This law originated from a view of D. Dugan, the former president of the American Football League. He once put forward such a sentence: "the strong are not necessarily winners, but victory belongs to those who have confidence sooner or later." In other words, if you only accept the best, you will often get the best in the end, provided that you have confidence.
This psychological law reminds us that the value of life will have different meanings in different environments. Only when we value ourselves can life have unique meaning and value. And if a person even despises himself, then others will undoubtedly despise you even more.
Cole, known as the "ugly lawyer", explained this law with his own experience.
Cole is a female lawyer, who has won numerous lawsuits for countless clients with profound knowledge, sharp eloquence and aggressive momentum. When people lament her excellent reputation in the industry, what they admire more is her superhuman courage and self-confidence. Yes, Cole's success is based on his strong self-confidence.
One day after Cole went to middle school, he happened to find several small round white spots on his chin. She didn't take it seriously because she didn't feel anything uncomfortable. Unexpectedly, a week later, the white dots turned into pieces. Anxious parents immediately took her to the hospital for examination. The doctor told them that it was only a minor problem and that it could be cured by applying some symptomatic ointment.
However, to everyone's surprise, a month later, her condition became more serious, and terrible changes took place in Cole's body: first, a long blonde hair turned gray and kept falling off, then her right eye tilted downward, her nose twisted to the right, and her right corner of her mouth turned up. Cole's beautiful face is completely distorted.
As a result of the second visit, she suffered from a rare progressive facial atrophy. As the patient grows older, this situation will become more and more serious. The five senses will gradually shrink until they disappear completely, and even the whole face will become a hole because of the shrinkage. The most terrible thing is that there is no cure for this disease at present, and it is a terminal disease.
When Cole heard that the disease was terrible, but it would not endanger the patient's life, his heart was kindled with hope again. She believes that since she enjoys the right to life like others, she must prove the value and significance of her existence through hard work and struggle. Since then, Cole has started his own struggle under the impact of many strange eyes and various taunts.
At that time, Cole was often insulted and laughed at by some classmates because of his appearance. Some boys will deliberately imitate her twisted face; Some students even called her by insulting nicknames such as "crooked nose" and "Pulsatilla". The most terrible thing is not that, but that no one wants to sit at the same table with her-she is ruthlessly isolated from the crowd like a virus. However, in the face of all this, Cole calmly faced it with amazing self-confidence and endurance. In the end, she passed the university with excellent results.
However, after entering the university campus, she is still a "monster" in the eyes of her classmates. No one wants to approach her voluntarily. Some students even publicly protested because the school accepted her and asked the school to expel her. In the face of all this, Cole chose to bear it silently and move forward alone.
In a social psychology class, the teacher asked the students to discuss their ideals. When it was Cole's turn to speak, a boy joked that Cole's ideal must be plastic surgery. Unexpectedly, Cole told him quite seriously: "You are wrong. Plastic surgery can't change the disabilities and defects on my face. My ideal is to be a lawyer. "
Her words attracted more classmates' ridicule, but Cole said seriously and firmly: "I want to be a lawyer to help those poor victims and those unfortunate disabled people who are discriminated against by others." As soon as the voice fell, the whole class was silent. Cole is a man of his word. After graduating from college, through unremitting efforts, she obtained the qualification certificate of professional lawyer.
Now, Cole, who stands calmly in court to defend the client, is used to people's eyes of surprise or fear, because she knows that what matters is not appearance, but a person's inner self. As she said, "My face may disappear one day, but as long as my life is still there, I will continue to prove that the beauty of your appearance is not important, what matters is your confidence and strength in life."
Cole proved the importance of self-confidence to success with his own personal experience. As Herbert, a British scholar, said, "As long as you are confident, there is nothing you can't do. Skills and confidence are an invincible army. "
Self-confidence is very important because it contains psychological hints. A person who keeps telling himself "I can do it" will form a good psychological hint in his heart, be confident when doing things, and then succeed easily.
On the contrary, if a person always doubts himself, he is always asking himself, "Can I do it well? Do I have this ability? " In this way, this negative psychological suggestion will subconsciously remind you that you are not qualified for this job, which will lead to your lack of self-confidence and eventually make you encounter great resistance in your work or life.
If a person wants to succeed, he must first improve his psychological quality and make sure that he can do it from the heart, so that he can be fearless. Of course, as the saying goes, "There are people outside, there are mountains outside". In real life, we can't always be the strongest one, but if we lose confidence, then you will lose the motivation to work hard. On the contrary, once a person believes in himself, his (her) heart will become strong, and he (she) will inevitably take his (her) destiny into his own hands, and then use this confidence to promote life and create miracles.
I believe that many things in the world can be done basically as long as you want to do it. I believe that you can succeed and make unremitting efforts for it. And ignore those contemptuous or malicious and sarcastic gossip. Tell yourself bravely: "You can do it, you can stick to it, you are no worse than others." Such people, sooner or later, will always create their own glory because of their strong self-confidence.