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Although it was polygamy in ancient times, it was nothing for men with a little status to have wives in groups; However, selfish love by nature cannot tolerate the intrusion of external forces at any time. This allusion of jealousness and jealousy can be seen everywhere in the notes of ancient literati. What is particularly surprising is how those "strange girls" with brains and scheming use their unique "unique tricks" to prevent their husbands from "keeping mistresses" and defend the personal dignity of disadvantaged women. There is a poem about "Chen's wife" in Gu Jielun's Guo Ya Pin in Ming Dynasty, which is a portrayal of "the post-gifted scholar and beautiful woman era": It is said that Chen wants to abandon his wife and marry a concubine, and his wife wrote a poem "Seeing off her husband" when she was sad: "A new person is like a flower, it is better to weave hemp than an old one. Weaving hemp can be used as a shirt, and flowers bloom in front of you. " Of course, this kind of poem can't impress an possessed husband. A pair of birthday couplets reads "more than rice, tea is the phase." These eight words can be changed into reflections on life. In the choice of spirit and material, "rice" began in Taiyuan, which is simply incompatible with a beautiful woman with eyebrows like distant mountains and a face like lotus flowers. "Tea" means "going to the kitchen and going to the hall", which is more suitable for the vanity taste of talented people and beautiful women.

When marriage is in crisis, no beautiful wife can win the heart of a talented husband. Guan Daosheng, a famous girl, belongs to a beautiful woman in Xing Wu, Zhejiang. She married Zhao Mengfu, a calligrapher, in the 24th year of Yuan Dynasty. It is said that this housekeeper is not only beautiful in appearance, but also brilliant in poetry and calligraphy. I didn't expect her husband to find another lover What can women do? If you can't fight, you can't scold, and if you are hard, you can't be soft. You can only write a few sad poems to influence it: "My husband went to Japan to grow bamboo, and bamboo became Lin Jun's future. If the jade looks good, it is better to bloom again. " Is this surrender? Obviously, I am mourning for myself. The beauty's capital is lost, the love of the talented person is gone, and a myth envied by the world is about to die. This tragedy was doomed from the beginning. What is the content of two of a kind? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but this is only the first way, not the transformation of marriage. One day, Jiang Lang will run out of talent and become old and faded. What shall we do? Talented people and beautiful women will die young.

The Analects of Confucius says, "Poetry can be complicated." "Xing" means moving people's hearts. Although beautiful women are versatile and have excellent poems and songs, trying to win back the "heartbreaker" in this way has little effect. There is a story in Yuan Mei's Poems with the Garden in Qing Dynasty:

A friend of Wang Mengduan secretly married a concubine in Beijing. They are inseparable and happy. The man has already left his original wife at home and left it behind. Seeing that the situation was not good, Wang Mengduan immediately stepped forward to mediate. He wrote a poem and gave it to this friend: "The new flower branch is better than the wine flower branch, and there is no intention of parting from now on." Do you know Qinhuai tonight? Some people return to relative numbers. " It's really a key and a lock. It's not bad for people who spend a lot of time hugging mistresses every day to shed tears of repentance. They immediately "returned with their concubines" and hurried back to their hometown for reunion with their beautiful young wives.

In fact, it is better to die outside and never come back clean! How will the husband who is looking for a new lover face the beautiful women who will return to Qinhuai in the next few months? At this time, the marriage is still there, but the kindness is not as good as before. Just like a beautiful vase, once it is broken, even if it is barely glued and not dismembered, the crack will never be bridged. The marriage covered with cracks is painfully deadlocked only by moral strength.

Fortunately, Zhao Mengfu's wife changed a clever trick. She went from sighing to seducing on purpose. "Old Beauty" has hit the soft spot of sentimentality of gifted scholars, and it is a good idea to bring back the dead. According to Jiang Yikui's Collection Outside Yaoshan Hall in Ming Dynasty, Guan Furen once wrote a very famous poem "I Nong Ci", which correctly answered the husband who was about to take a concubine:

"You nong nong, te evil spirit. A lot of feelings, in full swing. Put a piece of mud, twist you and shape me. Break us together and mix with water. Pinch another you and shape another me. I got you into the mire, and you got me into the mire. I was born with you and died with you. "

Guan Furen pinched clay figurines with ulterior motives in her poems, but she forgot that a talented person can pinch with a beautiful woman like you or other beautiful women. Being "in the same bed" after death does not mean that we were only "in the same bed" before death. Charming is the nature of talented scholars. Is it too extravagant to ask him to be faithful to his life? "When flowers bloom, people are in power", and beauty is like spring leeks. After cutting one crop after another, how can there be immortal "The Story of Diesim" and immortal "Beauty"? Both talent and appearance begin with accidental luck, but there is not necessarily happiness. Let's go and pinch the clay figurine, well done, and be United as one; I screwed up, or I lost my heart, I didn't hug it, or I simply "died and left with someone." Once that happens, no one in society will care about those poor old mandarin ducks for a long time. It is the nature of all spectators to like the new and hate the old.