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Debater Zhan Qingyun said in "Qi Pa Shuo": What made Tang Seng become Tang Seng was not the scriptures, but the way to learn the scriptures. ?
This reminds me of a person, Guang Ming.
Guang Ming is the second eldest child in the family, with an older sister above him.
My sister is good-looking and excellent in studies. She is the treasure of the whole family. Guangming is not as smart as her sister, her academic performance is average, and she is a girl, so her family inevitably doesn't pay as much attention to her.
She is introverted, does not fight or compete, and is almost transparent.
Later, my sister was admitted to a key university, and Guangming went to a technical secondary school to study art. After graduating from technical secondary school, he was assigned to be a teacher in an elementary school. Within two years, they got married and had children.
Life is ordinary, every step is regular, as if you are on a long conveyor belt, straight and straight, and you can see the end at a glance. She was the one standing in the crowd who couldn't even see her shadow.
Guangming’s marriage is not happy. The husband is an alcoholic and does not work. Every time she comes home from get off work, she can almost see her husband, drunk and lying on the floor, fast asleep.
The couple usually communicates very little, and the atmosphere at home often feels suffocating. The time when the two of them talked the most was probably when they were quarreling. Sometimes they start to fight when they are noisy.
Guang Ming manages everything in life by himself
He goes to work during the day to earn money and at night he has to go home to cook and take care of the children. After putting the children to sleep, he starts doing laundry and doing housework. It was late at night. The next morning, I sent my children to school and then went to work.
The days passed silently like this.
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When Guangming was 36 years old, his father was diagnosed with terminal cancer.
My mother is nearly seventy years old, my sister is busy working abroad and has no time to take care of the family, and my husband is addicted to alcohol and drunk every day and cannot take care of the elderly. In this way, the burden of taking care of his father fell on Guangming alone.
Working in school during the day and rushing to the hospital at night, two o'clock and one line.
I took my father to register, do check-ups, and look for doctors everywhere. I was exhausted both physically and mentally. I suddenly lost a lot of weight and my cheeks became sunken.
Guang Ming stayed in the hospital day and night, while her husband drank too much at home and fell into a trance.
The child was so hungry that he cried. Guangming was in a panic in the hospital and begged other relatives to temporarily help take care of the child.
Later, the doctor issued a critical illness notice.
Facing the piece of paper, Guang Ming seemed to have been emptied out of his mind in an instant. He stood witheredly in the hospital corridor, surrounded by blank white walls. She desperately wanted to save her father, she wanted him to survive, but no one could help her.
She thought of her unsatisfactory husband and the crying child on the other end of the phone, holding the cold critical illness notice in her hand, and the world suddenly lost color.
She was like a young deer who had lost its way and encountered a wild beast. She was scared, frightened, but had no way to escape.
She has always been a little girl. Such is fate, there is no preview and no rehearsal.
When his father passed away, Guangming’s sky fell.
Guang Ming dragged her withered body back home. The smell of cigarette smoke and the wine bottles scattered on the floor made her choke and cry.
Looking at the drunk man in front of him, Guang Ming was in a trance, as if he was crushed by the last straw.
The relationship is unsatisfactory, the pressure has nowhere to pour, the pain cannot be expressed, life is dark, and there is no hope. She no longer wanted to endure this dark life.
Soon, Guangming divorced her husband.
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Lu Yu once wrote in "Encounter":
No matter who we are, we have all experienced or are currently experiencing the darkest moments in our lives. It is a long, dark, cold, and despairing tunnel.
That year, Guang Ming was almost 40 years old.
She decided to raise the child alone.
Guang Ming rented a house in the suburbs far away from home to accompany his children to school. It was already dark when she dragged all her luggage to the small rental house.
She didn't turn on the light and sat slumped on the broken wooden chair in the corner. Looking back on this year, her father became ill, and she took her father everywhere to seek medical treatment. Until his death, she had to handle the funeral alone, and finally divorced. She experienced each one and endured it.
I never thought these things would happen so suddenly.
The moonlight outside the window was so bright that she looked at the moon with half-squinted eyes. Dust and powder were falling in the air, appearing in the light for a while and then disappearing into the darkness.
This was a peace she had never experienced before, a true inner peace.
Since then, Guangming has become different.
She began to prepare lessons and study carefully. I carefully made PPTs and revised the lesson plans repeatedly until late at night. Later, he emerged in several competitions, was awarded exceptional awards, and became a key teacher, standing out from thousands of competing teachers.
She began to practice calligraphy and cultivate her patience and perseverance. In his spare time, Guangming would practice calligraphy on a felt on his desk, regularly attend calligraphy classes, and go home to practice and ponder over and over again.
There are piles of rice paper piled up at home. Later, he won many awards in calligraphy competitions.
She began to learn makeup, clothing matching, and learn to take care of herself. Every day, she dresses herself up delicately without losing her identity, exuding the beauty of calmness and maturity in her bones.
Life is originally a glass of water, and whether this glass of water is bitter or sweet depends entirely on your choice.
Later, Guangming remarried and found a man who did not drink and had a very peaceful personality. When she was 43 years old, she gave birth to her little daughter.
The current husband is a man who understands her. Whenever she encounters troubles, he will guide her carefully; he cooks delicious meals for her in different ways every day; they often take their children to picnics in suburban parks on weekends; and sometimes the couple does housework together, which is also full of fun.
Eat well, sleep well, and laugh. Such a beautiful life was something Guangming had never imagined before.
Three years ago, she was still a single mother with a heavy burden; now, she has emerged from a failed marriage, re-formed a happy family, and has a prosperous career. ,
I have achieved a shining self and become a winner in life in the eyes of my peers.
Everything is painful, and we can only overcome it by ourselves.
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Bi Shumin said: A good heart does not have to be gorgeous, but it must be strong. ?
When you become strong, the world will put away its scary fangs and treat you kindly.
Everyone will encounter many ups and downs in life. Most of the time, as long as you lift your feet and step over, you will find a different scenery.
No one's life is smooth sailing, and the ups and downs and thorns along the way are unchangeable facts. Life will not be easy because of someone's collapse.
Some people fall into despair when they encounter failure, while some people adjust their mentality and make a comeback; some people fall apart when they hit a wall, and some people's lives are not very prosperous.
The best time to plant a tree was ten years ago, followed by now.
Many middle-aged people will say: Change is what young people do. At my age, it takes one day at a time. ?
American painter Grandma Moses didn’t really pick up a paintbrush until she was 78 years old. According to Grandma Moses, what does it matter when? How could it be too late? Starting from now is the best time.
It is never too late to work hard, and success is no accident. As long as you work hard, blessings are on the way. As long as you persist, God will give you satisfactory results.
Walk on your own road of life, face the mud and bumps calmly, wait for the rainy season, nurture your own flowering period, and bloom your own splendor.
Guangming gave back her 40-year-old and her 40-year-old "youth" with the most comfortable lifestyle.
She is still her today, but she is not. She is not a phoenix, but she has achieved nirvana for her life.
She is 40 years old, and she is in her best years.
The rest of your life is long. Women, please love yourself well and always stay kind and warm, so that you can live up to your time.
May every step you take in the future bloom with your best efforts. Life is a long road. The harder you work, the luckier you will be. The more active you are, the more sunshine you will have.