When writing this title, I touched etiquette education from the depths of my soul after a criticism. Not long ago, I attended an activity, and what Mr. Peng Qingyi, a leading figure in China's speech circle, said when he was angry, opened my eyes and benefited a lot.
China people are notoriously loud and don't know the rules. On the evening of March 14, Guangdong Speech Society held a meeting at Jardine Matheson Hotel, Tongtai Road 1, Baiyun District, Guangzhou, and invited Mr. Peng Qingyi, a leading figure in the speech field, to give a speech. Although the old man is over 80 years old, his speech is full of passion and his tears are flowing downwards. At that time, the old man was giving a speech, and one of the guests communicated with another. Maybe a little loud. Perhaps it is Peng Lao who is disgusted with people doing this. He accused him at the time. In less than five minutes, another guest whispered and was reprimanded by him on the spot. No one dared to offend his old man's house after that. To tell the truth, old people should be angry, but we are used to this phenomenon in our daily life. Because we were close to the old man, his anger frightened Xiaomei around me. Afterwards, she said, "It's dangerous to sit in the front! Scared me to death. "
We will get angry when we are young, but we dare not get angry if we want to on many occasions. Real life is too painful to get angry. Come to think of it carefully, I never seem to get angry in public, because everyone is not serious. Now suddenly seeing a person angry about such a thing is naturally shocking. I thought that if everyone was serious, the society would be much better.
Far from it, there are things about Chou He on the Internet today, and there are things about him on WeChat. When he was the party secretary in Suqian, he found a woman jumping over the road fence. He got out of the car and chased it far. Since then, this woman has never done such a thing. It's just that in life, we were rude for a while, and then we developed the bad habit of not knowing "manners"
Afterwards, old man Peng asked us if he was a little "over" today, and I quickly said, no! In fact, the old man has his own reasons, and the stubborn disease needs strong medicine. I remember he asked who Cang Kejia was at the scene, and asked several intellectuals in succession, including the host and director. Maybe everyone is young and doesn't know who Cang Kejia is. Ask me. I said I knew, and I nodded. He criticized that I should stand up and answer, this is the etiquette of China people, right! I have forgotten to go to "claw melon country".
Peng Lao dares to offend people because he wants nothing. He dares to offend people because he can afford to offend people. He said that after the event, he specially took photos with the people he criticized. After all, it's not for people to see. After dinner, we sent him to his room. He grabbed us and told us his own story. Tell us that in recent years, he helped raise more than 4 million yuan through calligraphy auction-all of which supported public welfare undertakings: most of them were donated to poor students, and his home in Beijing only had a bicycle bought in the 1980s. He is really strange. The little secret bicycles in Beijing are very famous, but none of his bicycles are taken care of by thieves.
When the teacher asks questions, the answer is to stand up. This truth, which even a three-year-old child knows, has been forgotten by people in their thirties and forties. Do you really respect people calling themselves teachers? We always say that the Japanese are so fucking hypocritical that they bow their heads as soon as they meet. Yes, we are a country of etiquette, and we are not hypocritical. When we meet people we have known for a long time, sometimes others don't know them. What can we do? Can we still call it etiquette?
Yes, it can be said that there are many people and the population density is higher than that of Japan. I once took a bus in Hong Kong and found that everyone was consciously queuing! Many of our cities have become more and more beautiful in recent years, but which one can do this in software? ! Don't talk about objective reasons! Starting from me, starting from small things, I am the foundation of everything. On the way back, the chairman of Guangzhou Decai Education told a little thing that happened at the scene. At that time, the waiter poured water and broke a cup As a result, only the big one was picked up, but not the small one (leaving aside the responsibility of the waiter for the time being). When she found it, she bent down and carefully picked up a few small pieces. She said: "There were many old people attending the dinner party. The ground was wet and rainy that night. What if the old man accidentally fell and just held it down? "
I didn't think about whose responsibility it was, but squatted down and carefully picked up the broken glass. When she finished picking them up, she didn't forget to say, "Be careful, don't prick your hand. It is best to wrap it in paper before putting it in the trash can. " We can understand the first sentence, but I don't understand the second, so I asked her why. She said, what if the cleaner accidentally catches his hand and hurts it? So ask the waiter to wrap it up. At this time, I realized why Chairman Luo's grade is light, and the company is getting bigger and bigger, getting better and better! Can a person who thinks so carefully and deeply about such a small thing fail? !
Everything is considerate of others, others think of one step, she thinks of two steps and three steps, and she will definitely think further when she meets something, which makes me really admire. Because we are friends, when we have dinner with Chairman Luo, she always helps us bring food and water, and finally pays the bill. This often makes me feel embarrassed. She said, "Helping others has become my habit. Friends often get together and can't add burden to others. " I always like to hear her talk about people and things from other places or abroad. "
Excellence is a habit. Then, she talked about growing up with her grandmother when she was a child, and she was often asked to do whatever she wanted. If she doesn't do this, she will be beaten. She didn't want her parents to know, but later she developed the habit of loving her work and being helpful. When she grew up, she was very grateful to her grandmother. She often chats with us and says, "Except when I was a student, those who often dare to criticize us after entering the society are our closest relatives or close friends. The value of criticism is more education and guidance! " The key point is that people now misunderstand others and regard their criticism as offensive. In fact, there is no internal connection between the two, but now people's ideas are crooked.
Chairman Luo's words gave me an epiphany. Indeed, Peng Lao's accusation is obviously guidance and education, which makes us more reasonable and understand manners, but it only makes us pick up what we learned when we were children. Today, when I was writing this article in the office, I met two or three colleagues. They talked to me and asked me questions. I immediately stood up and stopped sitting in a chair talking like before!
Learning, learning, you need to ask while learning, while asking while learning, life is full of learning, endless experience, endless learning; This sentence of 80-year-old Peng Lao often reminds me! (Text/Xiao Jin)