Didn't there be a survey on the average total expenditure of raising a child to 18 years old some time ago? The result of the survey is that it costs more than 300,000 yuan, which is 6.9 times of GDP per capita, ranking second in Korea. Beijing, Shanghai and other big cities are even higher, and the per capita training cost reaches more than 6.5438+0 million. These expenses are only the expenses of children 18 years old, not counting the expenses of going to college and part of the funds needed to form a family.
I belong to the post-80 s. When I was a child, my family was poor, and I hardly attended any other training courses except the calligraphy class. Speaking of my children's generation, although it is not allowed to make up lessons after class now, many parents will tighten their belts to sign up for their children as long as they are interested in hip-hop, taekwondo, art, dance, music, sports and other interest classes, because they think that their children will participate in group activities to display their talents in the future, and other children will write dances, guzheng level 9, drum performances and so on. I'll give them to you today after their children come to power. Few parents want to experience this kind of sadness.
In addition to economic pressure, time cost is also an important factor. You have to raise children when you are born. The most important thing in raising children is to set an example. Parents need to spare more time to spend with their children instead of simply giving birth to elderly parents. This is basically an extravagant hope for young people around the age of 30 who are in the golden age of the workplace and "enjoy 996 blessings" or even "5+2, white+black" every day.
Our generation grew up with the slogan "fewer healthy children and a happy life". This slogan is still ringing in my ears, and suddenly it has become "having more children, benefiting the country and the people". I'm going to be confused for a while!
Why didn't five or six children at home be afraid before, but now two children are afraid to have children?
There was no work, life and mental stress before. Don't worry about seeing a doctor, going to school, housing, getting married, and especially unemployment.
In the past, children went to school every day and parents didn't have to pick them up. When I grow up, marriage is not as vulgar as it is now, whether it is introduction or free love. Most women pursue pure love, soldiers, model workers and advanced producers. The money for marriage is almost the same, so it doesn't matter.
Unlike now, when money is not in place, I refuse to get married. Compare with each other, mostly not for the purpose of love and affection, but for the standard of money. In the past, 90% pursued the truth, but now 90% pursued real money and silver.
All of the above are just the opposite of what is said now. Therefore, with so many children in life, we should first consider the problems of children going to kindergarten, going to school, seeing a doctor, housing, getting married and so on.
Now the job is unstable. What if one spouse loses his job? ...
I didn't pay so much attention to raising children before, and children are also the labor force at home when they grow up. Now when children grow up, they have to go to the city to buy a car and a house, which is very stressful.
This is influenced by the form of the times, and there was no family planning before. Living conditions were not good at that time. At that time, people's food, clothing, housing and transportation were not as good as now, but it was much more convenient to have children.
At that time, the collective economic life was a supply system, distributed according to the head. It seems to belong to the country, helping individuals raise children. At that time, there was not much difference between living conditions and family income, so there was nothing to be jealous of. Very normal mentality, let nature take its course, no worries, and no worries about having a few children.
It's different now. With the rapid development of society, great changes have taken place in people's lives. People's thinking has also undergone great changes. People have different pursuits. The change of the real system has gradually widened the gap in people's lives and increased the pressure. The phenomenon of comparison is serious, which will also make people feel pressure in life. So it's too expensive to have children now, and I can't afford it, and I dare not regenerate.
Now living conditions determine the idea of having children.
Because I used to raise it casually, but now I raise it with my heart.
Usually, the more open-minded and less educated families are, the more children will be born, because they believe that "more people make things easier" and they also pursue "prosperity of people"; Some people even hold the psychology of probability theory: there are many students, and there is always one who can develop well and help the family. However, the fact is often the opposite. The more children there are, especially parents who don't have good parenting ability and ideology, it will only add more burden to the family.
Now the two children are afraid to have children because everyone is more and more educated, more and more independent, and more and more aware of the responsibility of raising children. It takes a lot of time, money and energy to make children grow up, rather than being born casually.
In addition, the economic level and customs of society have also changed greatly. Giving birth to a child is no longer an easy task. Some worry less, some worry more.
In the past, raising children was to prevent old age, but now raising children is to eat old age. One is ok, the other is ok. At the current income level, gnawing at bones, dare to live?
In the past, it was raised collectively,
Now, little emperor.
Very demanding.
In the past, children were called free-range, hungry and not frozen, and they ate nutritious food and dressed beautifully. In the past, children only paid tuition and miscellaneous fees for school, as long as they paid it this semester. After the former children joined the work, the marriage unit was assigned a room, and when they were sick, they went to the hospital with a transfer form for full reimbursement. Is it all right now?