1。 Manners: dress according to your age, figure, personality and various occasions; Walk with your back straight. Don't be too quick and awkward with girls. Don't wolf down your food, and don't make a' tut-tut, or beep' sound, as if you hadn't seen the world without a tutor.
2。 When talking to someone: look straight around the other person's nose; Don't dance and be aggressive; Smile and keep a certain distance; A cordial and sincere tone;
3。 Increase various hobbies: ensure that two or three interests learn a little deeper; Always pay attention to fashion elements, but not necessarily follow them immediately;
4。 Read more books: in addition to the success stories of some celebrities, train textbooks, read some books, increase eloquence, interpersonal communication and language art. There are too many titles, so I won't list them here. Please look in the bookstore.
5。 Cultivate your abilities in all aspects: adaptability, coordination, organization, judgment, negotiation, responsibility, efficiency, creativity and courage.
5。 Kindness is the most important. If you leave this point, everything else is zero, because it will be revealed in your words and deeds. Help all kinds of vulnerable groups, colleagues, friends, relatives, small animals and passers-by. Respect leaders and elders.
As long as you can be strict with yourself and persevere, you will definitely see obvious results within half a year. I hope you can become an independent, popular, strong, gentle, brave, cautious, smart, modest, ordinary and excellent person. First, you should establish an opinion. Cultivation does not mean that you can improve if you want to improve, nor does it mean that wearing glasses means maturity, and wearing a bikini means sexiness. Cultivation is about behavior and words and deeds. With this concept, I suggest you learn good habits about elegant words and deeds, such as what is an elegant sitting posture and what is an educated eating posture. By learning these, you can make yourself more upscale and have a better family style (I don't know if you are a man, don't take it amiss, if you are a man, of course you are handsome and gentle). With this kind of words and deeds, even if you don't wear glamorous clothes, you can give people a civilized and polite influence. It should be noted that self-cultivation pays more attention to the inside besides the outside. If you have a certain degree of self-confidence and endurance, that is, you believe that your endurance is good, I suggest you go to a temple to retreat, reflect on it, sum up it, and then forge ahead. This is a traditional way to make yourself more introverted and connotative, so that you can be more energetic. Besides, of course, there are other methods, such as calligraphy and painting. Both are prerequisites. To make yourself more attractive, it is more about action. To do the above, you should set up an idea, sum up an idea, and then follow this, which will naturally be attractive. It is necessary to watch some books and TV plays about social reality, and the main theme reflects the current social situation. Or watch some talk shows. A host like Lu Yu Yang Lan. The interviews with Phoenix TV are all good, so you can have a look. Don't watch some boring entertainment programs, watch those girls study crazy. How you cultivate yourself also has a lot to do with the people you contact. Get in touch with leaders and see how they treat people. The average leader is still very competent.
To improve my self-cultivation, I personally think that we should first learn from others, and secondly, we should "join the WTO" and exercise ourselves in the complex environment of society, instead of blindly burying ourselves in reading. After all, what others do is quite different from what we can do.
Now there are many books to teach girls how to express themselves. You can go to Xinhua Bookstore when you have time. Personally, I think the main thing is to have more contact with people. There must be people with high self-cultivation around you, learning from others and discovering their own shortcomings. Every time you do something, you should reflect on whether it is appropriate for you to do it and how to do it in the future. To improve one's self-cultivation, one should not only study, but also think more and improve oneself at all times. This is a long-term accumulation process and cannot be achieved overnight. The ancients said, "Anger hurts the body." Anger is one of the negative emotions of human beings. If a person is often angry, it will damage his body and mind.
Second, abstain from inferiority: inferiority can easily destroy a person, and it can also make people rise because of self-improvement. Avoid jealousy: instead of spending your limited energy jealous of others' success, seize the opportunity to do something practical.
Third, the villain: the villain will not only help our lives, but will become a stumbling block for you to fall at a critical moment.
Fourth, resist temptations: We should resist all kinds of temptations such as power, money and beauty, constantly improve our own quality, strengthen personal cultivation, improve moral quality, and maintain a healthy and peaceful mentality.
Fifth, refrain from rage: rage can easily make people lose their minds, so we must learn to control our emotions.
Peace: sit still and think about yourself, don't talk about others. Those who can bear hardships are people with lofty ideals, and those who are willing to bear hardships are not idiots.
It's not incompetent to stay away from a gentleman. The field is wide and wide, so that the back three points are safe. A way to cultivate one's morality;
Self-detachment and good human nature;
Cut something, no repair;
Become indifferent and lose calm;
Think calmly and do good for it.