As the saying goes: "Good medicine is bitter in the mouth and good for the disease; loyal words that are offensive to the ears are good for action." However, even so, there are still not many people who like to listen to words that are offensive to the ears. At any time, flattering and being patted are the needs of human nature. Therefore, flattering must also be done in an artistic way. When talking about the most flattering person in ancient China, everyone will definitely think of Heshen! He Shen paid great attention to the way he spoke to Qianlong. According to modern understanding, he was flattering to the highest level and was deeply loved by the emperor.
Such a person who is good at flattering has reached such a high position. Doesn’t he have no talent at all? In fact, it is not the case. If we sort out He Shen's life, we can even see an inspirational drama. He embarked on an official career at the age of eighteen. Ten years later, he was already "walking in front of the emperor". This shows his qualifications and abilities. He is good at financial management and management. He once borrowed money from An The clear case won Qianlong's appreciation in one fell swoop, and he had a keen political sense. Heshen was proficient in four languages: Manchu, Chinese, Mongolian and Tibetan, and had read the Four Books and Five Classics thoroughly. There are many poems in He Shen's collection of poems "Jia Le Tang Poems Collection" that were written under the orders of Emperor Qianlong, from which we can see He Shen's calligraphy attainments.
Such a person who is both talented and good at flattering can be divided into the following two types in our ordinary workplace today.
1: One kind is that they really have no talent, they are just ordinary, but they are unwilling to be inferior to others and want to live a better life, so flattering is a way of survival, but this kind of It’s hard to say whether this way of survival can last long.
2: The second type is really talented, because flattering people until they are smooth and silent is also a kind of talent. Being able to flatter someone can capture an idea, capture the leader's heart, and capture the key points of the matter. This is an extraordinary ability in itself.
Anyone who flatters a leader by flattering him is not a good flatterer; if he is very good at flattering, then this person’s observation ability, ability to judge things, and language organization ability are still very strong, and finally What’s even better is how he views flattery! Because for those who are talented and dare to flatter people, in his understanding, this is not flattery, but the most important part of smoothing the relationship with the leadership in the workplace.
3: The most annoying thing in the workplace is: I don’t like it if you take pictures of you. Why do you confuse the public and hurt others? This is the type of flattery that everyone hates, right?
It is clear that there is a problem with the leader’s plan, and everyone has put forward their opinions. You keep taking pictures, making the leader happy, and do not change the plan. What will you do when the results are not good? It's obvious that you deliberately create some small chaos, or it's just a small matter. After solving it, you go to the leader to show your ability and loyalty to win favor and benefits. It's really hateful.
So, whether you want to flatter someone in the workplace depends on your personal choice, but to what extent you want to flatter someone, you might as well think about the people around you.