give your life meaning. Try saying, "I am a valuable person and spending time alone is healthy for me."
Being apart gives you a chance to miss your partner, which can remind you how much they mean to you. . If you've never been apart, you may start to take the little things about each other that you like for granted.
2. Don’t worry about what your significant other is doing. If you find yourself obsessing over what your partner is doing when they're not with you, whether it's something as small as watching a show you normally watch together or cheating, it could be that you're hiding your feelings about being dumped or having an affair. The fear of being hurt. Turn your thoughts to what you can control: how you spend your time. It's natural to worry sometimes, but being preoccupied with these thoughts is a sign of attachment anxiety. People with this problem are constantly expecting the worst from their partners, or are always waiting for the relationship to end.
3. Make a phone call or video chat. If you're too far apart to meet in person, scheduling a time to talk to your significant other on the phone can give you something to look forward to. It's also an opportunity to connect with each other and have a real conversation while you're apart. Make sure not to call or text frequently. Evaluate your relationship and think about how long you will be apart and how often you will typically talk or see each other.
If you know your significant other is busy, you can send a private message via email or WeChat instead of texting, or call the other person's voicemail directly and leave a sweet message. These communication methods will not interrupt your partner during work or family activities, and they will surprise them.
Try to schedule a special time for each other, such as watching their favorite show when your significant other is away. You'll feel closer when you know the other person is watching the same thing as you, and it will give you something to talk about instead of just saying how much you miss each other.
4. Keep your relationship fresh. When you meet in person, even if you're on the phone or online, make sure you don't always do or say the same things. Plan different types of activities for date night. Talk about new topics you haven't discussed before, or want to learn more about each other.
If your conversation is stuck, bring up a recent news item or interesting topic you heard.
Talk about your childhood. What have you ever thought you wanted to be when you grew up? What was your favorite recreational activity as a child? What's your favorite Halloween costume?
Look in local newspapers or websites for inspiration on new activities to try. Ask friends and colleagues who are in a relationship what they do when they are with their partner to get more ideas.
5. Plan a special event. Include new activities that you've never done before, or that you've talked about wanting to try. Or, plan your own day as a surprise and include something your significant other has always wanted to do. Use your imagination! Plan the entire day around a theme, such as a romantic movie (When Harry Met Sally), or a pretend trip to Paris. Buy a croissant, sit outside at a café for a few hours, walk across the prettiest bridge in the neighborhood, and visit your city’s art museum.
Go to the park for a picnic, stop by the plant store on the way home and buy a few flowers you saw before, and then go home and plant them together.
With the theme of "water", arrange a visit to an aquarium or science museum, find the largest public fountain in the city, bring some change to make a wish (make sure it is allowed!), and then walk along End the day with a walk along the nearby canal or beach.
Plan a scavenger hunt together. Write clues that will take you to different places that remind you of each other, or give your partner some surprises that you know he will love.
6. Tell your significant other that you love him and miss him. The best way to cope with separation and keep your relationship strong is to communicate how you're feeling. When you talk, tell your partner you miss them. Ask your partner what they are doing and share your day with them to make them feel more connected to you. Remind your partner how grateful you are that they are a part of your life.
Method 3: Channel negative emotions
1. Acknowledge and accept your negative emotions. When you really miss your significant other and can't seem to distract yourself from missing them, stop going on. Sometimes, trying not to think about someone just makes you miss that person more. Instead, ask yourself why you feel sad or angry in that moment. Once you know why you feel the way you do, you can do something about it. When you feel craving, ask yourself: Are you bored? Have you ever had a bad day and wish the other person was around to talk to you about it? Do you miss the things they usually do for you? Go to a movie, call a friend to chat, or learn how to cook an exotic meal.
If you find yourself feeling angry or frustrated, try to figure out what those emotions are. Do you feel abandoned, forgotten or insignificant? These may be extreme reactions to a breakup and may not reflect your partner's feelings or intentions.
2. Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts. When you think, "I miss them so much! I can't take it anymore," stop and correct yourself from these negative thoughts. Instead, adjust your thought patterns so that they trigger positive feelings about yourself. Remind yourself that you can handle it and that separation isn't necessarily a bad thing. When you find yourself thinking about your time together, stop yourself and focus on the present. Replace "I wish we were together now" with "It's nice to be alone with a cat (or dog) today when normally she would just go to my partner first." Turn the feeling of loneliness into being with someone or something contact.
If you get stuck, use logic to overcome your negative emotions. If you think, "I can't be happy when they're not here," you're going to be unhappy. Instead, admit that you took control of your emotions and decided to happily do something else during this time.
Cognitive laws are established through hard work. Your brain tends to follow this pattern every time you engage in an activity or think about a meaningful thought.
Learning to correct negativity by focusing on positive thoughts takes time and practice. Be patient with yourself and don't make yourself feel worse by criticizing yourself.
3. Replace longing and sadness with gratitude. It's normal to miss your significant other because you prefer being with them rather than apart.
Instead of being sad, think about how grateful you are to have such a wonderful partner. List the things you admire about the other person or the good things they bring to your life. Think about how you are better together: are you more patient, mature, and friendly? Have you broadened your horizons and overcome past fears? Are you proud that you have learned to consider your loved ones before your own needs?
Deciding to focus on what you have rather than what you don’t have doesn’t mean you can’t allow yourself to miss your significant other. It's okay to miss the people you care about.
When you feel lonely and want your partner to be with you, try to get into the habit of focusing on being grateful for the time you have together. You can keep a gratitude journal and keep it with you at all times so that when these emotions arise, you can immediately shift your mindset.