? Second, (this is the suggestion of a teacher who loves calligraphy) children learn calligraphy: 1. First, stimulate their interest in calligraphy (find an ugly and good template for children to express their views. Who is good, what is good? How to write well) -2. Deliberately stop him from studying (playing hard to get, deliberately suspense the child's appetite. ) -3. When you decide to learn calligraphy, make an agreement first (you can't give up halfway, it's better not to go if you don't learn, which will save money and not waste children's playing time)-4. Encourage him to persist (find out from daily practice that he has studied well and encourage him to gain confidence) -5. Habit becomes nature (set aside corresponding time for calligraphy every day or week).
? Third, the reason why some children don't want to learn calligraphy: 1 is that children don't realize the benefits of good handwriting (such as winning the appreciation of teachers and classmates); 2. Parents blame more than encourage their children when they do their homework, which makes them lack confidence in writing and even hate writing; 3, I didn't meet my favorite teacher, and I didn't feel good about writing! 4. I have never met a favorite font, and I have no concept of calligraphy. I don't know what calligraphy is.
? Another point is to see if the child's sitting posture and writing posture are correct. If these mistakes also affect the writing effect, they can be properly guided.
In order to make it easier for everyone to understand, I will tell you something about my children.
In order to let everyone know this problem better, I specially "interviewed" two children. Because my son practiced calligraphy several times before the holiday, he wrote well when he practiced. After school started, he persisted for a while, and his writing gradually returned to its original state. However, apart from encouraging him, I have hardly accused or criticized him. Recently, I have seen many parents struggling in this regard. I said, "Son, can I ask you a question?" The son said, "Of course." I continued to ask, "How? You have practiced calligraphy many times before, and you have practiced it well through hard work. But why did it gradually return to its original appearance after a period of school? ? Don't be angry! " The son said, "How's it going? It doesn't matter, that's because there is more homework. Writing in brush strokes is very slow and tiring. So I couldn't stick to it later. " How sincere this is in the hearts of children! My daughter is in the second grade this year. Although she is young, she writes beautifully. Therefore, I asked her again: "? Baby, mom wants to ask you, how do you keep writing? " ? The daughter said, "How? I am usually at school, and I write whatever the teacher teaches me. And there is not much homework, so I insist on writing well. " ? Because my niece does her homework in my house every afternoon, and she finishes it quickly every time, and her handwriting is good, but she doesn't write. Moreover, her and her daughter's personalities are completely different, which is a difference in personality rather than a gap. ) I asked her again: "? Then every time my sister finishes her homework, aren't you in a hurry? " ? She said, "What do you think? Don't worry, because I know she can't write with a pen, and her handwriting is not as good as mine. Therefore, even if my sister finishes writing, I am not in a hurry, but I have to write carefully. " I asked her again: "? Then what reason do you have? Let you work hard and insist on writing good words? " (? Because when she first started practicing calligraphy, in order to write well, almost all the new words in a class could be written for more than an hour, and sometimes her little hands were soaked. Of course, it is much faster now. ) She thought for a moment and said? What's more, you, teachers and classmates all say that my handwriting looks good, so I should write carefully. And the writing is good, and the teacher smiles at the stars. " ? Let's have a look. In fact, you will gain a lot by communicating well with your children. And most importantly, how important it is to appreciate, encourage and recognize!
? As for writing, let me talk about my recent feelings: I have been insisting on writing growth records for two children recently, and recording their meaningful things or some growth stories every day. Also, when listening to micro-lessons, you should generally record the main points of the big questions that the teacher said and what you think you have learned. To tell the truth, we have now developed adult information tools, and the probability of handwriting is gradually decreasing. So I have a particularly deep feeling recently: sometimes to a certain extent, my hands are particularly sour and tired. The more you write, the more scribbled your words are. Sometimes it really gets out of control, and sometimes I even feel a little flat with my pen. That feeling is so painful. Therefore, through my own feelings, I can understand children more deeply. Moreover, I said to them more than once: "Mom has been particularly understanding you recently, and it is really hard to do homework all day. It's really worth learning that you insist so hard. I'm proud of you. Especially my son, I understand your feelings better. Sometimes there is really no way to slow down and write carefully. Let's try to make a little progress every day, shall we? Try to keep clean and tidy, and don't embarrass yourself, okay? In fact, my son's handwriting has made great progress as a whole. Keep moving! I believe you will get better and better! " Hearing this, the child nodded. That look is really hard to describe. His face is full of happiness and excitement. Think about it from another angle. Is it very happy to be understood in his heart?
So no matter what happens. Be sure to put yourself in the child's shoes first and feel * * * with the child. Only by understanding and accepting children's negative emotions, communicating in time and understanding the reasons behind the incident? See if there is any responsibility behind these reasons. It is necessary to "prescribe the right medicine" according to the reasons and actively guide it. I believe that all problems will be solved with patience. ......
Also, discover and tap the advantages of children. If you observe carefully, every child has many advantages. Maybe a friend will say, "My child has no advantages at all? Are all problems? " So what I want to tell you is that you are already looking after the child with colored glasses, magnifying his shortcomings and ignoring the existence of advantages. Starting today, as long as you do it with your heart, put down your criticism and accusation, carefully observe your children and reflect on yourself, one day you will suddenly find: "Wow! My child, is this good? That aspect is also very good? " That's because, in the past, children went against your wishes and failed to meet your expectations, so they lived in your accusations and reprimands for a long time and gradually lost their sense of self-worth and existence. Once you find the advantages of your child, even if it is a small advantage? You should also encourage and recognize the advantages, so that children can gain self-confidence and sense of accomplishment, and gradually you will find that his shortcomings will also be reduced. The parent-child relationship gradually eased. At this time, there is another amazing discovery. You can accept your guidance and have less resentment. This is the power of respect and understanding!