On the one hand, some children are born dull. So what are the characteristics of chronic fever?
Children are not only slow in doing homework, but also may be slow in getting up, tidying up, starting and even doing what they like.
Usually, mental retardation is related to heredity, but the acquired family education will make the child's mental retardation more prominent.
When the child is constantly reminded by a particularly capable parent, the child's intention will be weakened and gradually show the attitude of "doing it sooner or later".
On the other hand, for the phenomenon of inattention, there is a professional term "ADHD" in children's psychology, which means that the development of brain function is slightly impaired, which affects the ability of concentration. This situation is actually a feature of developmental age, so parents should try their best to ensure that their children's environment is more "pure".
For example, children are easily influenced by dolls on their desks when doing homework, so parents can empty the desktop and create a "simple" environment. In addition, children in grade one and grade two can keep their concentration for 20-40 minutes, and children in grade three can keep their concentration for 40-60 minutes.
In the meantime, parents should answer the phone as quietly as possible, don't send fruit to their children, and don't see if their children are focused. Let children study in a relatively stable and quiet environment, which helps children to keep their attention on learning tasks.
If you are sure that your child has time management problems in his study habits, you need to pay attention to the following two points:
First, about the motivation of learning, that is, whether children like learning.
Parents' understanding of learning mostly comes from learning tasks such as class and homework, but for a child before the age of 12, as long as he opens his eyes every day, learning will happen. He is observing the life around him, observing the habits of adults, how to deal with hunger every morning, how to arrange a day's life and so on. This kind of observation and imitation are both learning.
Therefore, when parents see that their children's learning motivation is insufficient, they should reflect on whether their investment, attention and enthusiasm for learning are also lacking.
For example, parents get up every day with their mobile phones to relax and entertain, which can easily have a negative impact on their children. However, if parents have a fixed reading habit and the habit of thinking at any time, it will make children feel that learning is very interesting.
Parents are more interesting and try their best at home, which is also more conducive to children's study. Parents can talk at home about how to fold a piece of paper, how to put the house back, what delicious Chinese food to cook tomorrow, what interesting things have happened recently, what the news broadcast is about, the problems encountered at work and the solution process of investigation and analysis. ...
This "constant questioning" itself will stimulate children's habit of asking questions about things and unknown things, which is of great help to learning.
Usually, I think children sometimes procrastinate because they don't understand the function of this matter and its connection with future life, so we must guide children to think diachronically and feel the value of learning. The subtle influence of daily family life will make children gradually understand the positive role of learning.
Second, children are interested in learning and curious, but they feel nervous at the beginning of homework.
What is the reason? Maybe it's because parents are so perfect. When homework is checked for errors, parents force their children to correct them; Even if there are no mistakes, let the children write the most perfect horizontal and vertical.
This kind of high standards and strict requirements can't ignore the endurance of children. Tolerance is divided into two aspects, one is the child's own learning ability, and the other is the child's age characteristics.
Children who are too young are stunted and unable to "write" their parents' requirements. Taking calligraphy practice as an example, it is a natural development process from graffiti to horizontal and vertical to perfect writing. From the beginning, it is very demanding, and it is really "a cold day". Parents often require their 6- 10-year-old children to be 30-40 years old or even expert, which will make them very depressed.
All learning needs to be interesting, and some interest comes from achievement. A child's initial interest must be curiosity. Curiosity makes him invest in one thing, and the final result may not meet the parents' standards, but the investment itself is worthy of parents' affirmation and praise, prompting children to invest for the second time.
What parents need to pay attention to is that teachers need to be reasonable and fair to the whole class; And home is an "unreasonable" place, and parents are very important safety givers for children.
When children can't relax and get tolerance when they come home, parents become the "second teachers" at home, and children gradually don't want to be with their parents, share or go home.
Therefore, parents should stick to the bottom line in values, but they should be more understanding and considerate in their children's study, and be more warm so that their children are willing to go home.