Emperor Gao of Qi in the Southern Dynasties liked calligraphy very much, and he wrote well, but he couldn't catch up with the great calligraphers at that time. Wang Sengqian is a descendant of calligrapher Wang Xizhi, and his calligraphy reached its peak.
One day, Gaudi asked Wang Sengqian to write with him, which meant competing with others. After writing, Emperor Gao of Qi deliberately asked monk Qian, who is the first among us? The monk pondered for a while, then carefully replied, "I rank first among courtiers, and your majesty ranks first among emperors." Gaudi was not angry after hearing this, but proud of it.
Wang Sengqian's appropriate answer is a way of speaking with high emotional intelligence. Such an answer not only saved the emperor's face, but also did not belittle himself, wronged himself and prevented himself from saying those flattering words that violated his conscience.
This kind of dialogue is very classic and has been talked about by people so far.
From a psychological point of view, if a person always wronged himself for others, he would not be respected by others in the end. Because over time, others will think that you are wronged for granted. People with real high emotional intelligence, although modest and low-key, always maintain self-confidence in their bones.
The film "Flowers Like Flowers" made a good box office as soon as it was released, so the whole crew held a celebration banquet in time.
At the banquet, a reporter gave Bo Huang a hard time: Now, can you say that you have surpassed Ge You and become the first person in the new comedy?
Bo Huang, who was talking and laughing, suddenly became serious and said, "There is no transcendence. This era will not stop you from shining, but you can't hide anyone's brilliance. Because he is an epoch-making filmmaker. We are just some younger generations who continue to move forward and dare not make mistakes for this. "
As soon as the voice fell, there was applause.
This kind of answer is neither self-deprecating nor conceited, and it is really admirable to appear confident but not complacent.
It can be said that this way of speaking, which can raise others without belittling oneself, is often adopted by people with high emotional intelligence.
Newton is a world-famous great scientist. He once said, "I succeeded because I stood on the shoulders of giants." This passage is famous, using the above structure. It also shows that people with high emotional intelligence not only affirm others, but also affirm their own psychological quality.
In a word, high EQ is not blindly self-effacing, not drifting with the tide, nor is it harmonious but different. People with high emotional intelligence know how to respect others and themselves. They will never forget to think of others and pave the way for their own lives. Their proper art of speaking often makes both sides feel as happy as the spring breeze.