So at this time, when we meet our parents for the first time, what impression should we show in front of his parents?
How to make a good impression on his parents, make them think that you are particularly suitable for being a daughter-in-law, and even pull them into your' divine help' so that his son can marry you quickly?
Today, I will give my cousins detailed advice from two aspects, and teach them how to deal with their parents smoothly and go further from the marriage hall!
Accept this Chinese New Year welfare strategy!
Preparation before meeting parents
The first gift principle:
Principle 1: Give what you like and send it to your heart.
For example, the man's father likes calligraphy very much. If he has nothing to do, he likes to write his own calligraphy. He can get a set of' Four Treasures of the Study', which is decent and accurate.
The man and mother pay great attention to maintenance, young and love beauty, and send a set of skin care products and masks suitable for her age, or some high-grade scarves with bright colors.
Principle 2: Try to choose things that the other parents will often use in their lives, not expensive luxuries.
If you really don't know the preferences of the other parents, then follow this principle.
Be sure to buy something they can use in their lives. They will naturally think of you when they use it, and they will think that this girl really understands life and is very caring.
Step 3 dress up
Minefield: Too sexy, too much makeup, too much jewelry, exaggerated manicure.
These are all manifestations of strong sexual attraction, which may apply to men, but not to in-laws.
Because these things are not safe for them, unsafe girls are not suitable for being wives.
What they want is a daughter-in-law who looks very cultured, polite, gentle and quiet.
For details, please refer to the costume of Guan Guan in Ode to Joy, which is very popular with elders.
Get along well with your parents.
The preparation stage before meeting your parents is half successful, and then it depends on your getting along in the continuous stage.
Grasp the principle of "Three Needs and Four Don 'ts".
Three main points: an answer, two questions and three compliments.
1. Answer
When chatting with the elders, the parents of the other party will certainly praise their son's advantages in various ways. At this time, you must laugh and listen more, nod from time to time, and occasionally praise him in the dark.
In addition, here is a skill that can give you super points.
Tip: "mirror image" principle
Mirror image is a subconscious communication mode in psychology, which can quickly make strangers accept you and feel reunited after a long separation.
Most of them are used in sales skills, and meeting parents for the first time is also excellent.
It is a way to imitate each other, so that a person can reach the same communication mode with the other party in terms of speech, voice and body language.
In other words, when the words, mood, intonation, attitude, breathing style and frequency, expression, gesture and behavior used by two people are in a * * *, a * * will naturally occur.
The other person will intuitively think that you are similar to her in character and have a feeling of kindness and trust.
So, you can try to imitate everything about her in a short time. Let the other person have a kind of * * *: you and I seem to be almost the same. Why are you so much like me?
This is a subconscious communication mode, because the other party does not know.
ask about
1, ask about hobbies, hobbies, etc.
For example, his mother likes knitting sweaters. You can say that you also want to learn this recently and plan to knit a scarf for your boyfriend.
You see, on the one hand, you and your fucking hobbies overlap, which means more topics and * * * voices; On the other hand, it also shows your consideration for her son.
2. Ask your boyfriend about his childhood to make the atmosphere relaxed and happy.
When we meet for the first time, the topics we talk about will be very limited. The only topic we can talk about is your boyfriend and her precious son.
And speaking of childhood, the elders will come up with a big photo album, which is full of the growth records of her precious son.
At this time, you can listen to her tell some interesting childhood stories about her boyfriend.
Believe me, she can tell the story behind each photo, and you can have a long chat happily … and an album will definitely bring you closer.
3. Ask for some life skills.
As I said above, one of the indicators for a man's parents to choose a daughter-in-law is whether you can take good care of her son.
So you can ask some life skills with an open mind and sincerity, and get closer to the man with a good wife and mother.
Tip: "Ask for advice"
For example, when you are helping in the kitchen, it is a good time to ask for advice:
"Aunt, you cut xx beautifully! So you can still do this. "
"Aunt, this fish soup pot is really delicious. I'm learning to cook fish recently, but I don't cook this taste. Do you have any secret recipe? Ask me ~ "
"Aunt, you cook every day, and your skin can be maintained so well. How enviable! Teach me how to maintain it quickly! "
sing one's own praises
When I meet my future mother-in-law for the first time, the easiest way to please her is to praise her.
? Praise her.
Compliments should be detailed, otherwise people will feel fake.
For example:
"Aunt, your hair is really good, black and supple (praise something else if your face is not good-looking, don't praise it hard)."
Another example is:
"Aunt, you have a good figure, how to keep it? Her face is not good-looking, maybe she has a good figure. ) "
? Praise her son.
Every mother thinks her son is the best in the world!
You can praise her son in front of her:
"No wonder you are so handsome, so my aunt is so temperamental!"
Or:
"No wonder you are so capable. So you inherited such a high-quality gene from your aunt! "
The future mother-in-law will think that if you admire her son so much, you can be good to her son in the future.
? Praise his family.
For example, after meeting for the first time, you can say:
"Today, I am very happy to have dinner with my uncle and aunt. My aunt is gentle and delicious. My uncle is very humorous. It's so happy to have dinner with you! "
The above is the basic compliment, and some easy-going future mother-in-law has already taken a fancy to you.
Four didn't.
1, don't be too diligent.
Don't be busy at home like a nanny, but you can't sit still.
Just show up and give his mother a hand.
Remember not to direct her son in front of her. When you are alone, you can do whatever you want.
However, in front of your parents, you still have to be considerate of him and even let her son boss you around.
2. Don't be too intimate.
Don't get too close to your boyfriend in front of his parents. This is a big no-no.
3. Don't do this.
Many girls always meet their parents with food when they are eating, but they just have food they don't like, so some people will have emotions and then give it to their boyfriends:
This is not delicious. Here you are.
Then the man's parents will be unhappy:
Why should I feed my son something bad?
Tip: Discuss the secret code in advance.
At this time, you need to make a gesture with your boyfriend in advance, such as winking at him or stepping on him. This sign means:' I'm full, you should take the chicken pieces from my bowl quickly'.
4. Don't spend the night
Remember not to stay at home for the first time. As home is far away, you can find a hotel near his home.
Don't share a room, don't share a bed.
Although his parents won't say anything about it, at least they won't have a good impression.